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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 18:20:48 GMT
I've already explained how I feel and why I won't be watching the videos. You don't respect my choice and got all WTF?!!!! dramatic which is perfectly fine by pea standards. I'm hearing you say you disagree with me about my personal choice to not watch the victimization of black men by white management weaponizing the police AND my personal opinion about what allyship looks like. It doesn't look like someone speaking up or motioning to dozens of other people to intervene while I am walked away in handcuffs Well, you really have no idea what it looks like because you won't watch the video. Your option, of course, but it gives me little incentive to listen to what you have to say. You've described what it looked like so much so I don't have to watch the video. Clearly it was simply him voicing his concerns about how unfair the arrest was. Not enough by my standards as I clearly and respectfully explained. Also I havent asked you to listen to what I have to say and won't taken any offense if you don't participate in my future threads. edit: Clearly and respectfully explained my stance....despite the disrespect being shown to me. The audacity 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/117459/olanWhat kind of educator is this resistant to historically accurate information? What subject matter does she teach? Look through the threads I’ve authored and see the consistent energy she brought to every discussion. So are we to believe she brings a different type of energy to the classroom? How many Frazier’s has she taught throughout her career? No one else finds that incredibly sad? 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/110444/black-people
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Post by MizIndependent on Apr 16, 2018 18:34:38 GMT
Olan - So...help me understand here... You are advocating for a course of action to take place (bystanders defending innocent African-Americans) when said action actually DID take place. You don't actively acknowledge this happened because you will not watch the video that you posted.Further... Melissa DePino, (woman who videoed the incident) actively spread this on social media which brought national media attention not only to this incident but also to this issue as a whole. Her video has been viewed over 4 million times as of 14APR. Does that about cover it? Starbucks way overreacted...OBVIOUSLY. The police responded to the Starbucks complaint - they failed when they refused to listen to all the bystanders giving their eye-witness accounts and just followed through with arresting. These two men probably have actionable cause to sue the city pd and Starbucks for profiling and possibly more. I hope they pursue that course and hopefully get justice. ETA: I wonder if the knee-jerk reaction by both Starbucks and the Philly PD have anything to do with the fact that "Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, had 46.8 violent crimes per 10,000 residents" and is #19 on Forbes " The most violent city in every US state, according to the FBI".
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 18:42:30 GMT
money.cnn.com/2018/04/16/news/companies/starbucks-ceo-apology/index.htmlStarbucks called it "unconscious bias". How this thread went down for posterity sake: Listen Olan I refuse to stand between an officer and innocent black men?!?? WTF?!!! You don't want to watch your people victimized on video again and again? !!! Are you kidding!??!! You don't want a discussion! Olan : I'm okay if you don't agree with me. What does allyship look like to you? I haven't watched a full video because I think watching the videos of black men being killed on dash cam or arrested for simply existing is a way of conditioning us to accept this treatment. I know people complain because it seems I am always screaming "do more" when really black Americans are actually saying do something, anything. No one has time for ineffectiveness when it's life or death. Actionable change. Also stop calling the police. How many of you will join black Americans in boycotting Starbucks?*crickets* I get it. You like your lattes. LOL
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Post by dewryce on Apr 16, 2018 19:10:13 GMT
Olan how do you feel, in this specific situation where everyone is calm, someone inserting themselves physically into the situation would have played out? Do you think it could escalate the emotions and situation? And if so, is that an acceptable outcome for you based on the importance of the statement it would have made? I'm trying to understand where you are coming from. If the end goal is less police brutality towards POC I don't see how potentially escalating a sitation that, while obviously discriminatory, is not exhibiting any signs of violence will help. If the end goal is white people standing up for POC in a way that you feel is more impactful, then I see what you're saying, although I don't personally agree with your take in this specific situation. Which is fine and I understand if you couldn't give two figs about my opinion on your take
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 19:23:14 GMT
