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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 24, 2019 2:36:23 GMT
Actually, I would save the walk in closet for my use for seasonal storage or other long term stoorage such as Christmas suff, etc. Typicaolly guest don't need so much closet space,just somewhere to hange a few items. Thus the child would get the shared bathroom and office useers would be expected to use the half bath across the hall. The guest room would be given a rack or some other way for guests to hang their few clothes they will need during their visit.
I always had to usurp a portion of our children's closets for long term storage. They did not have the need for big closers, They grew out of their clothes too fast. When they were older, they did not need play clothes or church clothes, they were all multifunctional.Thus no need for large closets.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 22, 2019 1:44:18 GMT
get a large tray and go to the ice house and purchase a big block of ice (or a big bag if you can't find blocks). Put the ice on the try and place on bottom shelf of your refrigerator. Voila, you have an ice chest. just don't open the door but a couple timess a day . We like that for six months overseas on Guam when the typhoon took out the electricity for that long.
I sorry you are having to deal with this. It sucks big time.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 6, 2019 7:22:06 GMT
typing in the code to proove I am a human is what really gets to me. Trying to detrmine if it is a capital or lower case is hard for some letters and fonts. Then at some sites you only get so many tries before your accunt is locked.
As far as soap dispensors and automatic faucets sensors, I feel like I am waving a non existant magic wand in a secret gesture. You never know just what the gesture is. And why do they not dispense enough paper to dry your hands? You have to get more and go through the ritual all over again. Its like you have to show proof of IQ.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2019 7:10:12 GMT
my daughter uses a shortened version of her first name. She started doing so right out of high school. To keep from paying fees to have it legally done but in order to be able to use it for bank accounts and the like, I had her get a new driver's license and where you sign your name, she signed it with the shortened version. Yet the typewritten name is the long version. Thus on her her driver's license the two names are linked. so when she needs to show proof of who she is, it is there on her driver's license whith her photo and all. It is a pretty name and I have never heard anyone else being called it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 30, 2018 19:55:30 GMT
This house will probably go for less than market value, unless somebody wants to purchase for PR purposes. I would buy it and paint it bright happy colors, put up pretty curtains and bring the sunshine in and dispell any lingering bad feelings about the place. I would endeavor to make it look totally different.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 28, 2018 23:55:30 GMT
so, so sorry to hear this. Our pets are so precious and can enrich our lives so much. They seem to have more love to give than many people.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 26, 2018 7:40:13 GMT
Iam so sorry to read your update. Losing a precious one is so hard. Let your self grieve and don't let people think you are silly for doing so. A pet can steal into your heart and fill it full of joy and love and you don't realize how much of your life is tied up with them until they leave us.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 15, 2018 16:56:43 GMT
My big cake container is kept in the linen closet. Takes up too much room to store in the pantry or kitchen cabinets.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 13, 2018 8:59:56 GMT
Are you flying? Is that a good idea with this respiratory stuff? I heard the pressure difference of the take off and landing drives that congestion up farther into the sinuses. (Started to say to check it out, but you have enough to do so I checked.) Do everything you can to relieve the congestion for the duration of the flight. For example, time medicine dosage to be at its best at the right time. Resort to strong nasal sprays, etc. Otherwise you might end up with kids with ear infections and vertigo. Be prepared with aspirin or other pain relievers cause pain might be an issue. Hopefully, the congestion will be mostly over by the end of the week.
I am amazed at all the sewing you plan on getting done in such a short time. Are you sure you are up to it? Maybe this year is the time to resort to purchasing colored T-shirts and save the fabric for next year. If they complain remind them of how long it took to get the measurements, etc. It is their fault not yours. What would they be doing if you were not around to do the sewing? You are being used and not in a good way.
Find other ways to cut down on what needs to be done. You will not enjoy any of this trip if you are in the hospital with pneumonia brought on by lack of rest and stress. You definitely do not want to be cooking for everybody. If you buy the groceries then someone else needs to do the cooking. Make that clear before the plane leaves the ground and be sure husband is going to back you up.
With all that said, I understand it probably won't happen, you will end up doing all the sewing and cooking, clean up etc. We are just built that way. So glad you are going to get some extra time with just you own family to recuperate. Knowing that time is coming will give you something to look forward to when it get so hectic. Just close your eyes and think, "soon this will all be over and I will get to rest".
