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Post by msbtastic on May 5, 2017 2:11:07 GMT
So, I need advice and many that I attempt to ask dismiss my concerns or think I'm crazy. The story-I live in a condo. In the beginning of February, someone clicked a pen outside my house. My son was asleep, I made nothing of it, though I absolutely hate noises. For the next week, at around 11 each night, they would click something that sounded like a pen very loudly. Then they started jiggling the front door to the point of leaving the doorknob hanging, moving patio chairs, knocking on windows and scratching the siding. It would go on from about 11 to 5 in the morning. After a week of it, I started to call the police. I was getting little to no sleep. I was crazy freaked out. After my second week of police calls, they woke my son up in the middle of the night and asked it I was schizophrenic or had other mental issues. The cop was extremely rude and abrasive. The cops didn't believe me because no one was there when they came. I stopped calling them. I called my landlord and they talked to the neighbor. I'd gotten a camera and put in a tree in front of my house. A man would come from the side of one of my neighbor's and walked around to the other side of my apartment. The noise stopped for about a week as well as messing with the front of the house. It started back up again after a week or so. It is now May and I can't handle it anymore. No one is ever around when we go outside, they seem to know when I call the police. I don't have neighbors above me, but I have an attic. This last week has been one of the worst. Last night the person was peeping in my blinds in the open slices. They have also been breathing very hard- in a creepy kind of way and shining light through the gaps in the blinds.. They also do something that smells like pee and chemicals. I can smell body odor through my vents when no one else is home, farting as well. I have no idea why I am able to hear it all so well or smell well enough that it makes me dizzy and effects my sinuses (the chemical smell). The police told me last night (I had to call after the window peeping and serial killer breathing) that they can only do something if I have visual proof to show them. Cameras to use in a rental condo are hundreds of dollars. And I also don't have money to move. I only pay $650 for a 2 bedroom in a good neighborhood with a good school. I'm a teacher and only parent. So- any ideas on how to stop it? Where it could be come from when I can't hear the neighbor unless they play really loud music or something? Have you ever heard of something like this happening? Do you have inexpensive camera ideas? I'd really appreciate anything! Heck, if you have ideas on ways to ignore it, I'll take that too.
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Post by msbtastic on Mar 22, 2017 5:37:32 GMT
IMG_6631.JPG I hope this is the way to add a photo
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Post by msbtastic on Mar 22, 2017 5:27:39 GMT
1. Write 2 equations using the formula y=ab^x. Use the 2 given points from the table. Not use the ordered pair with the 1000 for "y" because there isn't and "x" value tied to it. You'll get 126.5625=ab^4 and 168.75=ab^3. 2. Solve the second equation for "a". 3. Substitute the equation from step 2 into the first equation. 4. Simplify and solve for "b" 5. Plug "b" into the equation from step 2 to find "a". 6. Write equation using original formula, "a", and "b". Don't replace x or y.
You end up with the equation y=400(.75)^x Use this if you don't know what to do with logs (as given above by a poster). This method just uses basic algebra 1 skills such as solving systems, exponent rules to simplify, and writing equations using a formula.
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 27, 2016 5:17:54 GMT
So many more responses. Wow! Many of you gave me great ideas. I have already Facebook stalked the girlfriend so that I could be prepared when/if I tell her. Her page is private, but I found out that she owns a construction company. There is a high possibility that his motives for being with her or more financial than emotional-we work in public service- not enough for the type of house they got. Also, not my business. Unfortunately, they already bought the house and already moved in. I guess when he was moving our friendship to the "next level", they were already searching. The friend that told me is a co-worker whose office is next to his on the other side of the building. She was shocked and angry to find out that we have been casually "dating" this whole time. He told her that that I like his new girlfriend, so she never thought to tell me. She also told me about the nudes, I guess a co-worker told her about it not long ago, but he seemed like such a good guy she didn't believe it until she found out about me. Another co-worker/friend added what she was told by one of our superiors -that he was messing with her. Essentially, we all had a piece of the story based on who we talk to more often at work. There is no fraternization policy, except with those in higher positions. We have multiple married couples, one with rooms next door to one another. From what I found out, he already had it out with the superior he was sleeping with and he manipulated the situation in a way that she looked crazy and had to be called in. While we don't have a policy, we have to maintain a positive image or be let go. I have a week until I go back to work. I have no idea what will happen or what he's going to do because I blocked him on everything. There are multiple people mad at him other than me because he included them in his machinations. While I feel guilty for being a part of this, if I tell her, it would be because I would want a woman to tell me. What she does with the info would be on her, but at least she'd be more aware (if she isn't already). Unfortunately, it might not be the right thing for me to do because of my job. At this point, I'm thinking to either get someone else to tell or perhaps do it anonymously, depending on what happens.
