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Post by Kelpea on Aug 5, 2015 10:36:20 GMT
wading back in to say it's all rather a moot point, because as I've mentioned before, as a current student, check the professors' syllabuses. If there's a mention of being dropped from class, or missing "x or more" days of class, you're out.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 5, 2015 15:26:25 GMT
I suspect it is more of an issue of always coming in last to her brother. (Note Moms screen name.) She is supposed to miss the first day of classes so they can all have a road trip. Instead of 2 parents flying out to son, fly son home. If he has things he needs to bring home with him, ship them. Then everyone can be at school the first day, the dogs don't have to go to the kennel, and they save money... and perhaps all four of them get a bit of family time before school starts. As for missing school to be with boyfriend, missing a class/day is not the same as missing the first day. I got the impression part of the reason he can't fly back is that he'd be leaving a vehicle behind. OP said they were flying out & then driving home; I took that to mean they gave him one of their cars to use while he was away on his internship. Why doesn't DS fly back and watch the dogs and parents drive back and have their trip! All problems solved.
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Post by seaexplore on Aug 5, 2015 16:41:24 GMT
I got the impression part of the reason he can't fly back is that he'd be leaving a vehicle behind. OP said they were flying out & then driving home; I took that to mean they gave him one of their cars to use while he was away on his internship. Why doesn't DS fly back and watch the dogs and parents drive back and have their trip! All problems solved. You.are.brilliant! Seriously! 7 pages and no one has come up with that one yet!
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Post by peasful1 on Aug 5, 2015 17:49:22 GMT
I suspect it is more of an issue of always coming in last to her brother. (Note Moms screen name.) Wow, I suspected she favoured her son and said as much but I hadn't even noticed the username. I'm surprised the daughter didn't just respond to the demand with a big ole "fuck you". Or, perhaps in her own way, she did. Brava.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 5, 2015 18:10:32 GMT
I suspect it is more of an issue of always coming in last to her brother. (Note Moms screen name.) Wow, I suspected she favoured her son and said as much but I hadn't even noticed the username. I'm surprised the daughter didn't just respond to the demand with a big ole "fuck you". Or, perhaps in her own way, she did. Brava. I believe buddy is in reference to a pet, not the OP's son.
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Post by abr79 on Aug 5, 2015 18:25:35 GMT
I suspect it is more of an issue of always coming in last to her brother. (Note Moms screen name.) Wow, I suspected she favoured her son and said as much but I hadn't even noticed the username. I'm surprised the daughter didn't just respond to the demand with a big ole "fuck you". Or, perhaps in her own way, she did. Brava. I agree with gmcwife1 that it might be the dog's name...not the son's. I initially thought the son when I saw her screen name as well but I'm leaning towards one of the dogs. Mainly because I can't fathom that it would be her son. UNLESS...maybe DD is actually a step-daughter. Again, there is a lot of information missing here for us to really understand the situation and dynamics and the OP has completely disappeared and admitted she wasn't reading responses (which I question why she even posed the question in the first place...)
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Post by penny on Aug 5, 2015 20:46:45 GMT
Wow, I suspected she favoured her son and said as much but I hadn't even noticed the username. I'm surprised the daughter didn't just respond to the demand with a big ole "fuck you". Or, perhaps in her own way, she did. Brava. I believe buddy is in reference to a pet, not the OP's son. Considering this thread, I'm not sure that defence helps the mom out
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 5, 2015 21:57:24 GMT
I believe buddy is in reference to a pet, not the OP's son. Considering this thread, I'm not sure that defence helps the mom out I was trying, but I did think about that
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Post by georgiapea on Aug 6, 2015 21:00:54 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day.
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Post by gsquaredmom on Aug 6, 2015 21:11:44 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. I thought the same thing a couple days ago. But I think she is reading even if not posting. Hopefully the alternate viewpoints will help. But who knows? It's nice to see everyone's perspectives.
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Post by nurseypants on Aug 6, 2015 21:14:38 GMT
This thread is the stuff of pea legends.
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Post by Dreamsofnyssa on Aug 6, 2015 21:24:04 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. She did post. She said she isn't reading any of the responses.
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Post by penny on Aug 7, 2015 1:03:32 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. She did post. She said she isn't reading any of the responses. Missed that - thanks...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2015 1:05:33 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. She did post. She said she isn't reading any of the responses. Yeah, because it's not going her way.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 7, 2015 1:06:29 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. She did post. She said she isn't reading any of the responses. That's too bad
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 2:14:11 GMT
Meh.
She was bored.
Decided to post total fiction for entertainment and we all (including me) bit and posted sincere responses,
I hope she never needs real advice or help any time soon in the future. Peas have loooong memories.
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Post by peasful1 on Aug 7, 2015 17:24:31 GMT
I believe buddy is in reference to a pet, not the OP's son. Considering this thread, I'm not sure that defence helps the mom out Ha. I stand corrected. It is the dog, and no, considering she wants her daughter to forego school for the dog, the fact that she identifies herself as the *DOG*'s mom? #messedup
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Post by CeeScraps on Aug 7, 2015 20:34:29 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. This is exactly what I was thinking when I came back to the Pod and this is on the front page again.......
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Post by k8smom on Aug 7, 2015 21:15:08 GMT
It depends on the college, but yes they can and yes they do. My daughter went to U of O and had some classes with 500 kids. My son went to a small liberal arts school, Willamette University, and they took attendance! At a lot of schools if classes are full, they say to go on the first day if you didn't get in and they will add your name and drop the no-shows.
