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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 29, 2020 2:21:38 GMT
There is more to soft foods than soup - that is what strikes me.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 16, 2020 16:54:29 GMT
Double beds are just not large enough to share with someone you are not intimate with. Check and see what the policy is for men - used to have to go on trip once a year for vocational homemaking. Three of us ladies were required to share a room. We were NOT strangers and we had king size beds for two to share. Then after years of this we discovered that the men who went on vocational training ALWAYS got individual rooms. It was like a slap in the face.
Sharing a double bed with a stranger is not a good idea. Three women getting ready to all go to the same meetings in the morning is not a good idea.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 13, 2020 8:13:47 GMT
This is a true example of taking a village to raise a child.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 3, 2020 8:06:21 GMT
I have wondered how a quarantine would go over here in the States. I am sure there would be people getting all upset and out of sorts over having their "rights" violated. Then there would be some people who just would not believe that the rules apply to them and so on. It would be useless. There would be enough people violated the quarantine to make it ineffective.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 3, 2020 7:53:11 GMT
Wow, really fast! Thank you so much for taking time out of a horrendous day to let us know. I've been praying and I am sure others have as well. So sorry for your loss - you and your family will still be in my prayers.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 31, 2020 2:49:50 GMT
The main reasons a person would lie in such a situation is (1) to make themselves look better or more deserving of symphony or (2) to cover up something that makes them look bad. A lie about either one is presenting yourself in a false manner. This person needs to be held accountable and consequences administered. Whatever it is they "earned" through the lie(s) should be taken away.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 30, 2020 7:44:30 GMT
Better yet, how about charging a cleaning fee - it would be way cheaper than a hotel fee. Then find a reliable cleaning service to do it for you. I suspect that having family follow rules is just not going to work. Because, well, they are family. AND they will not see it as a business transaction until money is involved. Perhaps, you can make it in the form of a deposit for cleanliness - and those who leave it clean can stay free the next time.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 29, 2020 8:35:16 GMT
I have many of the same issues. I am a gagger, I convulse with the gagging and it is impossible to work on my mouth unless you give me the nitrous oxide - a full fifteen minutes before trying to numb me. Cause my anxiety is through the roof and I am so tense the novacain can't work. He does it in shifts - three times with the shots. Of course this means I am numb clear to my eyeballs at times, but who cares?
Our dental insurance changed last year and our dentist is not in network. The new insurance pays so little, that he would be losing money on every visit. But, I refuse to change dentists. So we are paying out of our own pockets for our dental work nowadays. For me it is worth it to have someone who knows me and works with me on my issues.
BTW - now that we are paying the bills ourselves, I was astounded by their charges. I expected them to be much, much higher. My hubby had to have a tooth pulled today by a specialist and the total bill was cheaper than what we pay to see our PCP for an office visit.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 25, 2020 22:26:33 GMT
Words are not enough - wish we could all come by and give lots and lots of hugs. Cancer is so ugly - makes us have to make heartbreaking decisions and go through such tremendous soul destroying situations. You are asked to make the decision to prolong the life of a loved one so she can go through treatments that mean more pain and tortuous days, but when does one say enough? HOW does one say enough when we know it means letting go of any hope.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 18, 2020 5:11:58 GMT
When I have done this I stuffed a inner bag with the walnut shells and stitched it closed with a sewing machine. Then it went inside the pin cushion. The walnut shells otherwise would escape through the hand stitches. The inner bag did not have to be turned inside out to hide the seam since it was inside.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 16, 2020 2:40:54 GMT
So happy we were able to make a difference and add a bit of joy to your complicated lives.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 11, 2020 6:56:04 GMT
LOL, for us it is just the opposite. The daughters are on our charts as having permission to know about our medical care. When your daughter is a RN it seems stupid not to have her input!
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 10, 2020 0:40:48 GMT
You will get better at prep as you teach the same things each year. My first year teaching was about like that - staying every day until 5 and then doing work at home. Though eventually, I had it under control and never had to bring work home. Then on the family side, the children grew up and did not need me so much. They also were able to help out more in the home. Those first few years of teaching though, were rough.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 9, 2020 6:36:43 GMT
I kind of see this as preaching to the choir. The people who care are the ones who are attending the event, while the ones who really need to are not there.