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 26, 2016 8:50:23 GMT
its me mg- he told me that he was single and he wasn't. I am also aware that there was no commitment- I assisted in that decision. We were together for a year prior to this and were close friends for another year total outside of that. He is well aware of my feelings and values and how this situation is the polar opposite. I'm more hurt over the manipulation and the parts of the story I didn't include in my post. And thanks for the "not being bitchy" part. I'm blunt and it definitely comes across as bitchy oft times, so I understand. Thanks for giving me your input.
Thanks all so far for responding. It seems that you all are just as divided as the people in my life, but so far the variety of responses have given me more to think about. While his girlfriend doesn't work with me, his mistress harem does. I didn't think about him dogging me at work. That brings up the possibility of someone, including me, being fired if this goes south. Who knew a group of women getting together to scrap would lead to this?
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 26, 2016 5:35:56 GMT
Hi everyone and merry Christmas!!!! I need some advice from a diverse group of women. I've been friends with benefits a guy for about 6 months. We were previously together for about a year. The relationship didn't go too well because he had 2 jobs, there was nothing negative besides that. After we broke it off we continued to be friends. This summer he initiated the "benefits" portion of our friendship. We talked to each other very often, went out sometimes, stayed at each other's homes, etc. He comes to see me daily when we're at work. We've had multiple conversations about us being single- me asking him outright multiple times. He was just telling me that he thought he might be ready for a relationship, implying often that it'd be with me. I had no reason not to trust him based on our previous relationship. Well, I just found out from a co-worker that he just bought a house with his girlfriend . Not only that, but he's been sleeping with another at the job and sending unsolicited nudes to others that we work with. While I'm very hurt, I am not angry or interested in revenge, especially since we all, except his girlfriend, work together.. I don't know how long he's been with the girlfriend.
Should I find a way to tell her? Or should I just let her find out on her own like I did? I have no evidence because I deleted everything involving him when I found out that he's been playing a large group of women (I also found out he cheated on me with a different co-worker when we were dating). I don't want to tell her because I just want to move on and because I don't know her. I also remember being cheated on and how upsetting it was that no one warned me when they found out they were the other woman. What would you do?
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 26, 2016 5:01:22 GMT
My sons father is a drug addict. He did things very similar to your ex-h. He contacted me more often than my son and used me as a mediator rather than contacting my son himself. He often stood him up and put me in ridiculous situations because I felt bad for him and wanted to help him to be a good father, heck a good person. I finally had to help my son and I by just letting him go. I was also afraid he'd go off the deep end, but he was toxic to me and it affected my parenting. While my son was upset when he continued to stand him up, etc., eventually he formed his own opinion of who his dad is and whether or not he wanted him in his life. I never spoke ill of his father, but I sat him down and talked to him about addictions and how they change people. We ended up doing some research about addiction and it really helped my son to digest the situation. He no longer feels that there's something wrong with him or that he's unlovable. Though we want to fix everything as parents, we can't fix other people. So my advice is to just be supportive and give them the tools to handle such situations where the people we love just aren't who we want and need them to be. And keep being a fantastic mom.
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 22, 2016 3:48:19 GMT
I didn't see anyone add "at least I..." when they are told something that they've done is not acceptable. I just want to scream! At least I didn't punch you straight in the throat- that's what I think. And as someone with serious RBF, I absolutely hate being told to smile or that I'm too pretty not to smile. It makes me wonder what your number would have to be for it to be socially acceptable not to smile. You know what, add to the list "you're too pretty to be____". I heard that so often when I smoked, when I cuss, etc. . I guess "pretty" people can have no fun. They can only run around smiling, praying, and helping baby animals.
