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Post by nlwilkins on May 13, 2018 6:32:46 GMT
The thing to remember is that CPS makes the final decision. In situations like this when you are not really sure, call and give them the facts and let them make the decision as to whether a check up is called for. Sometimes, there have been multiple calls for the same family and while each call is not really worthy of a full blown investigation, several calls add up to one. (At least I hope this is the way it works. )
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Post by nlwilkins on May 7, 2018 5:45:06 GMT
set some ground rules now, before any bad habits pop up on the working at home. Like set hours, work zones and non work zones, lunch menus (should be light so no one is tempted to nap)
I used to work from home two days a week and it was very enlightening on how disciplined you have to be. Sure you could work in your pjs, but you had to get the work done and no slacking. Also, you gotta be available for calls and texts from co workers.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 3, 2018 23:23:25 GMT
Laugh - that is my way of dealing with it. Every time you are told you have done something wrong, laugh at yourself, at her, at the circumstances. You start to do something and she tells you how to do it, laugh and perhaps say you wondered how long it would take for her to tell you how to do it. Or you might laugh and wonder how you managed all these years without her telling you how to do things. Perhaps, she might begin to see how ridiculous she is being. Plus the laughter releases the tension the criticism creates.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 3, 2018 23:14:58 GMT
I use a sugar scrub to get my hands clean after crafting. Nothing else gets them so clean, especially after working with polymer clay. There are some days I have to clean up my hands a dozen times. The sugar scrub does not chap or dry out my skin at all.
For my hand scrub I mix sugar, coconut oil and dawn dish soap.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 3, 2018 5:11:13 GMT
Never having to take the car key out of my purse is awesome. Parking said car in garage - first time ever we ever have done that. Being able to see without glasses after cataract surgery, still feel like I am forgetting something in the morning after a year Having a husband who has finally learned how to dust and clean and does it without being told - priceless!
These are NOT little things to me. LOL
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Post by nlwilkins on May 1, 2018 7:33:08 GMT
Sorry, but I would rather have a root canal than attend a graduation. Unless the graduate is giving a speech. An hour or more of hearing name after name being called and watching diplomas being handed out one at a time is painful. We went to our two daughters' graduation and were happy that the one who graduated college was not interested in the ceremony. I did not even attend my own ceremonies. Graduation parties were for the kids. Family usually had a big meal at a different time and not a party.
But, it sounds like your party is more for every body instead of just grads. But still, not a big issue in my opinion. If you don't make a big issue of it, your son won't either. Its up to you whether you make this about his graduation or about your sister not attending.
Not everybody expresses love the same way. Your sister obviously does not see attending the graduation events as an expression of love. Maybe she sees other things as more important. Talk to her about it and see what her view point is about missing the graduation events. Also, you might find out that this vacation is something that is important to her for reasons she has not shared. Knowing the reasoning behind her decision might alleviate some of the hurt. Perhaps, in the future for things that you feel she should do, it would be wise to let her know just how important it is to you and not assume she knows already. Because she might not know how hurt you are that she is skipping your son's graduation.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 21, 2018 7:08:48 GMT
I've had this surgery and it has been great. I had so much acid reflux that my vocal chords were damaged. they also discovered a hernia that they repaired while doing the surgery. Recovery was a breezn(it was done via laparoscopy) a special diet for a week or two afterwards and then all better. Before the surgery I was taking two strong Nexium twice a day and now none. The hardest part was learning how to say the name of the surgery.LOL I can drink carbonated drinks, but have to be careful when drinking them with a meal. The bubbles just don't have room to come up with the food going down so I have to take it slow. Not a bad thing.
PS they said I would probably lose weight, about 20 lbs due to the special diet afterwards, but I gained. bummer
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 21, 2018 6:47:44 GMT
I had eColi in my blood one time and it is NOT fun. Although, I got it from a bad gall bladder that had to come out.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 18, 2018 0:39:51 GMT
Prepare them. Think how you would feel. You would want a little warning. So tell them of the possibility. Then if thee is not another tumor, they have good news. If there is another tumor, they will have been prepared.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 17, 2018 6:51:07 GMT
I taught home ec in the middle school for several years. I started teaching CVAE - which was home ec for at risk students and taught commercial cooking and commercial sewing, along with two regular classes of home ec. Oh and I taught VEH which was vocational home ec for the handicapped. As you can see I got to do it all and I loved it. towards the end of my years at the middle school I was given the alternative program to run because of my experience in dealing with at risk students. They had me teaching all over the school. One year I taught careers because of my vocational credentials. That was more of an academic program and not as fun to teach. Our middle school regular home ec classes included child development, home management, consumerism and other things like that. We only taught sewing for one project and cooing for six weeks of the year.