For me the not having enough to eat or living on charity was not the worst of it. It was knowing that the future would not be any better. Dreams and plans were not for us, they were for the rich kids not us. We had a roof over our head and a few clothes to wear and were better off than some, but still the day after day of going without was spirit breaking. Watching friends go to ballet class, go on vacation, get new clothes and so on was sad. Our situation changed and by the time I was in High School I knew I could go to college on the GI Bill so future was brighter. But I will never forget the drudgery of doing without day after day and know that it would never change.
A two hour exercise, or even a week long event, would never give one a taste of that feeling or that disheartened spirit that children in poverty live with or that parents deal with when they cannot feed their child or provide them the things they need.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 5, 2020 7:57:28 GMT
So sorry you are dealing with this. I hate when desk-sitters the next state over think they know more than the doctor in front of the patient. It is not as if the doctor is getting a kickback or anything for prescribing the treatment.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2020 22:02:39 GMT
Hard to come up with just one! I kinda like cleaning, the problem is my hip and back hate it. Hubby does the dusting which I would not mind doing. He also does the vacuuming unless I want it done right. Then when younger daughter comes (about twice a month) she does the bathroom. I cannot do the bathroom as my back and hip would put me in the recliner for a week on pain meds. So, I don't have to do much now days. But back before the family stepped in to help, the cleaning really wasn't an issue. I love, love a clean home. The thing I am most reluctant to do is the laundry. There is only my clothes to do as hubby does his own. Yet, I find it hard to make myself do it. I'll go two weeks if possible and wear every single pair of pants I have before I'll start my laundry.
ETA: about that mopping business. I too only use one bucket. But you are supposed to change the water when it gets dirty. I would mop until the mop water would not get dirty. That meant going over certain parts of the floor several times and changing the mop water several times. If I wiped something off the floor, like a spill, then the cloth I used should not get dirty from dirt - just from the item spilled. I kept my floors CLEAN and never considered using more than one mop bucket.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2020 11:06:07 GMT
whether it is safe is one thing. But for me would be how it tasted after that long. I would chunk it for taste reasons at least.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 3, 2020 10:45:28 GMT
Are they hard and not mealy? I hate mealy apples and like mine hard enough to make your gums bleed. To me it is all about the texture.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 3, 2020 10:42:44 GMT
The sucking ice cubes would make me worse, just saying. Though, there comes a point when fluids have to be replaced or one gets dehydrated. Try something not so hard on the stomach and only if she is able to keep it down.(For some reason, water is not so easy on the tummy, but take some cola and pour it back and forth between glasses to get a bunch of the carbonation out and give her that.) Does she has a temp? If so and you cannot bring it down below 101 with aspirin or Tylenol then go to ER. Is she lucid and able to comprehend what is going on? If not to the ER Does she have any kind of sharp pain, or bad dull pain? Did she eat anything questionable? like could be causing food poisoning? Just because no one else got it does not mean she doesn't have it. One section of a bowl of food can be contaminated and the other not yet. Real food poisoning means ER.
Basically, you just have to watch and see if any of it calms down. Is she getting worse or not? BUT - I am not a nurse or doctor, just been through this with kids.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 3, 2020 1:45:51 GMT
I've been seeing an advertisement for a headband that has headphones built in. It looks so comfy - in fact the advertisement claims it is good for laying on a pillow. My ear canals are small also and I seem to only be able to wear the buds for 30 minutes before the pain starts.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 1, 2020 5:58:19 GMT
Thanks so much for sharing this!
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 30, 2019 8:54:06 GMT
Her study abroad semester is actually a requirement for her major, not an option, and it must be done the fall semester of her 5th year. Her whole class will be studying in Germany next fall. Fortunately her tuition is fully covered by a Pell grant and scholarships.
Wow, cool! What an experience she will have! So not an extravagance after all.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 30, 2019 6:38:57 GMT
Actually, my girls did not fly until they were 21 (For each I took them to Vegas for their 21st birthday.) I would not voluntarily take an infant on a flight longer than an hour unless to it was an emergency. Flying with babies is such an iffy thing. They could be fine with no problems or could be a holy terror. And each trip would be different so a gamble. But, I come from a different time and culture when it comes to flying. Flying was not something we or my friends did. If we did not have time to drive where we were going, then we did not go. It wasn't until the school started paying for me to go to training that I started flying at all.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 30, 2019 6:26:49 GMT
I will validate the Aggie ring. Yes she will be wearing that five years from now. It is what Aggies do. But, I will also say the pearls should not go back. They were a gift your mother wanted your daughter to have. A little more than perhaps most women's pearls, but a staple in many jewelry boxes.