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 18, 2016 4:49:22 GMT
I would really like us as a nation to stop using the term "racist" for every little thing. It is not racist to assume racism in others and throwing this term around so freely and using it incorrectly is causing it to lose its power. Accusing someone of being racist, when they have actually demonstrated prejudice or bigotry does not help Us in fixing problems if actual racism. It also leads to people tuning others out when referencing racism issues. Prejudice is a pre-conceived view of a group based on lack of real experience with that group. For instance, I had a manager with some prejudices against blacks because she came from a very small town of only whites and had only seen us depicted in the media- especially Jerry Springer. Though she said some crazy stuff to me, she never treated me any differently than the rest of the staff. The shit she said was prejudiced because it was ideas based on my race with no experiences with my culture. Racism is prejudice with power behind it- you would have to have the ability to affect someone's life (not their feelings) based on your prejudiced views. For instance- I took a diversity class with only 5 minorities, this includes the black teacher. We sat together(not with the teacher), worked together, were some of the only ones with good report with the teacher, and also had the only A's in the class. A group of about 15 people took that to the college of education and claimed that the teacher was racist. Had they been right, she would have been guilty of racism because she was in a position of power and would have used a prejudice against whites to effect their grades. The manager at my job would also have been racist if she used these negative views of me based on being black to effect my schedule or other parts of the work environment. She did not, therefore it was not racism, she was actually one of the nicest people I've ever known. Anyone can be racist, as long as they/the system has some sort of power to negatively impact your life (not emotionally). I keep hearing and reading people of the majority racial group say that there is a racial divide in the country since Obama took office (I don't believe it's true in my opinion), and if we want to fix that perceived divide, it would be best for us to use correct terminology so that we don't push others away- no one wants to be called a damned racist when they aren't. Having prejudiced views is normal and not horrible enough to be saddled with that heavy, horrible term. It's easy to fix prejudice- but not if we make them tune us out by calling them a racist.
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 1, 2016 5:17:18 GMT
I teach math, but I could help if you could send me the formula or a picture of it. I tried to look up the formula, but there were 75 or so and I don't think they were high school formulas. Lol. The way it's written in that yahoo post is just too much for my brain this late at night after grading.
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Post by msbtastic on Dec 1, 2016 4:59:36 GMT
Hi Tasha!!! We have the same name! And I'm a high school teacher- how exciting. So, I'll add my 2 cents here as well. Like everyone said- education is in a slump right now and due to budget concerns, there aren't many jobs out there. I teach math, so. I'm pretty much guaranteed a job anywhere. Almost! Since I wanted a job at the school I did my student teaching at, I had to take a position as a special education teacher. In order to do that, I had to be enrolled and succeeding in a master's special education program. If you are willing to do that for a bit, it may make you more marketable. i got out of it after the first year because it was horrifying (at least to me)- you have to really have a passion for SPED. Also, like has been stated before- you must have training in the field you choose- for instance, I would have graduated with 2 bachelor's degrees if I had taken 1 more math class. And you have to have the right grades. As well as passing big tests over both teaching methods and your subject area. The subject area tests are the hardest. So choose something you love- you'll have to teach it multiple times a day for years . Also, we have a full time photography teacher, but our school has specialized academies that allow the student to graduate with a foot in the door to a job or further ed. Next- it hasn't been mentioned- the colleges of education have requirements before you can be accepted into the program. Find those out asap! Here, we had to have 100 documented hours with kids outside of our college experiences. You have to have a certain gpa, references, etc. Volunteering and working at summer camps got me my hours and also more information about how to work with kids. But those experiences are still wildly different than being a teacher. Volunteer in a variety of schools- low income, high income, diverse, and more segregated. Ask teachers and staff questions about the worst parts of the job and ideas to combat them. Ask to grade papers, about testing and lesson planning, etc. Since you have a passion for teaching, it would be devastating to burn out quickly. One of the reasons so many teachers leave before 5 years is because colleges don't prepare you for the hardships of teaching. There is a lot of glossing over of difficulties in the college classes. This is my sixth year of teaching and it has been the single hardest thing I have ever done. I've cried so many times, lost friends (it's hard to understand the teacher life), it's costed lots of money and time. It is also the best experience I've ever had and it has changed me into a better person. I get kids from years ago thanking me for the math & non-math things they learned. Good luck!!!
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 23, 2016 17:40:31 GMT
Puttabuttononit said that the president caused a divide in the country. I have seen countless people say that this is one of the reasons that they voted for Trump. I have 2 questions: 1) What divide and between who? 2)Why/how does does one think a white man that says divisive things about large groups of minorities will heal the divide?
*I included the race just in case the divide was in reference to a racial one.
I started a thread to ask this question because I like understanding people and their ideas, but only a few people responded. Idk if it's because I'm an unknown member or because it was too soon after all the board craziness.