Olan how do you feel, in this specific situation where everyone is calm, someone inserting themselves physically into the situation would have played out? Do you think it could escalate the emotions and situation? And if so, is that an acceptable outcome for you based on the importance of the statement it would have made? I'm trying to understand where you are coming from. If the end goal is less police brutality towards POC I don't see how potentially escalating a sitation that, while obviously discriminatory, is not exhibiting any signs of violence will help. If the end goal is white people standing up for POC then I see what you're saying, although I don't personally agree with your take in this specific situation. Which is fine and I understand that you could give two fis about my opinion on your take Someone asked above what I thought might happen if Andrew Yaffe or another witness physically intervened. I believe the white men would have just been arrested as well. What do you think allyship would have looked like in this case? In the past how have white people helped black people fight for Civil Rights? In 20 years do you think society will look back on what's happening now and think they did "enough" to prevent the continued mistreatment of black bodies? Also, the end goal isn't less police brutality but a complete end. The history of racial violence between police and black Americans has long been documented and researched. We know the bias exists. You've seen the number of black men killed by police in recent years? Are you okay with that? Should absolutely nothing be done? I've asked several times what allyship looks like to the peas. Would anyone like to tackle that instead of asking me the same question again and again? Allyship DOES NOT LOOK LIKE YOUR BLACK FRIENDS BEING LEAD AWAY IN HANDCUFFS WHILE YOU LAMENT ABOUT HOW UNFAIR LIFE IS. I don't need anyone to agree with me or even see my perspective. I said what I said. You say that the incident showed no signs of racial violence and while the men aren't being roughed up or shot in the back on dash cam, we do know that interactions between police and innocent black men have resulted in a black family losing their loved one. The stakes are high. Knowing that sad fact and still calling the police means America is again using scare tactics on its black citizens. Just as it did when public lynchings were acceptable. This is no different. If you do nothing you are just as much to blame.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 16, 2018 20:06:39 GMT
Thank you for answering part of my question. Are you okay with someone physically inserting themselves if it has the potential of escalating a completely non-violent incident?
No, I'm not okay with the number of black men being killed by police ever, much less in recent years. And not only have I not suggested that I am, I told you what I would have done. Which, while not physically intervening like you think should have happened, is also not nothing.
Also, I'm not not trying to see your perspective for you. I'm doing it for myself.
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Post by MizIndependent on Apr 16, 2018 20:18:39 GMT
Olan how do you feel, in this specific situation where everyone is calm, someone inserting themselves physically into the situation would have played out? Do you think it could escalate the emotions and situation? And if so, is that an acceptable outcome for you based on the importance of the statement it would have made? I'm trying to understand where you are coming from. If the end goal is less police brutality towards POC I don't see how potentially escalating a sitation that, while obviously discriminatory, is not exhibiting any signs of violence will help. If the end goal is white people standing up for POC then I see what you're saying, although I don't personally agree with your take in this specific situation. Which is fine and I understand that you could give two fis about my opinion on your take Someone asked above what I thought might happen if Andrew Yaffe or another witness physically intervened. I believe the white men would have just been arrested as well. What do you think allyship would have looked like in this case? In the past how have white people helped black people fight for Civil Rights? In 20 years do you think society will look back on what's happening now and think they did "enough" to prevent the continued mistreatment of black bodies? Also, the end goal isn't less police brutality but a complete end. The history of racial violence between police and black Americans has long been documented and researched. We know the bias exists. You've seen the number of black men killed by police in recent years? Are you okay with that? Should absolutely nothing be done? I've asked several times what allyship looks like to the peas. Would anyone like to tackle that instead of asking me the same question again and again? Allyship DOES NOT LOOK LIKE YOUR BLACK FRIENDS BEING LEAD AWAY IN HANDCUFFS WHILE YOU LAMENT ABOUT HOW UNFAIR LIFE IS. I don't need anyone to agree with me or even see my perspective. I said what I said. You say that the incident showed no signs of racial violence and while the men aren't being roughed up or shot in the back on dash cam, we do know that interactions between police and innocent black men have resulted in a black family losing their loved one. The stakes are high. Knowing that sad fact and still calling the police means America is again using scare tactics on its black citizens. Just as it did when public lynchings were acceptable. This is no different. If you do nothing you are just as much to blame. No one in this thread is "okay" with any of this. No one in this thread thinks "absolutely nothing" should be done. You seem to think it is reasonable to escalate a situation which very likely could result in actual violence on the innocent men at the center of the arrest and on the innocent bystanders as well. You seem perfectly okay with that as long as "allyship" (by your definition) occurs. You won't recognize that people DID and DO and CONTINUE TO stand up for those being harassed and abused by the police, etc. The police were called to remove trespassers - they were doing their job. They did their job without violence because no one in the situation gave them cause to use violence: ETA: The trespass report was called in by a low-level Starbucks employee who was probably strictly adhering to their "you can't use the bathrooms if you don't buy something first" policy. Found this very interesting comment on Reddit: It's really easy for you to sit in judgement but what you don't get is that WE ALL AGREE WITH YOU ALREADY yet you keep beating us over the head as if we were the ones standing in Starbucks.
