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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 14, 2014 13:52:11 GMT
Not exactly, though I do remember being shocked in high school when one of my best friends told me that when we'd first met, he had thought I was a bitch. At the time, I was much more introverted and had a hard time meeting new people, not realizing that my discomfort could come across as bitchy.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 14, 2014 4:00:13 GMT
All great! thanks!
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 14, 2014 3:50:59 GMT
Just finished watching the Florida/Kentucky game (since FSU has a bye week). DH''s phone has been blowing up with him and his buddies gloating over how badly Florida was sucking. But the Gators pulled it out. Ugly win!
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 14, 2014 1:49:03 GMT
The students in my African-American lit class, who are primarily African-American, often shock me with the differences in how they are/were raised to what I consider acceptable. Discussions of "whooping" or beatings and the like are common. And many of them, technically adults, have affirmed that if they sasses a parent or grandparent, they would still expect to get "popped" across the face.
I'm not condoning what Adrian Peterson did to his son. What I am saying is that the culture is different. When he says he doesn't consider it abuse, he's probably telling the truth.
But I'm not sure that I would call him anyone's father. He's a sperm donor. He reminds me of some of the male students I've had who had goals of seeing how many different girls they could get pregnant before they graduated. just sick!
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 12, 2014 4:42:41 GMT
As a professor and a parent, if my child had come home with this assignment, I would have been one of the parents waiting at the principal's door the next day. The wording in the directions makes it clear that the teacher has an agenda. ALL presidents have been accused of amusing their power at one point or another. Why choose Bush, a president that sixth grade students won't remember, unless the teacher is trying to make a political point. I would suggest a better comparison would have been between Hitler and either Mussolini or Stalin.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 12, 2014 4:27:30 GMT
I liked the winning looks, but I STILL don't get the love for whatever-the-Indian-chick's-name-is. That outfit wasn't avant grade; it was playground tacky. It seriously looked as if someone let a bunch of kindergarteners loose on a plastic raincoat and then threw it over the tackiest Walmart jumpsuit she could find. HIDEOUS.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 7, 2014 14:45:23 GMT
I just can't understand how anyone with a shred of conscience can participate in such acts. I just can't. Something is profoundly broken in the criminals (how can we consider them kids?) who came up with and carried out this "prank."
Unless the parents are just as broken as the kids, they should have recognized the signs. Normal people, ones who care about others and respect others' feelings, don't just wake up one day and decide to humiliate a child by dumping shit on him. I also can't believe that no one at the school has outed the perpetrators either. What does that say about the culture of this area?
At a minimum, kids should be expelled, convicted of assault and hate crimes, and spend prison time, where they can learn what it is like to be bullied and humiliated without the protection of their rich mommies and daddies.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 7, 2014 0:01:49 GMT
Yes, I have broken a toe. I didn't even get it taped. I spent several weeks wearing only open-toed shoes, and it turned a most delightful purple-green-yellow color. Today I can tell which one was broken just because it has a slightly more pronounced bump at the last joint.
Like your DH . . . uh, friend . . . I kicked a doorframe, in my case in the middle of the night, getting up half asleep to stumble to the bathroom.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 5, 2014 13:15:40 GMT
I'm with those who think dipping is something disgusting done with chewing tobacco, but I have heard my students saying, "let's bounce" and understood that they meant "leave."
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 4, 2014 0:22:08 GMT
There are no requirements here for giving notice. Teachers sometimes do quit at the beginning of the year, usually because they were waiting for another position to be officially opened at another school or to be officially informed that they have the position.
While it can be hard on the kids, I can't imagine that in other careers, you'd expect a person to quit before she had official signed contract for new position in hand. Why would anyone expect a teacher to turn in her resignation and cross her fingers that the dream job would come through?
I totally get the teachers who are working in bad districts, too. My college has had several people wait until the absolute last minute to put in their notice simply because administration has made faculty lives hell.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 3, 2014 12:50:43 GMT
Reading y'all's vents, I am SO glad that DH teaches in DS's school so they get in early and I don't have to deal with this crap.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 3, 2014 12:48:25 GMT
It would be the lack of AC that would be my undoing. When we lived in Boston, we had a really rough winter. 80 plus inches of snow and cold. I kept saying "what were the pilgrims thinking?" They could have headed further south! Yet every time a hurricane knocks out our power when it's 90+ degrees out, I'm always wondering what kind of idiots moved to Florida before air conditioning was invented. Unless you live directly ON the beach with a constant sea breeze, it's miserable.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 1, 2014 21:18:23 GMT
I do the Pinterest thing with my spaghetti strap layering tanks. The only problem is that the shower rings slide to one end of the hanger, but once I filled up the hanger with rings, everything worked. I use this method for my scarves but not sure about tanks...do the squish and get wrinkly? I am also considering changing my scarf storage to just bundling in drawers. Hanging them has not made them any easier to put away They don't get so wrinkly that I notice, and since I'm layering them, most of the time all that shows is a little near the cleavage. I'm hoping people will get distracted by the boobage instead!