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 8, 2018 9:02:05 GMT
I have to be careful about what I put on my wish list. Hubby has been known to get everything on it instead of just a few. But here is what is on it this year: LED Light Box typewriter HP Sprocket Bissel carpet cleaner (the kind you push back and forth - I think it will be awesome for my craft room) Slide scanner Sari silk ribbon A hospital bedside table to put by my recliner so I can have a table there to work on.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 4, 2018 7:17:29 GMT
We've used a wedge under our mattress for years. It is made out of wood that hubby built just for that purpose. It really helps with acid reflux. When traveling, we take the pillows the hotel provides and put under the head of the mattress to achieve the same effect as we bring our own pillows.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 27, 2018 6:18:47 GMT
no mob involved? I'd keep it and not be running around telling people about it for sure.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 27, 2018 6:14:46 GMT
pages from a book - not just a few but a bunch. I use them for sketching. wooden spoons from ice cream parlor - been there since grandparents day in September
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 24, 2018 5:20:04 GMT
When my guests offer to help, I let them know I would rather do it myself but give them a chair to keep me company and talk to me while I clean up. That way they know they are doing what is helpful, and not getting in the way. I hate having to sit by myself or with the kids while the hostess is cleaning up. Either let me help, let me sit and talk with you or come sit with me and do the clean up later. In my mind a good hostess does not leave her guests alone while she is cleaning up. The clean up comes after they leave except for putting food away to keep it from spoiling.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 21, 2018 15:26:17 GMT
I have cooked turkeys in a bag and love it. I also would put the turkey in upside down so all the juices congregate in the most meaty part of the bird instead of the least.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 16, 2018 10:44:27 GMT
You will needs something to cut through the grease. Comet would be great but is not gentle. Try Dawn or some kind of citrus grease cleaner. Citrus Solv comes to mind. use Old English on my cabinets, maybe that would work.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 15, 2018 7:01:17 GMT
Perhaps some of those compression socks - I got a pair for my RN daughter and she says the nurses all love wearing them. But they are a little expensive but well within your price range. Or maybe a bracelet that has a stone or two on it that you put essential oils on - it helps when they have "stinky" messes to clean up or patients. A bright pretty hoody to wear - soft and warm for the winter months
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 8, 2018 20:33:59 GMT
Having two different laptops like that means two different file formats. PC software will not work on Apple. I am not sure about the files created with one being able to be used by the other, used to be you could not. But times have changed. But for me the biggest drawback is the price. Apple laptops are way more expensive than PC laptops - at least the ones I have looked at when thinking of making the switch.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 8, 2018 20:23:38 GMT
This sounds so like my daughter when she was a teenager. I finally realized she was using me as a dumping ground. She would would come home all guilty and upset and dump it all on me - the guilt, the drama, the emotions she was going through. Then she would go off to bed and sleep feeling free and absolved of all responsibility.
Your young friend is "dumping" on you. She calls, talks it all out and then goes on her merry way not making a bit of effort to change, or to deal with the results of her behavior. She is not interested inn changing. She just wants to get some relief and you are her relief valve. She calls you when it gets too much and talking to you makes it OK. There is a little shallowness involved too - being able to continue in her chosen haphazard life style even though it has brought her many problems probably means these problems are just shrugged off and not affecting her very much once the drama of them are over.
My suggestion is to limit the conversation of the calls. Don't suggest solutions, don't elicit promises of better behavior or therapy just zero in on what she did and how her behavior led to it. What did she do to get into this situation? Make her tell you what she did. Then gently point out it is her own doing so there is nothing you can do to help. "You know this is the result of your own behavior. I can't help you until you help yourself." Your goal is to gently make her feel more guilty, not to relieve her her guilt.
Either she will start to see the light and make some changes or she will quit calling you so much. Or both. Just be sure she knows you are always there for her, but that you cannot support her in her bad decision making.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 5, 2018 8:46:42 GMT
My response would be, "I did not know you could read" Stating the obvious in such a situation might be condescending, or it might be belaboring a point, but it is definitely rude.
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Post by nlwilkins on Nov 3, 2018 1:40:17 GMT
I use lactaid milk and ice cream; The chewable pills work wonders for me. Cheeses mostly are fine except American cheese that does not have an enzyme added to it. Most cheeses have enzymes added to them to make them into cheese and this heps to break down the lactose enzyme. My sister is not LI but allergic to milk so the pills don't work for her. I have found that there are a variety of reasons milk can make one sick and it is not always lactose.
It took a few years for me to become diligent about avoiding lactose. It has to become a habit, and habits take practice.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 22, 2018 5:11:47 GMT
Think of what you have and what he is used to having. Go through your home with a notepad and take notes of what is in each room that he might use. Don't forget the closets and utility rooms. Then go through the list and see what you think he might find needful. Many things one can make do until better comes along. For example: I did not have a good knife set until my husband made me a set ten years into the marriage. I still have that set today and use it regularly.