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Post by happymomma on Apr 16, 2018 20:26:24 GMT
Step in between cops making an arrest? What could possibly go wrong? I'm not doing that for anyone, white, black or purple. Friend, parent, child or stranger. It's a damn good way to get killed, for starters.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 20:28:43 GMT
Thank you for answering part of my question. Are you okay with someone physically inserting themself if it has the potential of escalating a completely non-violent incident? No, I'm not okay with the number of black men being killed by police ever, much less in recent years. And not only have I not suggested that I am, I told you what I would have done. Which, while not physically intervening like you think should have happened, is also not nothing. *Also, I'm not not trying to see your perspective for you. I'm doing it for myself. I'm unsure of what you mean by this but whatever lights a fire under the ass of white women to see that this isn't just a black woman problem is fine by me. Your perspective. Mine. I don't care. Trayvon Martin is dead. Tamir Rice is dead. And Brennan's mom almost had to call her Army Ranger husband and tell him he needs to come home to bury their child. This, all because white people refuse to get their shit together! The narrative would have been thug/punk kid vs firefighter hero. Ziegler pretty much sainted himself in court when he told the judge he saved three children from a burning building but neglected to mention that road rage case *rolls eyes*. The fact that things like this continue to happen or are happening at all is indicative of my stance that whatever society is doing isn't enough. No one should argue that. We can all stop focusing on what I think allyship looks like because as much as the peas try to silence or deflect from the issues I post, we should all be able to unanimously agree no one really cares what I think allyship should look like any damn way. Equal Justice Initiative Opening Lynching Memorial
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Post by tracylynn on Apr 16, 2018 20:33:15 GMT
Do you think the outcome of the men being cuffed and escorted out of the premises would have been different had the white man physically blocked the police rather than arguing their case from the side? I believe the white men would have just been arrested as well. What do you think allyship would have looked like in this case? In the past how have white people helped black people fight for Civil Rights? In 20 years do you think society will look back on what's happening now and think they did "enough" to prevent the continued mistreatment of black bodies? You accuse white people of painting the same broad brushstroke when it comes to black people, but I wonder if you realize that you do the same thing towards white people? You can google and find a number of stories of how white people helped in the fight for Civil Rights. Interestingly enough, I also found this article from Jan 2016 explaining what "black space" is when it comes to marches and protests. To quote the (black) author of the article " It's a polite way of saying, "This is a black movement and whites are not welcome." It seems as if we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. Chicago Tribune article
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Post by dewryce on Apr 16, 2018 20:37:19 GMT
I don't understand the confusion. I am asking if you think a bystander should physically insert themselves between a police officer and someone he is arresting when the whole exchange has been completely calm and non-violent up until that point, knowing that by doing so you are potentially escalating the situation and people (including the person being arrested) could end up mistreated or hurt.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 20:42:44 GMT
I believe the white men would have just been arrested as well. What do you think allyship would have looked like in this case? In the past how have white people helped black people fight for Civil Rights? In 20 years do you think society will look back on what's happening now and think they did "enough" to prevent the continued mistreatment of black bodies? You accuse white people of painting the same broad brushstroke when it comes to black people, but I wonder if you realize that you do the same thing towards white people? You can google and find a number of stories of how white people helped in the fight for Civil Rights. Interestingly enough, I also found this article from Jan 2016 explaining what "black space" is when it comes to marches and protests. To quote the (black) author of the article " It's a polite way of saying, "This is a black movement and whites are not welcome." It seems as if we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. Chicago Tribune articleI've said this before. I can't paint a picture if you don't sit still for the portrait. I asked how white people helped fight for Civil Rights not because I couldn't google myself or because I was insinuating that white people had done nothing to help the cause. I was just trying to inspire some critical thinking skills. That way in 20 years no one will be able to say they didn't know what allyship looked like. Glad you were able to see instances where white men and women joined forces with the disenfranchised for no other reason but to make strides in society. We are all much weaker when one group is demonized. Especially when it's not warranted. Regarding Black spaces need to exist but no one is telling you there is no room for you. If you want to debate me instead of just agreeing to disagree one has to wonder how down for the cause you are anyway.