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 1, 2014 14:30:04 GMT
I do the Pinterest thing with my spaghetti strap layering tanks. The only problem is that the shower rings slide to one end of the hanger, but once I filled up the hanger with rings, everything worked.
I don't have dressy tanks, so everything else is folded neatly in a drawer.
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Post by Pahina722 on Sept 1, 2014 14:24:57 GMT
For me, it starts even earlier. Since I know I'm going to be returning with lots of things that store in the frig, freezer, and pantry, I have to clean out and rearrange those before I head out to Sam's. Otherwise, all that food ends up sitting out too long as I cuss at the crap I'm pulling out of the back of the frig that I can't even identify any more. Or the cake mixes with expiration dates in the last decade I'm a really good bargain shopper. It would be wonderful if I actually USED all those great bargains!
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 31, 2014 14:21:00 GMT
What a sad story. I hope both kids will be ok in the future. I came here to post about my job and what I've seen, but Merge beat me to it, so I'll just quote her. That is terrible. We have a couple of kids in the behavior support class at our school who are very violent and seem to be set off by anything and nothing. And they're very strong. Our entire admin team plus the PE teacher and some others all had to be trained to do safe restraints because it takes two adults to restrain these children - and they are six and seven years old. So yeah, I can imagine them hurting a playmate at three. It's really very sad. Yep, I used to work with kiddos like this. I remember there was one in particular when I 1st started working that had physically attacked a couple of kids at school. After that he was moved to the EBD unit, but would sometimes be transitioning in the halls with the other students when they were transitioning as well. This kid would pick on this one little girl, and whisper things like, "I'm going to come to your house, murder your sister in front of you and then rape you", etc. This poor girl was absolutely terrified to come to school. It was heartbreaking. I've only had 2 clients who have ever seriously freaked me out, and that was one of them. And situations like these make me question the US education system's bias for the exceptional children at the expense of the "norm." If this were an adult making such threats, he would be prosecuted and removed. But because they're kids and 'everyone is entitled to a free, public education', this girl and, I'm sure, the rest of the class have to suffer. It just shouldn't happen. Institutionalization of these kids seems too harsh, yet how do we convince ourselves that traumatizing other children is okay as long as this one terror gets his education? Why do his rights to an education trump the rights of all the other children to a safe environment?
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 31, 2014 14:07:16 GMT
Easy Peasy.
Click into the thread.
Click the drop down Actions in the upper right.
Click Bookmark.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 30, 2014 14:28:12 GMT
You're right: this situation sucks. What doesn't is the love that shines through every word of your post. Thank you for showing us what true friendship is and can be AND for being there for your friend and his family.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 30, 2014 14:20:35 GMT
DS's school uses Moodle for the mandated teacher we pages through which students can access their assignments. DH, who teaches at the same school, doesn't like Moodle, but he doesn't have a choice. They enter through a school portal.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 30, 2014 14:16:59 GMT
The Hunger Games Outlander Miles Vorkosigian series by Lois McMaster Bujold (sci if series about a genius born with severe physical issues) Dragonriders of Pern The Hollows series (alternate dystopian earth where witches, fairies, and vampires are very real) Patricia Briggs Mercy Thompson series and Alpha and Omega series (shape shifters and werewolves) Faith Hunter's Jane Yellowrock series (shape shifting vampire hunter)
I could go on and on. I'm a scifi junkie, a genre which tends to series.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 30, 2014 13:29:31 GMT
I think I watch too much crime TV.