But, I will add to the list scatter rugs, small lamps for by the bed and chair in living room, alarm clock
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 21, 2018 2:55:33 GMT
Mother read to my little brother and I until she was widowed and then did not have the time. It was following along with the words when she read that taught me how to read by the time I was three. We had a set of children's books that came with our encyclopedias. It was a set of books for young readers that started with the basic nursery rhymes and went through Tom Sawyer and Little House on the Prairie. I still have those books 68 years later. They are precious to me. They remind me of a more leisurely time when reading to children, playing hopscotch, and workup softball were the norm. We were not rushing around to different activities everyday or booked up solid each week like so many children seem to be now days.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 14, 2018 7:00:50 GMT
Please, please, please get to an eye doctor ASAP even it you have to go to an emergency one. You have signs of retina detachment. {{{Hugs}}}
this What you described reminded me of what my eye doctor told me when I had similar issues. You need to be seen immediately!!!
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 9, 2018 4:15:44 GMT
The visitation gets my vote. You will be able to touch base with all the family find out who is in need of a little extra support at this time and also be there to hold someone's hand or just stand beside them as they take condolences from other visitors. At the mass there is not as much interaction and the family members are perhaps a little more shielded. I found as an extended family member that just being there as a barrier when one is needed or a silent support is of great benefit.
You don't have to say anything, just be there, stand by a family member who seems to be lost or overwhelmed by well wishers as support. Or perhaps, make sure that those who need a seat get one or those who need a few minutes of privacy get it. Or just be the official tissue handler.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 29, 2018 6:14:56 GMT
My closet is so jammed full that anything that goes in there needs ironing when I take it out. So some things are left hanging over the dryer and some things are worn wrinkled and some get ironed. Oh and I use my iron for all sewing projects and some other craft projects. I love how to use it to fuse my book covers together that I make and then it works wonders to dry and straighten projects that I am working on.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 12, 2018 7:29:36 GMT
Its the waiting around that gets to me. Most of the waiting is for the photos, at least at the weddings I attended. I like the ceremony part though if it starts on time and is indoors. Something about sitting on folding chairs out in the heat just does not appeal to me.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 9, 2018 6:30:42 GMT
My husband is helping a friend build one. He has an A&E license and used to work on those kind of planes all the time for a living. He did that in the Air Force and is very meticulous. Both he and friend are also machinist who have to be very precise in their work though both are retired now. Both of them are very safety conscious. They know what they are doing and I would not hesitate to get in a plane my husband built and was flying.
Just knowing how to fly and how to build a plane is not all it takes to be a safe pilot. It takes a mindset of safety and responsibility. There are plenty out there without it. Not saying the OP's husband is one way or another, just saying that maybe that is why some home built planes end up crashed.
ETA: OOps let me climb down off my high horse and say Congratulations! to the OP. It looks like adventure and fun are in you future. Enjoy it!
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 8, 2018 20:05:52 GMT
#1 Ten year olds know better and this one was being a jerk. Spraying mothers on purpose is wrong. If he is not taught by the age of ten to be respectful, when will he learn. In fact at ten, he does not need parents to teach him that is wrong, he would not have spayed those mothers if he was not trying to "get" them. He shows a distinct lack of consideration. How would he have felt if it was him being treated that way?
#2 Mother was an asshole. Why go to a restaurant like that if your child would get upset by the show?
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 2, 2018 18:55:45 GMT
I am so sorry you are going through this. It is hard when loved ones are so far away and need your help.
Unfortunately it is a fact of life in the medical field. You have to wait your turn. The surgery rooms are booked, the surgeons have a full schedule and your grandfather should have gone in way earlier. It is not the surgeons fault he waited. It sucks I know. But, to me the fact that they are not setting it up as an emergency type surgery tells me they are not that worried. It could be that they are uncaring, or it could be cause they know there it is OK for them to wait. Possibly the cancer tested out as non aggressive or as slow. Yes he is losing blood, but they probably did blood work to determine if waiting is a concern on that count.
Get permission from your grandfather and then call the doctor and ask why is it OK to wait so long. But, the doctor cannot do anything to free up a surgery room or time to do the work. Other people in line might have even more serious problems. Oh, and by the way, the doctor needs to know about the hearing problem and about your grandfather's lack of understanding about what is going on. There should be pamphlets and notes he can give your grandfather to help him to understand. You grandfather needs to learn to stand up for himself and make sure he knows what is going on. He should not leave the doctor's office until he does.
When they found cancer in my husbands prostate, the surgery for it was set about four or five months out. We just had to wait. But, all was well and he has good labs now with no cancer showing up yet at almost two years out. It was the same with his back surgery. He was writhing on the couch in horrendous pain and had to wait all summer long before surgery. My brain surgery took six months wait - they wanted me to have all other work done first. Then it took a ENT and a Neurologist to do the surgery for a whole 8 hours. There just was not a surgery room available when booking it for 2 and a half months.
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