What your mother gives your daughter does not have to be what you suggested. It bugs you because you see your brother's meddling in the choice of gifts. But, personally, I would not have given cash myself. Your daughter's decisions regarding studying abroad and purchasing the ring at this time is just that, her decision. It is not your mother's responsibility to finance those decisions. Though it would be nice if she would help out. Is it at all possible that your mother can help your daughter out without it being a Christmas present? Perhaps an ealry graduation gift? Also, could your daughter wait for the senior ring? Some have to wait until after graduation even to get their ring. Not ideal, but sometimes necessary.
I guess what I am getting at is the feeling I have that the two of you are living under a reduced budget, but still wanting to spend like it was before. Your daughter is making decisions that are not supported by the income and budget you are living with. You were hoping your mother would help out, but your brother has stopped that. It's hard, I know cause we had to do without for so long. I did not get my ring at all (I went to Mary Harding Baylor and was not able to afford the ring which I would be wearing today if I had one. Study abroad or even graduate work had to wait decades until we could afford it.)
Also, you know by now how your brother will act. You need to determine if you are going to allow him to yank your strings for the rest of your life or are you going to live your own life. You need to talk to your mother since talking to your brother has caused a major ruckus in the past. She is an adult and needs to acknowledge his influence on her actions. You cannot blame your brother for actions your mother takes. She is responsible for them.
(Don't fault your mother for not wanting to leave home for a few days. Many elderly ladies are that way. They just are not comfortable doing that and it will never happen. My MIL was like that and nothing could change it.)
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 29, 2019 19:14:17 GMT
So many of the big stores are carrying more of their house brands and fewer and fewer name brand products (especially craft stores). For grocery stuff I don’t care so much but for my craft stuff I want Doodlebug, Simple Stories, Avery Elle or Lawn Fawn, not Recollections, JoAnn Essentials or Paper Studio. These stores are shooting themselves in the foot by moving away from carrying the brands people want.
This - cannot get any of the good stuff anymore here at Hobby Lobby or Michael's and the service at Michael's has become non-existant
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 29, 2019 9:15:45 GMT
I like that when I drop off at Ups or Kohl's, I get a receipt for it thus having proof that I dropped it off.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 28, 2019 18:47:16 GMT
A major difference I see is the self importance children seem to have. I have noticed it grow through the years to the point where children feel the world revolves around them and the world has to accept them the way they are and treat them special. It used to be children were taught not to interrupt. Children were supposed to go outside and play and not sit around and be part of adult conversation. Children were educated in the way of the world that does not revolve around them.
But, what really stands out to me is children did not make decisions that had impact on their lives --decisions such as spending the night with friends, going to movies that were really not child appropriate, doing homework or not, how to spend big amounts of money, wearing night club clothes to school. I always saw it as the role of the parent to step in and enforce the right answer to those decisions and teach them how to make good decisions. Childhood is about learning to make good decisions not just throwing them into the deep end to swim or drown. I see parents allow children to make these kinds of decisions and allow them to do whatever they want to do. They are worried about the hassle of enforcing rules, about children getting mad a them or even children not loving them if they don't allow them to do what they want.
Children who get to make all the decisions in their lives without guidance become self important and don't learn to listen to rules or follow directions. They feel they make their own rules or rather rules don't apply to them. Some refuse to listen to teachers when the teacher needs for them to be quiet and does not allow them to do what they want.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 28, 2019 18:22:29 GMT
Remember when scrapbooking was a major part of our lives? We took photos of everything to scrap. We even arranged outings so we could have photos. Our daily lives were documented in our scrapbooks. To me this is just a continuation of that. It is a way of documenting what is going on in our lives. I don't do it, but there are others who do and it is not about the money. They feel they are perhaps helping someone who might be going through the same thing. Or they are documenting their family story for the family. I know that this is not exactly what you are talking about, but to me what you are talking about is an outgrowth of that.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 28, 2019 15:35:46 GMT
Respite The NBSP (for the IT guy - means non breaking space in html code) Sandy Hall Gull Retreat
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 27, 2019 23:06:17 GMT
My faith tells me that heaven is a wonderful place and my trust is that whatever the answer, it bee a good answer and I will be fine with the answer. This is called blind faith to the extreme. I get asked about pets and will they be there. The answer is the same. Whatever God has worked out about our pets will be fine as heaven is an awesome place and we will be gloriously happy there.
So goes any of the questions we might have. I don't need to know the answers. I just know that the solutions/answers have been worked out and we will be happy with them.
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