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 13, 2016 21:34:10 GMT
Also, I just realized, when I quoted I didn't have the cool gray bubble for her quote. Why so technology so difficult!!?!?!
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 13, 2016 21:30:00 GMT
1st off WHERE do you live that you havn't seen this? Are you IN the US? I live in the boonies and even I have seen it. Because basically Trump stands for everything most Millennials, and democrats don't believe in. Anti pro choice, Muslim, gays, equal marriage rights, the environment, global warming, etc, etc. I think he was voted IN, because people want change esp due to the affordable care act, taxes, and jobs. Yes, things need to change. Unfortunately I think people want it to change BACK. Back to the Reagan years, back to their childhoods. That won't happen. We've come to far. So it's going to be hard. I hope he finds a way to fix some of the things, but it's going to be hard, and I don't think he can do it with the old guard he has had around him. He needs new fresh blood. [/quote]
Lol! I live in Kansas. I do believe that some people do want it to go back to that. Also, I've been hearing it long before Trump. Especially in reference to the BLM movement and the president. I was not meaning politically. When people say that, it is usually in reference to race. I was trying to ask without perhaps explaining myself better. I didn't want to be seen as a race baiter, or something worse, because I genuinely wanted to get information from people different than me. So, in reference to your first question- I feel that I should tell a bit of background info. I'm mixed- black and white. But I look like I could be anything- I've heard Peruvian, South American, Egyptian, and Indian (country). Being raised single handedly by my father in the black culture, I have seen my fair share of racism and prejudice. Given that I look like I could be from another racial group, I saw even more, especially after 9/11. Given my background, I feel that racial tensions are much more relaxed. In my eyes, we are definitely not more divided than before (except politically). I know my son has not seen anything even close to what I have. I'm confused as how people see that it is worse. Working in a diverse school with like minded people, even though they are often white, means that I just hear what I already believe.
I believe that other posters are correct, and that social media gives more people a voice then previously. I also believe that due to somewhat more relaxed racial environment that people are more willing to voice their experiences. But what I experience and for many it is nowhere near as bad as a decade ago, well except the last week. And the fact that many things are better often makes it seem that the things that aren't better need to be addressed. I don't know if I made sense or went off on a tangent. Lol.
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 13, 2016 19:36:10 GMT
Hi everyone, I'm pretty new here, so please excuse me if I'm not doing this right! I have a question- I keep hearing (actually reading) that this country is more divided within the last few years than it has been. Can you tell me why you feel that way? I'm sure many do you will think this is a dumb question- or rather that it is obvious, but I really don't see why people believe that. It could be because I am surrounded by a diverse group of people, and many of them don't feel that race relations (except in regards to Muslims) are worse. I am not intending to bait anyone, or have a gotcha moment, or any of those things. I genuinely want to understand why people think it. I keep seeing it in regard to the current president and have heard many say that the president elect will work to heal that divide. And please, sweet baby Jesus, don't start about Trump healing the racial divide (or not). I'm plum Trumped out!
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 12, 2016 19:10:44 GMT
The schools often have/provide some manipulatives, so it may not be a good idea to purchase those until she knows where she will teach and what they have. Besides manipulatives and school curriculum books, the schools usually don't give the teachers anything to make the classroom that we see when we walk in. The teachers usually pay for their bulletin boards materials, classroom posters, basic office supplies, class tissues, dry erase markers, etc. They also often pay for unique lessons on sites such as teachers pay teachers. A gift card may be a good idea, or basic supplies to create bulletin boards, posters, and comfortable spaces in the room. Other good ideas may include organizational tools for student supplies, plastic baskets for papers, file folders out the wazoo, ziplock bags of all sizes, magazine files, stickers and stamps for student work, etc. I know my first year, I looked online and purchased a ridiculous number of things from given lists and my room was still threadbare and uninviting. My students said it was like visiting a morgue. Lol. I know that Target (dollar spot) and DollarTree have many of the items at a reasonable price. Do you know if she has any ideas of what she wants her room to look like?
