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Post by nlwilkins on May 21, 2019 7:11:38 GMT
If you write anything, some people may take that as a reccomendation. Even a neutral letter means you were willing to put yourself out there to help her get hired. Is that what you want? Do you think she is a good teacher and would be an asset to any school? If not, then don't write anything. Just tell her since her actions have added to your workload you no longer have time to write a letter.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 20, 2019 5:38:28 GMT
Menopause can be a looooong drawn out process so settle in for the long haul. It helps to know this when determing how much to spend on coping mechanisms. Get a ceiling fan now it helps with the night sweats. Figure out what home remedies work and invest in some. Get cotton under garments to help with the sweats. Knowing that you will be needing these remedies for sevearl years or more makes it easier to spend the money to help make it more bearable I hope I'm doing this quote thing right. I usually just read, but I'm trying to join in more. LOL. Anyway, "long haul?" Seriously? How long we talking about here? LOL! I'm already done with this crap. I already only wear cotton, because I hate anything else, and I sleep with a fan already, so I guess I'm SOL on the night sweats? That sucks. Are there any other coping mechanisms you can recommend? Sorry, everybody is different. things that work with some don't help others. If the hot flashes are what is the main issue (althouth there are others. focus on one at a time here LOL) Figure out what will cool you down in a hurry. An ice pack? Keep something by the bed that helps like a wet washcloth in a baggie to cool you down. With me, a wet washcloth to the neck area helped. Get one of those old fashioned ice bags that you can put on the hottest part of your body. The ice will stay cold for a long time during the night. Just fill it up with ice every night before going to bed. But, I got hot flashed during the day as well. When that happened, I had to stop, sit and fan myself til it went away. Also, you might consider sleep remedies that just let you sleep through it Now that I wear a cPap machine, I will put my wrists where the air flow comes out to help cool me down. I sleep that way. Yes, I still have hot flashes when I started menopause in my 40's. (started early due to hysterectomy.)
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Post by nlwilkins on May 19, 2019 18:11:44 GMT
Menopause can be a looooong drawn out process so settle in for the long haul. It helps to know this when determing how much to spend on coping mechanisms. Get a ceiling fan now it helps with the night sweats. Figure out what home remedies work and invest in some. Get cotton under garments to help with the sweats. Knowing that you will be needing these remedies for sevearl years or more makes it easier to spend the money to help make it more bearable.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 19, 2019 18:06:04 GMT
Interesting. Politicians jump on so many band wagons that it is hard to keep track. Where are the ones who want to make it possible to feed those babies once they are born? or to educate, put a roof over their heads, clothe and so on. Mothers need to be able to be a part of thier children's lives instead of having to work three jobs to make ens meet.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 19, 2019 17:58:07 GMT
My vote is for irritation beyond belief.
I think my husband pulls this stuff cause he can. He can go to Amazon, pick out what he wants, put it in the basket, and then he brings me his laptop to pay for it. I have shown him numourous times how all he has to do is hit return and the log in info is automatically entered, but he just woon't do it. Anything computer related he pulls a dumb act. But this man can get online and learn how to do the most complicated things with no problem, he can build an airplane from pieces, he can put a new rear end in the Pick up truck and so on. He used to have to use an CAD at work as a machinist. He just prefers for me to do stuff for him. Oh and this is excuse for not getting me presents as well. He has younger daugther get them for him.
Let me tell you haw it started - we had just got married about 50 years ago and he came to me and said that since my handwriting was so much more legible than his would I please do the bills. Like an innocent, twenty year old newlywed, I was thrilled to do so. It all went downhill from there.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 17, 2019 21:57:49 GMT
If he can afford vaping, he can afford to pay his way - rent, food, car insurance and so on. Make it about money. Tell him if he has money to waste, then you no longer need to support him and figure out a weekly bill for what he gets from you all. Pretty soon, he will figure out that vaping is too expensive Hopefully. Or,charge a home tax on vaping that he is required to pay every week he vapes.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 17, 2019 5:10:38 GMT
It is so hard to make that decision. Been there. What helped me was to look up what would happen if we waited for our fur babies to pass on their own. The idea of my babies going through that was appalling.