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Post by tracylynn on Apr 16, 2018 20:42:51 GMT
I don't understand the confusion. I am asking if you think a bystander should physically insert themselves between a police officer and someone he is arresting when the whole exchange has been completely calm and non-violent up until that point, knowing that by doing so you are potentially escalating the situation and people (including the person being arrested) could end up mistreated or hurt. Based on everything she's said, I believe her answer is Yes. Because I'm not sure what else "do more" means in this situation.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 20:44:52 GMT
I don't understand the confusion. I am asking if you think a bystander should physically insert themselves between a police officer and someone he is arresting when the whole exchange has been completely calm and non-violent up until that point, knowing that by doing so you are potentially escalating the situation and people (including the person being arrested) could end up mistreated or hurt. I put a * by the confusing part. I understood your question and already addressed it. No need for you to tackle what allyship looks like to you. Then this would be a discussion. Have a great day.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 20:45:50 GMT
Now that you have some inspiration what could you personally do to eradicate racism or affect change in your small part of the world?
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Post by tracylynn on Apr 16, 2018 20:49:08 GMT
You accuse white people of painting the same broad brushstroke when it comes to black people, but I wonder if you realize that you do the same thing towards white people? You can google and find a number of stories of how white people helped in the fight for Civil Rights. Interestingly enough, I also found this article from Jan 2016 explaining what "black space" is when it comes to marches and protests. To quote the (black) author of the article " It's a polite way of saying, "This is a black movement and whites are not welcome." It seems as if we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. Chicago Tribune articleI've said this before. I can't paint a picture if you don't sit still for the portrait. I asked how white people helped fight for Civil Rights not because I couldn't google myself or because I was insinuating that white people had done nothing to help the cause. I was just trying to inspire some critical thinking skills. That way in 20 years no one will be able to say they didn't know what allyship looked like. Glad you were able to see instances where white men and women joined forces with the disenfranchised for no other reason but to make strides in society. We are all much weaker when one group is demonized. Especially when it's not warranted. Regarding Black spaces need to exist but no one is telling you there is no room for you. If you want to debate me instead of just agreeing to disagree one has to wonder how down for the cause you are anyway. It's like arguing with a brick wall. The article clearly states there ARE black people telling white people there is no room for "you". It's pretty simple english language. Isn't the whole point of your posts to bring up conversation and debate? You can wonder how down with the cause I am all you want, it doesn't take away anything from myself, what I think and feel and where I really stand despite your thoughts on me. I really wish the point of your postings were more about open dialogue, because I honestly think it would serve your point of view so much better and we would see less of this decisiveness that always accompanies your threads.
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Post by MizIndependent on Apr 16, 2018 20:55:04 GMT
Now that you have some inspiration what could you personally do to eradicate racism or affect change in your small part of the world? That you assume I'm not doing anything is just insulting - which is probably your intention given how you choose to conduct yourself. You still will not acknowledge anything. You point, accuse, incite - that is all. That is the only thing you do - divide and shit-stir. You have lost all credibility with me.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 20:57:03 GMT
I've said this before. I can't paint a picture if you don't sit still for the portrait. I asked how white people helped fight for Civil Rights not because I couldn't google myself or because I was insinuating that white people had done nothing to help the cause. I was just trying to inspire some critical thinking skills. That way in 20 years no one will be able to say they didn't know what allyship looked like. Glad you were able to see instances where white men and women joined forces with the disenfranchised for no other reason but to make strides in society. We are all much weaker when one group is demonized. Especially when it's not warranted. Regarding Black spaces need to exist but no one is telling you there is no room for you. If you want to debate me instead of just agreeing to disagree one has to wonder how down for the cause you are anyway. It's like arguing with a brick wall. The article clearly states there ARE black people telling white people there is no room for "you". It's pretty simple english language. Isn't the whole point of your posts to bring up conversation and debate? You can wonder how down with the cause I am all you want, it doesn't take away anything from myself, what I think and feel and where I really stand despite your thoughts on me. I really wish the point of your postings were more about open dialogue, because I honestly think it would serve your point of view so much better and we would see less of this decisiveness that always accompanies your threads. Thanks Tracy. I'm going to have to stop responding to you and another pea in this thread. Maybe an open dialogue between you and I just isn't possible. I feel like I've answered your questions and I've certainly shared that no one has to agree with me 100%. Still, you seem stuck and/or argumentative. I'm not in that space. All the best to you.
