‘I want to come home to a home cooked dinner @ 6 every night

It's no problem at all, if you think women should be kept barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

We have a complete right to think other people's lifestyle choices are sucky. Republicans have been doing it for generations.

Yes, you can "think" that.  But then, stop berating others who "think" gay marriage is an abomination, or illegal immigrants should be deported etc.

Democrats have been touting their own right to speak their opinions while berating others who disagree with them for doing the same thing for generations.

Democrats (and liberals) tout their belief for tolerance of other view points and then are shocked and outraged that others may actually have other view points.

Just as another's gay marriage affects no one but the people involved, this guy's desire for a particular type of wife affects no one but himself and his wife.  Do women's rights to do as they please only apply when the women think like you do?  (rhetorical question; I know the answer)

"The statement is a full-page rant blasting feminists and blaming former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton’s failed presidential run on millennial women who “look at her personal life’s wreckage and didn’t want to become like her.” Sykes, without defining how exactly “radical” feminists define modern womanhood, says feminists made up the definition of modern womanhood “to suit their own nasty, snake-filled heads.”

In an addition to an assault on women’s rights, Sykes mounts an assault on all accepted grammatical standards when he outlines his ideal life for his own someday daughters, bless their poor hearts.

“I don’t want them to grow up into career obsessed banshees who forego home life and children and the happiness of family to become nail-biting manphobic hell-bent feminist she devils who shriek from the tops of a thousand tall buildings they think they could they are [sic] think they could have leaped over in a single bound — had men not ‘suppressing them’ [sic]. It’s just nuts. It always was.”

Well....I guess maybe that explains his supporters - women with nasty, snake filled heads. Or career obsessed banshees need not apply.

I agree. Not my choice of lifestyle but I have a few friends (Christian, some democratic, some repubblican, some down the middle) who have very traditional marriages and they are quite happy. If that is what you want and if it makes you happy, cool!

Now while I am a sahm by choice and due to the circumstances given to me with 2 medical asd kids, dh does not expect dinner at a specific time each night because that is not who he is. He sees and values me more than a woman slave.

I do however to choose to cook homemade meals almost every night because I enjoy it and I see it as a way to help dh and the kids.

Hey, if he can find someone who wants that set up, more power to them both. Consenting adults and all that.

But his overall lack of respect for women is troublesome for someone aspiring to be a lawmaker.

Ugh. I'll bite. Take one for the team. I'm also going to pretend that "what's the problem" is not rhetorical and you actually want to have a conversation about what the problem is. Okay? Deal? 

It's sexist. If you want to be in a relationship with a  sexist, then yes, go be with your sexist partner. The one who will have only his daughters learn to fix meals. His sons, will not fix dinner. Maybe he will on the 7th night - maybe. But you are a smart lady, certainly you had to believe that there is something just a bit more to this conversation... Right? Or were you just looking to fight? Let me continue...  To be a woman with any ambition to be anything other than a homemaker is to have a head full of snakes. So... sure, if you want to marry this guy then YES! Do it! But, this guy is planning on becoming a representative of our country. The one who makes the laws, sets the scene back 50 years. Hindering the progress of women has been proven to be detrimental for society. Not a lot of stay at home moms are curing cancer or creating miracles. Sure, he can have any belief that he wants and I hope he surrounds himself with the kind of people he wants - it is after all what we do as humans. But his beliefs are a threat to my abilities and those abilities of my daughters when he puts them into an election campaign. What would your life be if you hadn't been allowed to go to law school? Hopefully that helps you understand "what's the problem?" at least from my perspective. 

As you point out the hypocritical nature of this conversation below, I'd also like your team to defend how "Muslim ideals are bad" but still defend this style of thinking in America. How about the "sanctity" of marriage with a thrice divorced president? How about "we care for all children" when in reality it means unborn children? 

1.  Not looking to fight as you ask.  simply advocating a "live and let live" philosophy.

2.  As I said in the previous post,  if he tries to enact legislation that hinders women, then yes, I agree that's a problem.  BUT, the mere fact that he thinks this way doesn't mean he will do this.  I'd need to hear his platform rather than relying on the fact that he wishes for certain things from his fiance or the women in his own life.

3.  Never went to law school; you're clearly jumping on the "she must be Lauren" bandwagon.

4.  I have no problem with Muslim ideals as long as they are not forced on me or legislated (same as I feel about this guy)

5.  You seem to feel that because a person holds on to certain values, they must subscribe to every value you perceive to go hand-in-hand with those values.  This is a fallacy in logic.

6.  Personally, I couldn't care less how often someone else is married.  I care about myself and my marriage.  It is important to me that I not have an affair and it is important to me that my spouse not have one.  I still believe in the sanctity of marriage.  My thoughts here are not mutually exclusive.

7.  Your last comment about children conflates too many issues to address in the manner you seem to want me to address them.  

One thing to consider: ironically, some of the best leaders in history were rotten husbands/fathers and some of the best husbands/fathers were the worst or most ineffectual leaders.

Apparently, Julieotte, your lifestyle choice is sucky and people should be free to tell you so.

It’s a phrase.

If you're doing it because you want to/enjoy it then that isn't a problem. If you're doing it because your husband dictates that you do it because, ya know, that's your place then that, is a problem.

Party of family values?


It doesn't matter to me how he lives or with whom, but don't tell me how to live or with whom!

Agreed.  But, he can have his thoughts and beliefs and is as free to express them as you are free to express your opposing belief.