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That was true at one time. It no longer is true.




No, that is not the case. 

Wow, this really sent me through my memories of moments like this. I was dwelling in them for a moment and I really like Lexica's idea of talking to her on the porch when you smell the smoke.  
I'm so sorry you lost her. 

I'm so very sorry. 

OMG! Dorinda! That bitch!
I don't want to spoil it for anyone, but after all that bitching. What she does in the last few minutes of the last day of the girl's trip... I bet Tamra's head exploded when she watched that.🤯

I've always wanted to do that!!! If we ever win big, that would be my new hobby.
We'd be paying people's bill at grocery stores,  gas stations,  at the dollar store, handing out 50s...
Where else would we find people that could really use a little help?
Man, that would be so fun!

Yes! Aside from putting the moves on Phaedra, this is what stood out so much.  She puts a sign in their room that says no food in the room, then she puts cupcakes in their room, her assistant brings them more food and drinks in their room, then she looses her mind for them eating in their room. 

Well, there ya' go onelasttime, they ARE appearing on MSNBC. Thanks aj2hall.

Fox News wants people to hear opposing viewpoints.  MSNBC doesn't. 

You're responding to dottyscrapper. You're dismissing and laughing at dottyscrapper. 

Bullshit. YOU ARE ON a thread about bullying. With other people telling you that they are being bullied. You seem to so desperately "need" to dismiss that fact. 


No. YOU are WRONG. I have and I have and I will continue to. So by evidence, (again) that clearly isn't the issue either. 
That's just yet another in a long string of bullshit reasons. Every single time "you" throw out a reason why it's the person getting bullied's fault, it gets debunked, so you come up with another verifiable bullshit reason. 

The issue sure looks like some of you have a need to control the narrative. You won't allow any other opinion. OTHER PEAS have been saying this repeatedly. For years. 
Not all by a long shot, but just a handful of examples:

Fred/onelasttime- "There is no question the folks on this board can be supportive, they can be informative, they can be helpful, & they can be funny.
And this is reflected in the majority of the threads on this board.
But why can’t that be the case for all the threads regardless of the topic?
We are adults, we should be able to engage with others without resorting to name calling, hurtful labeling, & pettiness if they don’t agree with how we see the world. Or say or do what we want them to."

Myshelly- "I was just saying in another thread that the Peas are trying really, really hard to run people off these days. I think peas are being a lot more personal in their attacks."

mnmloveli- "JUST COULDN’T ACCEPT HER OPINIONS AND THE NAME CALLING & CURSING NEVER STOPPED FROM THE PITCHFORK PEAS."

lisacharlote- "My own experience here is that there are a few very self righteous peas who make any comment they don’t agree with a call to arms. It’s disheartening. I haven’t blocked anyone. But I read less and less here because everything is a battle. And it’s the same battle every time, with the same comments from the same peas all agreeing with each other."

gmcwife- "A large group of peas have to spread their hate and ugliness into every corner of the board.
Sadly they have changed the tone of the board. If you don’t think like them or agree with them you might be next."

iamkristinl16 - "I do think that some of the comments towards peas have gotten very personal and mean. I am not happy that Leowife left... Calling names isn't helpful. I know that sometimes I "like" a post that is harsh (either in my brain or actually hit the like button) because my knee jerk reaction is to agree with it. But I am trying to be more aware of that. I think we should all pay more attention to what we say and respond in a way that we would in person, not just online."

bdhardy- "Yep - I love discussion, but everything here has become a fight and if you don't agree with someone then you must be an idiot."

skellington- "I think there are just a few peas who resort to the very specific, personal and nasty name calling. ...their delivery sucks, so I just put then on ignore. Couple that with the 2 or 3 that are just assholes in general... Granted they do post a damn lot,"

Darcy Collins- "Now it's harder and harder to avoid the annoying peas. It's not just that the political discussions are heated - it's that the vast majority of threads are either completely inactive or devolve into the same ugliness. ETA and if people think that the only nastiness is people calling out racism, you're fooling yourselves. That is not what's going on here."

lisacharlotte- "If all we’re left with are the rabid thread hogs and no diversity of thought or position, I guess the prolific peas get what they want and a bubble they can all agree in. That’s not why I’m here. YMMV"

beebee- "But she is allowed to have her opinion as well.That is what annoys me about this board. People are mocked and called names and cussed at if they dare to have a different opinion. We should be able to disagree and have a conversation without tearing each other down."