What if you wait too long and your precious goes into convulsions or some other awful experience due to end of life issues. It is better to go a few daysor weeks too early than a few minutes too late. The time it would take for you to bundle her into the car and get her to a vet could be horrendous. Plus, it depriives her of a peaceful passing and gives you such a horrible memory of her last moments.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 17, 2019 4:53:34 GMT
I just tell them that I love what I do and try to get them to take it home as my house is full of my creations - books, mixed media, quilts, afghans, fairy houses, etc.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 17, 2019 4:49:08 GMT
Sounds like he needed to get the V and kudos to him for that. I also get why he can't tell her, she would not handle it well even if he were not "trying" to get her pregnant. But, she needs help big time. That should be where he should focus his efforts. Going along with her efforts to get pregnant is cruel and the longer he lets it ride the worse it will get. Staying for the children is just a cop out in my mind. His children need a well mother and a father that is actively trying to get the family on its feet and off welfare.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 16, 2019 5:14:14 GMT
I'm a little confused. Is your son needing some sort of help from this professor or what? Why is he writing him otherwise? Your son needs to figure out how the professor can help him that is not too labor intensive. Perhap some tips on determing where he should be focusing his time, or maybe classes he could take to help him find his focus. Maybe the professor could use an office assistant and your son could ask about that.
But, I don't believe a letter without a purpose is not soemthing that would get the professors attention or get a response.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 13, 2019 4:23:33 GMT
Actually, don't you cut from the outside first to have only one open edge to keep the cake from drying out? I remember when we used to put the heels from loaves of bread over the cut edges to keep the cake moist. So there is a reason for cutting the from outside or from one side.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 11, 2019 7:29:13 GMT
My mom was a lot of things but totally awesome. She just did not have it in her to be a good mother. She loved us and did the best she could by us, but the hugs and cuddle times just were not there. She had a lot going on and was raising four kids by herself with no family support.
But she was an awwesomem women. There was nothing she could not do and she taught us that what ever we wanted to do we could do it whether was build a set of shelves, sew a prom dress, learn to dance in a Filipino folk dance troup, or fry up chicken for 100 people. All of these things I did while in my teens.
I owe her a lot. She taught us to be honest and respnsible. To this day I cannot tell a lie, even a compliment it if is not deserved. She taught us to work hard and do it right the first time - if it is worth doing, it is worth doing right. Yep, that is me. We learned how to make do and not to whine. We learned not to expect people to do for us. But, we also learned how to accept help graciously and how to tell when it was needed and how to ask for it. We learned how to give and give and give of ourselves until nowdays I enjoy giving gifts more than getting them.
I miss my Mother and have dreams where she is still alive often.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 9, 2019 10:20:24 GMT
We are at an impasse. (noun) We are at war. ( war is a verb in this sentence) Same as victory, it can be a verb or a noun. I may be wrong, but isn't the word "war" in the second sentence a a predicate noun or rather the noun of a prepositional phrase that is acting like a predicte noun prefaced by the linking verb "are"? To the original post: I looked this up and looked and looked. Words that are synomons of impasse also use an article such as deadlock, stalemate, standstill. But, you can also use descriptors instead of articles such as: political impasse, obvious impasse or big impasse, seeming impasse. In the samples you gave, you kind of need the extra word in there because of the hard constanants before the vowel - say them a few times with and without the article and you will find the article serves as a bridge between the two. I suspect there is some grammar rule having to do with words beginning with a vowel that is involved.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 7, 2019 4:10:37 GMT
either clay or cardboard. If you mod podge two layers of cereal box together they peices end up pretty hard. Cut holes in the shapes and string them together. I Googled the character and saw the necklace is kind of like tear drops with holes in the fat end and just strung on a string or cord. Actually, I wonder if they were teeth. ![](https://66.media.tumblr.com/7015a19265e367c05cdaed278eafeaf3/tumblr_p6cg7uVfTq1v7b6rzo1_400.jpg) ![](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=images&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwiP17GmxojiAhVPb60KHc3ZCPEQjRx6BAgBEAU&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tumblr.com%2Ftagged%2Ffate-gilgamesh&psig=AOvVaw3snZZq3rFexcFRSOD2UyUF&ust=1557288337806827)
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Post by nlwilkins on May 7, 2019 3:55:48 GMT
Don't make decisions based on short term situations. Your kids are more than half way there soon they will be taking care of their own activies so these issues will only last a few years. I know it seems like a long time, but really it will be over soon and what shift your husband works will longer be an issue. It will be handy having him off in the morning so he can take care of sick children, or their drs. appt and the like. Also he can get so much done in the mornings if he learns how to get in bed as soon as he gets home.
Its completely do-able. You learn what is most important and priotize. Your mom could possibly enjoy the tme spent with the grandkids and it would be a great way for her to connect and be there for them. Like was mentioned above, hubby can take over norming duties so you can perhaps go into school earlier and have meetings and grade papers then - or take papers home to grade.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 7, 2019 3:32:03 GMT
What a great example to all of us! Awesome!