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Post by Clair on Apr 16, 2018 20:57:58 GMT
The sad truth is that the police never would have been called if these were two white men.
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Post by MizIndependent on Apr 16, 2018 21:06:24 GMT
It's like arguing with a brick wall. The article clearly states there ARE black people telling white people there is no room for "you". It's pretty simple english language. Isn't the whole point of your posts to bring up conversation and debate? You can wonder how down with the cause I am all you want, it doesn't take away anything from myself, what I think and feel and where I really stand despite your thoughts on me. I really wish the point of your postings were more about open dialogue, because I honestly think it would serve your point of view so much better and we would see less of this decisiveness that always accompanies your threads. Thanks Tracy. I'm going to have to stop responding to you and another pea in this thread. Maybe an open dialogue between you and I just isn't possible. I feel like I've answered your questions and I've certainly shared that no one has to agree with me 100%. Still, you seem stuck and/or argumentative. I'm not in that space. All the best to you. Honestly, I don't think you are interested in "open dialogue". You seem chiefly interested in using this forum as your own personal whipping post. I'm not having it anymore.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 16, 2018 21:10:00 GMT
I don't understand the confusion. I am asking if you think a bystander should physically insert themselves between a police officer and someone he is arresting when the whole exchange has been completely calm and non-violent up until that point, knowing that by doing so you are potentially escalating the situation and people (including the person being arrested) could end up mistreated or hurt. I put a * by the confusing part. I understood your question and already addressed it. No need for you to tackle what allyship looks like to you. Then this would be a discussion. Have a great day. I can't find where you discussed that aspect of the question, specifically the risking physical harm to the arrestee. Would you mind showing me or just telling me again? I keep asking because I am having a hard time seeing how making a decision that could potentially put someone else in physical jeopardy is a good thing. But maybe it is and I'm just not seeing it. I hypothesized why someone might think the risk was worth it in my first post, but thought you might disagree or have more to add. I did did address what being an ally looks like to me, in my first post. As I indicated, in this situation I would not get physically involved, but if my information and statement wasn't taken I would follow them to the police station to make sure the wrongly accused had witnesses for their defense. And now, after thinking about it more, I would write down my information and hand it to them myself if possible. And as much as you're trying to suggest that I'm not, I actually am trying to have a discussion with you as evidenced by my asking a question and looking for clarification when I don't feel that you answered it. I am trying to look at it and understand a dissenting point of view, and maybe to learn something new. And I've provided my thoughts and opinions. See? Discussion. You, on the other hand, are being very dismissive.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 21:15:16 GMT
The sad truth is that the police never would have been called if these were two white men. And when does culpability start for police using good judgment? Every profession has best practices and evaluates the need for change should those best practices begin to adversely affect either the company or individuals. When a black citizen is holding a cell phone in his/her hand we allow police to make a judgment call that leads to their demise but in this instance, the law is just the law. Washington DC will require LEO to take a black history course. Community Policing “We start at 6 a.m. for three hours of lectures that go from Africa to present day. For three hours after which, we walk here and we begin our tour at 9:30 in the morning until 3:30 in the afternoon,” said professor Bernard Demczuk. “We also take officers on to a U Street tour where we spend four or five hours in the Shaw community examining police brutality, examining history, examining the black Mecca of America, Washington, D.C. and the black Broadway along U Street; and the officers get a real good sense of D.C. history, D.C. policing and how we here are changing policing in America,” Demczuk said. “The community is more diverse, more cultural. You have to be more aware of that and police that way. You know, everybody wants to be heard and has a different story; and everybody is not the same,” said Master Police officer Curtis Coleman, who trains cadets at the D.C. Police Academy. Coleman is one of a few officers who goes through the training with the groups of civilian and sworn officers — often comprising those both new to the department and others further along in their careers. “They can give you some history of what they have gone through and you try to give them a sense of what you know about Washington, D.C. to kind of give them that blanket of comfort to say, ‘Hey, when we release you out of the academy, we want you to be a well-rounded officer and have an understanding.’ There is so much Washington has to offer,” Coleman said.