Darcy Collins- "I'm kind of sick of this continuous reaction when people point out that there are some bitches on here - and in general the board is not as entertaining - 'oh no the conservative peas are snowflakes calling us mean" coupled with "it was way worse back in the day.""

*KAS*- "I saw somebody yesterday (wasn't paying attention to who it was, but I know others agreed with them) that said they didn't care if there were any conservatives on this board or something to that effect. I wish more people could be on the outside looking in and see how awful they are treating each other and be willing to listen and learn from each other."

MizIndependent- "Some people just can't stand to have their views challenged. They are the ones who resort to name calling and intimidation. It's really shameful because there is A LOT to learn from opposing points of view."

Darcy Collins- "Simply pointing out when someone posts something blatantly false is met with derision and profanity. Someone frustrated with SIP orders is vilified. There was a multi page echo chamber rant on how fiscal conservatism really means you're a selfish bastard. Stop pretending that anytime someone disagrees with you they're an evil trump supporter and perhaps we could actually have dialogue on this board again."

beebee- "I don't have a problem with pushing back on something. But if it is clear that people are set on not moving on their position (which they have that right), wouldn't it be better to just let it go and move on?? Instead the threads go to hatefulness and personal attacks with a lot of F words thrown in for good measure. What does that accomplish? Dialogue is shut down at that point."



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When this many peas are saying these things. Repeatedly, for years...

That's so easy for you to say when you ARE allowed an opinion.
This goes so much farther than having your ego bruised because you might have been wrong, or even bruised because you might have been right but the vocal majority won't let that stand. It goes SO MUCH FURTHER than needing a "thick skin". 
It's having outright VICIOUS lies said about what you have said, or even about you in order to literally call you a monster. It's about saying you add nothing to the board, telling people not to engage, calling you vicious names, attacking your mental ability and then gathering the group to pile on and throw rocks at a Pea so they leave. Many do.

What's MY crime and anyone like me? Having a different opinion, showing another possibility, showing grace, having facts that contradict a Pea narrative. All stated WITHOUT personal attacks and demonizing the other person. My demeanor doesn't matter though, they'll just lie and say you never answered (when you did) or that you're supporting racism, sexism, or whatever pertains, and have several people come along in agreement. Or keep engaging you and THEN demonize you in tag team fashion because you responded. As LETTUCE pointed out. Or dozens of other dishonest tactics meant to get you to sit down and shut up. 

That's absolutely, irrefutably wrong behavior anywhere, and if my presenting another ACTUAL possibility of what someone said THAT WAS NOT RACIST is "defending racism" or saying that the video clip is missing what actually happened and I want to see what's missing before I believe the protester OR the police is "defending police brutality", then your post, by those same standards,  is defending bullying bullies who bully. 

Except, we all know the rules change when "you" do it. 

And if it's not as combative TO YOU as the old board, it's because YOU have almost NO pushback, the vocal majority backing you up, and those that still do push back in conversation have been demonized so effectively into no one listening to them, or at times even being blocked. I can't imagine why anyone would delete their account and try to start over.

It's amazing that early on under "pixiechick" I was complemented on how refreshing it was to hear from someone with a different point of view that didn't resort to personal attacks. I haven't change since the beginning, but the difference in how people receive me now, is because of HOW I've been painted for backing up my facts and opinions instead of accepting I am always wrong. Nothing has changed. I stayed respectful. I still have reasonable discussions and disagreements with peas that don't resort to personal attacks. But look, now I'm called a troll. No one calls the person that continuously rewrites what I say in order to argue against something I didn't even say, a troll. That's absolute troll behavior, but they don't get called on it. No one calls the person that lied and said I left out part of her post, a troll. Even when it's right there in black and white to verify. No one called the person that lied about what I said in order to literally call me a monster, a troll. It's verifiable and yet people still go along with "your" lies.  

Hell, even keriwest was accused of calling peoples names. She didn't have many posts at the time so I went through them and not once had she called people names. Not one time. She still doesn't have many more posts since then. But had she kept posting she would have the same false reputation as I do, slapped on her as an absolute truth. 
People see this. If they place any value on this board at all, they know not to push back if they don't want to go through this shit. 

So no, this is not about needing a thick skin. This goes so much farther than needing a thick skin.

Unless you're talking about the people that do all of the above mentioned to people because they can't stand ever being wrong. Maybe THEY need a thicker skin to be able to converse with people with different ideas, conclusions, opinions and facts, without trying to run them off in some vile, dehumanizing way.