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Post by nlwilkins on May 3, 2019 6:22:50 GMT
I am sorry you are having to go through this. It is normal to feel nervous. But if it keeps you from getting enough sleep, or keeps you too antsy, you might try some relaxation techniques. Look online find some that appeal to you.
So, here is what I do cause I have had a few surgeries, really more than a few. I think of what handwork I am going to take to the hospital to keep my hands busy - can't stand doinng nothing. I plan meals that I am going to send my husband to get for me. I stock up on points or energy for my laptop games (don't like using the hospital wifi to pay for that stuff and I splurge on that stuff when in the hosptil) And other plans like that. For me a stay in the hospital is like free time and guilt free time to spend however I can. Thinking how I can spoil myself and planning for it helps to keep my mind off the actual reason I am going to be there (the surgery) My family laughs over the laptop games cause the last time I came out of surgery and before I was really "awake" I was seeing my current game in 3D, it wass so cool! (In normal times I limit myself on how long I play my laptop) I know the next time I have to go into the hospital I am taking my diffuser to keep my room smelling good. See, I am already kind of looking forward to another stay CRAZY I know
Anyway, planning for the stay and other minor details can help keep your mind busy and off the scarey stuff. What are you going to do about your hair? What will you pack to wear? Will you want family there? If so arrange visiting times so they don't all come at the same time. How about a nice shopping trip for a pretty robe that you will feel comfortable walking the halls in. (they always wanted me up and walking UGH)
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 25, 2019 4:48:08 GMT
We just updated one of our bathrooms. We did not replace the tub or the tile around it but replaced the sink and counter top and the flooring, It made it so much better and was all that was needed. Oh, we did paint the cabinets.
I like the clean look and feel of tile instead of fiberglass. So I would vote for the tile. If you stay on top of it, cleaning is not so hard.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 23, 2019 16:46:23 GMT
When I was in kind of the same situation (could not visit because loved one was in hospital and I had to stay away from all the germs) I sent a card EVERY SINGLE DAY. Mu husband went for me and took the cards. Between sending the husband and sending the cards, I felt OK with not being able to visit. Though when it was the last day, and we were told it was the last day, I went.
You have to do what you feel will work for you. Perhaps, being emotional is what your grandmother needs. A good cry sometimes clears the air. If you whole family knows how emotional you can get, surely your grandmother knows too. Perhaps you can ask another relative who is visiting her to feel her out on the idea of you coming and the fact that you would not be able to hold it all in. Maybe your grandmother would be OK with that. Or maybe she would say for you to stay home as she could not deal with it.
For me the important thing would be what would be good for grandmother and to know that I did everything I could do and thus not have regrets.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 21, 2019 21:02:38 GMT
Check the toilet water tank. Use a metal detector to find things in the walls. look in the flour and sugar canisters, cereal boxes, cornmeal storage, etc. Pull up the matresses to be sure there is nothing between them or under them, check to make sure they have not been cut open and treasure stuffed inside the mattress. Look in luggage, in vcr and dvd cases, up inside the chimney, behinnd clocks, bottom of potted plants,
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 21, 2019 1:36:54 GMT
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 19, 2019 16:43:59 GMT
I use Google news. You can choose your news sources in the setting and can determine how you want your page to look and the order of what is show.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 19, 2019 16:40:38 GMT
bumping ride in car?
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 14, 2019 8:11:39 GMT
The original will still stand and the amendment will require a check. We have the same issue, only our left out W2 was for much more. We were so excitd that we were going to get a refund. Well we will, but will have to send in a check for almost all of the refund amount with the amended return. Its going out in the mail Monday. If I were you, I would get your amendment in the mail on time too so as to not have interesst due on the amount owed on the missing W2.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 10, 2019 5:04:12 GMT
Don't forget to vacum under the bed! I tested as allergic to dust mites and have done all the mentioned things above. A few things I might mention is to change the comforter to a thin bedspread, one that is easy to wash. A textured blanket type one might work best. You can get them cheaper at Tuesday Morning and perhaps get two or three so as to be able to change them out more often. I am serious about vacumming under the bed - with a queen size bed you might have to lift up the matress to do a good job. We had a king and I would lift the mattress up from the head and tilt/lean it to the wall at the foot of the bed to be able to get in and vacum. It was a chore I did once a week for many years.