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 12, 2016 0:00:44 GMT
This is an interesting read. I definitely didn't vote for Trump. I feel that he is abhorrent, just as many felt that Hillary was. I do think this is a lot for someone that supports him to need to do. I wish someone had thought to request that of me for supporting Obama (sarcasm). Part of that seems more realistic- that people realize that when others refer to those "deplorables", that supporters realize that it isn't about them. I'm sure you would know if you were racist, or those other terrible things. If not, let it be. Honestly, I saw many ridiculous things from Trump supporters that I haven't seen for a large number of years. A student yelled "build a wall" and worse in a class of Latino students (that was fun to deal with), people have been yelling "nigger" out of their cars, etc. Those things are real and it would be great if both sides just accepted that it is happening. Calling people liars, or giving examples of Hillary's misdeeds, or talking about how others talk about the president elect are not helping matters when these things are brought up. Saying those things belittles others experiences and their feelings. If these things make people feel afraid, accept it. It doesn't matter how you feel about their fear- and nothing makes you or your feelings about it more important than theirs. And telling people to get over it and calling them sore losers and liars is expressing exactly that- that your ideas and your feelings are more important. Just as you (this has all been about a general you) have the right to feel joy and express it, I (general I) have the right to feel fear and express it. Perhaps Trump and his election don't represent that to you (again general) but it would nice if everyone accepts that it does, in fact, represent those negative things to some. And if some of you are thinking that you wish the other side would have done that previously, let's be honest, after what I've seen here while lurking, many of you would be right.
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 11, 2016 23:05:49 GMT
That is not standard procedure in any school that I know about. Until you posted this and made me reflect on it as a parent and not a teacher, I would not have thought that is was a big deal. There are a variety of reasons you may not have been alerted: not knowing who the sub is, not knowing if the sub is good enough to stay, last minute changes that the school was not aware of, and time constraints. When a sub comes in for a long period, the rest of her department has to take up the slack and assist in grading, planning, and sometimes outright teaching. Substitutes are often not teachers, and if they are/were, they don't get paid enough to do all of that extra non-school hour work. They also may not have a licence in the field they are subbing for. Anyhow, it often ends up a big mess on the school's side and we don't even think if it.
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Post by msbtastic on Nov 1, 2016 22:35:59 GMT
Is this a serious question? Are you at all aware of the programs and people that are out there to attempt to combat this problem? And what exactly would the black lives matter movement and others that you mentioned say? If they did say something, what makes you so sure you think that it would be sensational enough to garner news coverage?
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Post by msbtastic on Oct 31, 2016 23:15:33 GMT
I work in a Title 1 school. Last year, only about 50% of the students passed my class. The school norm is around 65% passing. If you are thinking those are low percentages, you would be right. The most common reason for failure was attendance, out of 80 students, around 30 had serious truancy issues. When we got a team together to track their attendance issue and attempt to fix it, we found that it began in elementary schools. These kids had serious problems with attendance starting in kindergarten. It is a funding issue, an academic one, and one that ties the 2 because then the kids have issues graduating and passing state assessments. While this may not describe your children, it does describe a high enough proportion. And lawmakers like to make policies that "benefit" the small percentage of kids that are the issue. For example, holding kids back was beneficial for the whole. But for about 10% of kids, it was terrible. So they made away with it and started social promotion. Also, what happens when they are truant- an investigation is opened about it. Kids could end up in jail or be taken away from their parents as a result of the investigation.
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Post by msbtastic on Oct 23, 2016 4:56:58 GMT
I teach high school and several students and a couple of parents have my number. I gave my number to a few students with medical issues (cancer, seizures, pregnancy, etc.) and to my seminar students. I've had my seminar students since they were sophomores and they are now seniors. I work in a low income school where parents are not always available/willing and after hearing some scary situations, I made them take my number just in case. I've also given them to a few parents that were furious because it made them calm down. Almost no one has used it except the students with medical issues. I also accept Facebook messages about math questions. I sucked at the remind app- forgot to check it. I haven't had any bad experiences with it so far.
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Post by msbtastic on Sept 12, 2016 0:51:24 GMT
Hi all! I'm new here- just decided to finally make a profile after being a lurker for forever. I made the profile just to answer the question here. I'm a high school math teacher. Our state Board of Regents just changed the requirements for admission into universities here. Students in the state must now have 4 years of math and/or some other requirements regarding ACT and GPA. Before getting her out of the class, I would definitely check the Board of Regents requirements for your area and make sure that she meets them before letting her drop. If not, are there perhaps some statistics classes available. That class is the worst (in my opinion, lol), but it is much easier than calculus. Also, at our schools here, students are not allowed to drop the first semester. Once you are in there, you are stuck and have to do your best unless you have an IEP. I'm assuming since your child is in calc, there is no IEP, or at least not the type that would allow dropping a hard class.
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