Although horrifying, it didn't come across as a WTF situation. I have seen too many programs featuring a psychopathic child who deliberately hurts others or read about real life ones like Jani Schofield mentioned above for this to strike me as unreal. While thankfully such children are very rare, they do exist and apparently there is almost nothing that can be done to help them.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 30, 2014 0:32:06 GMT
If someone texts with a question, I don't assume that there will be a conversation after I answer. If someone calls with an "OMG, have you heard?" text, then I expect a conversation. When DH, for example, texts that he's on his way home, that requires an acknowledgement that I got it, but nothing more.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 30, 2014 0:05:30 GMT
I don't mind trilogies as long as each can stand on its own. If I HAVE to read another one to get closure, then I'm not so happy. On the other hand, I love series, like the Dark- Hunters or Outlander. Some might not be as strong as others, but I love world-building authors.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 29, 2014 21:18:44 GMT
Amanda doesn't bother me , but I'm not a huge fan of her clothes. In fact, I thought both of the challenges she won, her designs were hideous. Partially, I'm not a big fan of fringe and patchwork, but more I just can't imagine a real person wearing those dresses. I DID, though like her dress last night.
Kini should have some wins. I understand that the outfit the judges liked best was Sean' s DESIGN, but a substantial portion of it was sewn by Kini.
Those yellow monstrosities? WTH were they thinking? They both should have gone home for those.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 29, 2014 14:36:18 GMT
You don't know what the parents did or did not do/know/try with their son. And, despite everything they might have done, he could still have chosen to go to a bar, get in a brawl, and end up dead. Unless Mommy and Daddy are prepared to shadow their child every second of his adult life, they can never protect him from his own bad choices.
Example: my nephew was kicked out of middle school for stealing his grandmother's pills and selling them to kids. His grandparents immediately put him into therapy and rehab. He totaled two cars and wracked up three DUI's before he turned 18. Back to rehab and counseling again. The pattern continues. He's now almost 29, has never lived on his own, is in and out of jail and rehabs, yet refuses to stop drinking and just generally being an asshat. My parents (his grandparents) have spent well over $100,000 on rehabs, lawyer and court fees, counseling, etc., while his father continues to keep him employed (at least when he's not in jail) despite his behavior. NEPHEW doesn't care and doesn't want to change.
So, to repeat, you have no idea what the parents' response was in the past, yet you're essentially blaming them for their son's death. As a PP said, "there but for the grace of God go I . . . And perhaps YOU."
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 29, 2014 2:45:49 GMT
Along the lines of On the Beach, Alas Babyon freaked me out as a teen and made me realize how little it would take to change our whole world.
The Mists of Avalon triggered my love of all things Arthurian and alternative histories.
As a child, A Little Princess: I cried every time I read it.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 29, 2014 2:34:24 GMT
Mornings are EVIL. I have to get up at 6:30, which is much better than the 5:15 I did for years to get DS and I to our respective schools by 7:30, but still about two hours earlier than I would wake up naturally. It makes me feel tired for the whole day no matter how early I went to bed the night before.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 29, 2014 2:27:59 GMT
Another thing I hate - I am having trouble understanding a real relationship, one that isn't built on a house of lies. Funny enough, I trust SO completely, even after living through years of infidelity and lie upon lie but what I can't understand is that he wants to be with me, wants to do nice things for me, wants to spend the rest of his life with me. The ex claimed all that too but obviously his actions and words didn't match. I know SO is not the ex but after more than 26 years with a man that had me fooled for most of those years, I'm still a little screwed up and insecure and unsure of my ability to read people.
Although I don't feel this way any more, I know exactly what y'all are saying because ^^^^ this is exactly what I felt like for the first two or three years that DH and I were together. I hated how badly Ex screwed up my trust in my own instincts. I hate that he made me feel like a failure, and I hate even more that I let him make me feel less than. On the other hand, my life now is so much MORE than it ever was with the ex, and his is so much worse than ours was. I love karma.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 27, 2014 20:17:58 GMT
I come from a gun-owning family, where tweeners if they are interested are trained to shoot. But they start with a LOT of safety training before they ever pick up a gun and use only small calibre, non-automatic weapons until they are legal adults. I haven't had a chance to ask my father, an avid hunter, what he thinks of this situation, but I'm sure it will be along the lines of WTF was the family thinking? No civilian needs an automatic or semiautomatic weapon. They just don't.
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Post by Pahina722 on Aug 27, 2014 12:51:52 GMT
That's scary Meg!! I have done it occasionally but more along the lines of ending up where I wanted to be but without remembering anything about the journey....I don't think I've ever ended up somewhere unexpected. This is my autopilot ^^^^^ It can be frustrating since I teach at two different campuses. If I'm not paying attention, autopilot kicks in and automatically sends me to my "home" campus when I need to be at the satellite one. Lately, autopilot engages in the driveway, forcing me to circle back to my house to be sure I closed the garage door.
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