It sounds like she has a lot of stuff on her bed. You might minimize your work by switching out to a twin size bed or if you need room for an extra person, a bunk bed. Twin sheets and bedspreads are a lot eaiser to wash than queen. Check out the curains. Are they washable? use short curtains instead of long ones, easier to wash. Mite proof matress covers need to be changed out periodically. Check the info sheet you get with them. I am thinking it was once a year, but maybe they have changed since I used them. Use foam pillows, no feathers. Get cheap matresses that can be discarded and replaced every few years. I am sure I don't have to tell you not to get used ones.
This will be a way of life for her, routines need to be started and learned now that will be used her entire life. Its a shame she won't use a Neti Pot, but that is something that can't be forced and I completely understand her revulsion. Maybe you can introduce it to her gradually. Like at first just get some of the water in the nose and let it run back out. Even that would help. If she persist in using the saiine spray, learn how to make your own and make sure she uses it several times a day or more.
Sinus infections can be real serious. I had a sphenoid infections that turned into a fungus ball. It crystalized and was a major hassel to remove. The first ENT could not do it so had the surgery twice and the second one had to do major work making the opening to the sphenoid larger so he could get in and do what needed to be done. There is such a thin wall between your sphenoid and your brain...don't want to scare you but it can get hairy. Just can't stress enough how serious you need to take this.
About the needle thing - those shots really helped me. I eventually learned how to give them to myself and found then not nearly as scary as when someone else was giving me them. The needle is tiny and short and so easy to do. You pinch up a bunch of skin and fat on your leg and poke the needle into that. The pinching seems to help numb the needle stick.
OOPS got so long sorry
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 9, 2019 8:54:30 GMT
Well, I caught the bug and have been tossing, bagging for charity and organizing. Don't know how long this will last, but have got a bunch done. Sadly, you can't tell much difference - LOL Our recycle bin is full so tossing more paper will have to wait till after Thrusday pick up day.
Meanwhile goals include: going through medical receipts and sorting my year - yep years, there are at least three years in that stack Sorting out my linen closet and donating at least half a shelf or maybe a whole one Purging my closet of at least a fourth of the clothes in there Making the guest room usable (next month I'll work on organizing the closet in there)
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 7, 2019 7:36:31 GMT
We have always bought new cars and ran them until we could not get parts anymore. We have 19 year old mustang in the driveway along with a 14 year old truck and the SIL is driving our 17 year old truck. My car was pruchased for me new two years ago and we are hoping it will be the last car we ever buy. Hubby is a great mechanie and can fix just about anything wrong with a car. Though we take body work to the experts to do. Two years ago he put in a new rear end in the 19 year old truck and it still rides so smooth that I call it our cruiser. Its a F150 with a camper and great for long trips.
One of our trucks sits up on the family property and is being used as a storage unit. It gets cranked up now and then to make sure it can be moved, but it would not do to drive it on the public roads.
We would not buy used cars as you never know how they were treated and how much life they have left in them.
Interesting story - we had a 1970 Ford pick up that was on its last legs. Hubby traded it in on another vehicle and three months later it was found alongside the road with a rod through the engine. It used regular gas, not unleaded gas and this was a common problem for cars and trucks when you could no longer get plain gas. We managed to unload that one just in time.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 1, 2019 2:28:41 GMT
Perhaps just a message in the prgram on the day of the wedding would do. If you don't have a printed program planned, then perhaps a sign in the parking lot? I realy don't see the need for it to appear in the invite. Surely parents don't need to know they should not let their children run loose at a wedding, At least that should not be a determining factor as to wether they come or not.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 31, 2019 3:06:49 GMT
Oh wow! I had no choice. Disposable werre just coming out and they were awful. This was the early 70's. Cloth diapers were just plain white pieces of "diaper" fabric that you folded in different ways depending upon the sex of your baby. You rinsed them out in the commode and put them in a diaper pail until you had a load.
Then each of us had our own routine. I would wash first in the washer just to rinse them out good. Then would wash them again with soap and clorox, no fabric softner, and pop into the dryer. Night time diapers were doubled to last the night. Towards the end on the second child they werre tripled for night time and doubled for day time because they became so thin. It was necessary to cover the diapers all the time with rubber/plastic diaper covers. But still if diaper changing was late, you would sometimes have leakage. When going out we would carry bread bags in the diaper bag to hold the dirty diapers.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 29, 2019 6:22:25 GMT
Love hearing the happy! We should do this more often.
My happy is I just put the last stitch in a quilt I started years ago. It kept being shoved back into the closet while I worked on other quilts. ALSO I got the next quilt sandwiched and ready for the quilting tomorrow. If feels so goood to cross off these unfinished projects
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