One of the things you have to get used to is having students up out of their seats all over the classroom, plus dealing with scissors, stoves, knives, etc. A little noise just means the kids are enjoying themselves. Grading becomes an issue, like how do you grade a set of pj bottoms sewn by a student? Figure out your criteria and give the students a heads up on how they will be graded. You might need to run after school hours for the slower students to get their sewing projects done and some will need extensive assistance. But you can do it! Its a whole different type of teaching and very rewarding.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 9, 2018 2:22:40 GMT
We will be buried in a private cemetery where my in-laws are all buried. Some have stones, others just have markers. Husband now takes care of the cemetery - the mowing cleaning up etc. so it is fitting. There are several generations of the family there along with a few other families. It is all free. Most in the family have a visitation the night before the service at the funeral home and then the service is at the funeral home. PLUS then there is a graveside ceremony. It keeps the family busy and helps through the first few days. I remember when FIL was buried all the sisters conspired to keep MIL surrounded by grandkids at the cemetery to help her through it.
I have told my husband that I want a parade and a celebration - elephants, clowns, jumping dogs, the whole shebang.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 8, 2018 7:42:52 GMT
Also, check into the fact that it is on a slab, that might make your insurance a little cheaper - We got our insurance through our car insurance agent at Farm Bureau. He found one for us and bundled it with our car insurance. Utilize your agent to find the best deal for you. Your taxes should break it down into land and home as well. You can go online and see what the property taxes and building taxes were for the place last year. Most county and cities have it all online.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 8, 2018 4:44:13 GMT
The peas have taught me so much. It has helped me to not be so narrow minded, to realize that not everything is as it seems when you see misbehaving kids in public, that if you get smacked down, you get back up and keep going. I think though the one big thing that comes to mind is the fact that NO is a complete sentence. No explanations are required. Thank you peas
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 5, 2018 6:20:37 GMT
Guess I am the odd ball here. We lived in a house with really old wood floors for thirty years. The only thing I ever did to them was sweep and use mop and glo on them. They thrived on that. When we sold the house, the floors were a selling point. They looked really good for their age. The house was about eighty years old and the floors were original to it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 5, 2018 6:15:21 GMT
I have some for the kitchen that get worn once in a while. But the ones for the craft room get worn a bunch. There are times when it really gets messy in there. I will generally only wear full aprons as my tops are what I want to protect.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 3, 2018 9:11:47 GMT
Just like everyone said, baggy pants and loose shirt. I wear men's t-shirts as they are so much cheaper and comfy. Nothing under the hospital gown for the surgery. What you put on after is up to you. Though I did find that if I wore disposable panties - incontinent stuff - they let me keep them on. Probably not for you depending upon where the "holes" are going to be. (At the time of one of my surgeries that was what I was wearing due to inability to move fast.)For afterward you might want to have on hand some stretchy bras, the comfy kind just to keep you from bouncing around if that is an issue. The bras hit me on one of my incisions and I had to improvise.
PS for baggy pants I wore men's flannel pj bottoms, they had strings to tie so could be very loose.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 21, 2018 9:54:20 GMT
That sucks! being all psyched up and having all your ducks in a row for surgery and then the PCP's office messes up. It takes a lot of planning and arranging of a person's life to have surgery and you would think they would get it right. So sorry this happened to you.
About those pain meds - they are having trouble in some hospitals getting them for patients who really need them. Daughter works on a trauma ward and there are times when they don't have the pain meds theirs patients need and have to deal with the results. This is so wrong it makes my heart hurt. Those poor patients and the nurses too who have to deal with it all. I imagine many patients think their nurses are just with holding the meds for lazy reasons and are angry with them.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 18, 2018 5:33:02 GMT
I will second the clipping the wings. Though, I had a parrot who would try to fly with her wings clipped and could get pretty high. Also, when clipped she had less control over where she went and where she landed. That worried me that she might get hurt so I quit clipping. But, you could try it. Chickens are a lot heavier than parrots. Though you might be worried about them not being able to escape danger if their wings are clipped.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 18, 2018 5:23:34 GMT
Soothe your guilty feelings by making an effort to get to know him. Next time you see him, smile and perhaps mention that perhaps you were a bit abrupt, but you would like to get to know him better before letting him ride around with you and your kids. Emphasize the kids. Then proceed to talk with him and finding out about him. You might talk the mom as well. She might be keeping him on a short lease for reasons he might not disclose.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 14, 2018 7:36:01 GMT
We used cloth diapers for both kids (in the 70's) and this is not too far from that. We kept dirty diapers in a diaper pail with a lid without any distasteful odors, why not pee rags? Some of my friends would keep a Lysol solution in the diaper pail or some other liquid but I did not find a need for that. Messy diapers were rinsed out in the commode before dumping in the diaper pail and when it came time to wash them, they were dumped from the pail to the washing machine without me having to touch them. Sometimes I would run the rinse cycle before the wash cycle when washing the diapers and of course I added bleach to the wash cycle.