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 21:22:42 GMT
I put a * by the confusing part. I understood your question and already addressed it. No need for you to tackle what allyship looks like to you. Then this would be a discussion. Have a great day. I can't find where you discussed that aspect of the question, specifically the risking physical harm to the arrestee. Would you mind showing me or just telling me again? I keep asking because I am having a hard time seeing how making a decision that could potentially put someone else in physical jeopardy is a good thing. But maybe it is and I'm just not seeing it. I hypothesized why someone might think the risk was worth it in my first post, but thought you might disagree or have more to add. I did did address what being an ally looks like to me, in my first post. As I indicated, in this situation I would not get physically involved, but if my information and statement wasn't taken I would follow them to the police station to make sure the wrongly accused had witnesses for their defense. And now, after thinking about it more, I would write down my information and hand it to them myself if possible. And as much as you're trying to suggest that I'm not, I actually am trying to have a discussion with you as evidenced by my asking a question and looking for clarification when I don't feel that you answered it. I am trying to look at it and understand a dissenting point of view, and maybe to learn something new. And I've provided my thoughts and opinions. See? Discussion. You, on the other hand, are being very dismissive. I don't feel like I'm being dismissive but can you see how calling me dismissive makes me feel like any discussion with you would be fruitless. I don't owe you anything. I'm vested in people being educated about racial violence, allyship, etc. but there are other black peas you can be rude to and then expect friendly conversation.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 16, 2018 22:01:40 GMT
I have not been rude. I called you dismissive for several reasons. 1) You said there is no need to discuss what allyship looks like to me. Not wanting to discuss my opinions is dismissing me. 2) You said "then this would be a discussion" suggesting I wasn't trying to have a discussion in the first place when I very obviously was. 3) You said "have a good day." The only comment more dismissive than that would have been if you said "bye, Felicia." Textbook example of being dismissive, and rudely sarcastic to boot. Even after all of that I still tried to have the conversation with you and get your perspective. I think you have a lot of good information to share with us Olan , and you obviously want to which is wonderful. But you're not great at carrying on race related conversations and sharing your point of view effectively without running off a lot of people who are trying to learn more and trying to do better, simply because our responses don't meet your standards. In a thread a while back you mentioned a group of women who came to social media interactions about race to help people understand each other, if I'm remembering their purpose correctly. IIRC you thought it would be a good idea to get them involved and I looked forward to you doing that. I think we all could probably learn something from each other in these discussions. I'll admit I am not handling this perfectly, but I am trying.