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 7, 2015 21:25:02 GMT
I asked my eldest if he would be dropped not attending the first day and he said No. He said if it became a problem then yes. I have to say that at his school at any time probably up to a quarter of the student body could be on Co-op so they probably have a relaxed attitude on getting back the first day, though it probably isn't advisable. They are a very autonomous school with loads of support networks and they don't let a student fail without enacting a lot of support (they also have high retention, graduation, and employment rates).
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Post by pb on Aug 7, 2015 21:56:50 GMT
I asked my husband who teaches engineering at a universtity. It is in their policies that it is up to professors discretion and it also states that the professor can drop you if the first day is not attended.
My husband's personal policy is notification in advance and a good excuse. He has excused three students in the five plus years from first day attendance: a national guardsman, a student with a dead parent, and a student who's patent was critically ill. No excuse or a poor one like the OP's (my husband laughed at dog watching) and he wouldn't be so kind. Their programs in engineering are very full with waiting lists.
And yes he takes attendance each class all semester long.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 7, 2015 23:19:32 GMT
Okay, I "can't" read this whole thread, but from the skimming I've done of two recurring themes:
1. I can't believe this mom is parsing can't/won't/verboten/bad form, and concluding deceit and brattiness.
2. We've spent the last SIX YEARS driving/hauling/schlepping to/from our kids' colleges - and NOW you tell me college students are old enough to figure this out on their own?!! Harrumph. But really: they're not old enough to rent a car...and they need help with the schlepping, especially once apartments/furniture gets involved, so I think I'm stuck with two more years. (My parents did it for me, too...although I do remember my mom grousing when dorm-moving-out-day was on Mother's Day - more than once!)
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Post by manda on Aug 24, 2015 4:23:30 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. She's on vacation with her son and without her dogs.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 24, 2015 10:00:22 GMT
I find it a little pathetic that we have invested 7 pages in this dialog and the OP has not posted since the first day. She's on vacation with her son and without her dogs. LMAO
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Post by RiverIsis on Aug 24, 2015 13:34:17 GMT
Okay, I "can't" read this whole thread, but from the skimming I've done of two recurring themes: 1. I can't believe this mom is parsing can't/won't/verboten/bad form, and concluding deceit and brattiness. 2. We've spent the last SIX YEARS driving/hauling/schlepping to/from our kids' colleges - and NOW you tell me college students are old enough to figure this out on their own?!! Harrumph. But really: they're not old enough to rent a car...and they need help with the schlepping, especially once apartments/furniture gets involved, so I think I'm stuck with two more years. (My parents did it for me, too...although I do remember my mom grousing when dorm-moving-out-day was on Mother's Day - more than once!) Can't tell you how happy I was that DES was able to get an apartment and had roomies that let his furniture stay there when he was on Co-op and then kept the same apartment so no moving this year! WooHoo!!!
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Post by STBC on Aug 24, 2015 15:15:28 GMT
Did not read all of the posts, didn't expect all of the replies. I knew it was "bad" since there were so many replies so early! I'm just mad because she is being bratty. She will miss class to be with her boyfriend but not to help us out while we are scrambling with our other college student to get him back here 3000 miles away for class. He was on significant time contraints on his internship and could not leave the other coast earlier. It's not to babysit our dogs, she cried when she kissed them goodbye six months ago so she misses them! I just wish she had let me know earlier so I can put another thing on my "to do" list before I leave. Yes, DH and I are both going, flying to the coast and driving back with DS, hitting a couple National Parks with him before he goes off on his own completely. He will be in his last semester on his Masters degree. I just checked the site and it said to let the prof know ahead of time if you are going to miss the first day. Missing the first day of class is different than missing a class later. Your plans don't really sound like a valid reason for your DD to miss the first day of class. Even when DS is "on his own completely" you can still vacation with him.
ETA: You're not scrambling. You are choosing to add extra days to your return trip. If you really wanted to get him back home, you'd fly him and not take a tour of the national parks.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 24, 2015 17:20:43 GMT
Okay, I "can't" read this whole thread, but from the skimming I've done of two recurring themes: 1. I can't believe this mom is parsing can't/won't/verboten/bad form, and concluding deceit and brattiness. 2. We've spent the last SIX YEARS driving/hauling/schlepping to/from our kids' colleges - and NOW you tell me college students are old enough to figure this out on their own?!! Harrumph. But really: they're not old enough to rent a car...and they need help with the schlepping, especially once apartments/furniture gets involved, so I think I'm stuck with two more years. (My parents did it for me, too...although I do remember my mom grousing when dorm-moving-out-day was on Mother's Day - more than once!) Yep, for the 2nd year my now senior in college moved herself in. She does have a car though. And the college is 90 minutes from home...not hours and hours. And she's living in the same town as the college with her fiance so she moved about 2 miles if that And she admitted today that 98% of the stuff she's moved back and forth the last 3 years has been totally useless. In fact, 90% of the stuff she bagged up last year during the awful "bed bug fiasco" for the pest control company to "bomb?" She hasn't even opened the bags since she got them back. The bags are still in the back of her car (our old 2002 Oddyssey). And for the record, I'm my dogs' mom too. I'm just my actual kids' mom first.
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Post by buddysmom on Aug 29, 2015 0:23:11 GMT
**Update in first post.
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