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Post by ginacivey on Apr 16, 2018 22:03:21 GMT
Maybe an open dialogue between you and I just isn't possible. and the list continues to grow
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 22:12:02 GMT
I have not been rude. I called you dismissive for several reasons. 1) You said there is no need to discuss what allyship looks like to me. Not wanting to discuss my opinions is dismissing me. 2) You said "then this would be a discussion" suggesting I wasn't trying to have a discussion in the first place when I very obviously was. 3) You said "have a good day." The only comment more dismissive than that would have been if you said "bye, Felicia." Textbook example of being dismissive, and rudely sarcastic to boot. Even after all of that I still tried to have the conversation with you and get your perspective. I think you have a lot of good information to share with us Olan , and you obviously want to which is wonderful. But you're not great at carrying on race related conversations and sharing your point of view effectively without running off a lot of people who are trying to learn more and trying to do better, simply because our responses don't meet your standards. In a thread a while back you mentioned a group of women who came to social media interactions about race to help people understand each other, if I'm remembering their purpose correctly. IIRC you thought it would be a good idea to get them involved and I looked forward to you doing that. I think we all could probably learn something from each other in these discussions. I'll admit I am not handling this perfectly, but I am trying. You want me to concede a physical intervention on behalf of an ally would have escalated a non-violent situation. I explained to you in non dismissive tone that each encounter with the police is a life or death situation regardless of how non-violent it might seem to a white woman. I told you to have a good day and meant it. I said it was okay if we needed to agree to disagree. ***I gave you a chance to tell me what allyship look like to you****If you believe you are "trying", I'm unsure of what to tell you *shrugs*. What I will say is I don't feel like I need to take your barrage of questions when you've barely answered my questions, reflected on anything I've said etc all while taking your snide remarks in stride. Nah. Nevermind how problematic it is that you think police brutality isn't something we are striving to eradicate completely. The harsh reality is white women are okay with black citizens dying as long as a white men can convince you it's for the greater good. You will fall in line and lie if you must. I don't have room for that and I won't entertain it if I can avoid it. "Is also not nothing" umm okay
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Post by MizIndependent on Apr 16, 2018 22:27:39 GMT
You want me to concede a physical intervention on behalf of an ally would have escalated a non-violent situation. I explained to you in non dismissive tone that each encounter with the police is a life or death situation regardless of how non-violent it might seem to a white woman. I told you to have a good day and meant it. I said it was okay if we needed to agree to disagree. If you believe you are "trying", I'm unsure of what to tell you *shrugs*. What I will say is I don't feel like I need to take your barrage of questions when you've barely answered my questions, reflected on anything I've said etc all while taking your snide remarks in stride. Geez...you don't answer ANY of my questions and you don't see me gettin' all butthurt about it. Nah. Nevermind how problematic it is that you think police brutality isn't something we are striving to eradicate completely. The harsh reality is white women are okay with black citizens dying as long as a white men can convince you it's for the greater good. You will fall in line and lie if you must. I don't have room for that and I won't entertain it if I can avoid it. And there you go making all kinds of assumptions about other people's thoughts, motives and beliefs...again. Such a Twisty Twister McTwisterstein. Here you go, Olan , since this seems to be what you're really after...
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Post by Olan on Apr 16, 2018 22:30:18 GMT
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Post by moodyblue on Apr 16, 2018 22:31:36 GMT
I can't find where you discussed that aspect of the question, specifically the risking physical harm to the arrestee. Would you mind showing me or just telling me again? I keep asking because I am having a hard time seeing how making a decision that could potentially put someone else in physical jeopardy is a good thing. But maybe it is and I'm just not seeing it. I hypothesized why someone might think the risk was worth it in my first post, but thought you might disagree or have more to add. I did did address what being an ally looks like to me, in my first post. As I indicated, in this situation I would not get physically involved, but if my information and statement wasn't taken I would follow them to the police station to make sure the wrongly accused had witnesses for their defense. And now, after thinking about it more, I would write down my information and hand it to them myself if possible. And as much as you're trying to suggest that I'm not, I actually am trying to have a discussion with you as evidenced by my asking a question and looking for clarification when I don't feel that you answered it. I am trying to look at it and understand a dissenting point of view, and maybe to learn something new. And I've provided my thoughts and opinions. See? Discussion. You, on the other hand, are being very dismissive. I don't feel like I'm being dismissive but can you see how calling me dismissive makes me feel like any discussion with you would be fruitless. I don't owe you anything. I'm vested in people being educated about racial violence, allyship, etc. but there are other black peas you can be rude to and then expect friendly conversation. Dewryce is one of the least rude peas I can think of. Her posts read as someone who is working to understand and putting some real thought into the issues you raise. I'm a big believer in information and discussion and trying to understand. Posting lots of links and long articles and then not wanting to discuss what you post isn't the most effective way to get people thinking - and continuing to think and then act beyond this message board. The idiom I was teaching my students today is "miss the boat" - and I feel like you're not using this opportunity to help effect the real change you want to see. There are many people here who are trying to learn and see things from another perspective. You could do so much to help with that. Open up to discussion and maybe you could get more people to see what you want us to understand.
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