Actually, if I did this, I would use a squirt bottle (like a ketchup bottle) to rinse off before using the cloth, and would use washcloths that you get at the dollar store for the cloths. That way you would have highly absorbent, cheap cloths that would be thick enough to keep your hands dry.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 9, 2018 9:59:50 GMT
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 8, 2018 8:41:13 GMT
I had sphenoid surgery.Turned out that there was a fungus ball in there that had to come out. The first doctor could not get to it, saying the opening to my sphenoid was so small he could not do anything. So a year later at a different hospital system with more modern equipment an ENT did it. By the time they got to it, the ball had calcified. I had to have a special MRI and the doctor used GPS to do the surgery. It was awesome. He sprayed in a sealer and I did not have to have my nose stuffed full of gauze as in other sinus surgeries I had.
All my life I have had sinus issues. When I had my first nasal surgery to open up one of my nostrils that was not open, it was like WOW is what it is like to breath!!! No one had ever told me I had issues in my nose and when it was fixed at the age of 58, I could finally breath correctly for the first time in my life. But, the sinus issue persisted probably due to the fungus ball that was in my sphenoid all that time.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 8, 2018 8:26:50 GMT
So sorry you are going through this, it is not easy.
I read up on this when it came time to make this kind of decision for one of our cats. One thing that stuck out to me is a vet who said that it was better to be six months too soon rather than six minutes too late. Check out what you can expect towards the end if your pet goes on his own, a natural death. Is it extreme? Is this pain and anxiety going to get worse, will he get more and more restless? Or will he just lay down and not wake up? What are you setting him up for? These are the things I asked myself about the two cats we had to let go. I did not want to be in the six minutes too late category. But, I did not want to rush it. If you know you are risking a painful, NOT peaceful passing, then don't wait too long. But if that is not a risk, then you have time to wait for something that just tells you it is time. Maybe when he get completely incontinent, or maybe when he no longer is able to eat. Something will click in you to let you know it is time. But just be sure he is not in pain. That restless activity may be the sign of pain. It is hard with some animals as they hide their pain and lack of health.
One thing that helped for the second cat is the blood work the vet did. The numbers showed that he was at the end stage of kidney failure and was going to pas any moment. Without the blood work I would have never known that. I wanted his passing to be peaceful and painless, and it was. I will never forget the peace that came over him as I held him as the vet administered the final shot. He was looking at me with love in his eyes and then relaxed and closed his eyes. All tension went out of him and I was so grateful to be there to see that. He was at peace and hurting no more.
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 6, 2018 5:21:08 GMT
I would love to see a photo, or a link to it in the etsy shop
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 6, 2018 5:18:22 GMT
AWESOME!! my daughter just got hers last fall. I know how exciting it was to her so it must be the same for you!!!
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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 3, 2018 7:57:56 GMT
May He wrap His healing arms around you and give you comfort and lend you strength. With His strength we can get through anything. I firmly believe that. Lean into those arms and know that your strength is unlimited as it comes from the Lord.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 28, 2018 8:04:46 GMT
In 2003 I had to give up my career as a teacher. You think at first that this is OK that it is good to get away from the smart alek students and the non supportive admins. But, after a while you begin to realize that you miss it all and that you will never have that again. I actually grieved over losing the ability to teach. It took time and was a process of finding something to move on to. In fact my blog was named Moving ON. I had to redefine myself like you have said. But, not only do you need to redefine yourself, you have to learn to live with the new you and not only be content but happy with it. That takes a lot of time.
Little by little I found myself a new life. My husband has been so supportive. Then life dealt another blow and I ended up with a case of vertigo that is 24/7. After brain surgery that ended up being too late to prevent permanent damage, I again had to redefine myself and start the process all over again. This time it did not take as long. Just this past winter, that patch of hair that was shaved off finally reached the length of my other extra long hair and I took it as a sign that I have adjusted. The vertigo is still there and there are things I can't do and will never be able to do again. But, I don't see myself as disabled. I like to say I am just not 100%. Some days I am closer to 100% than others and I can never predict when the good days will happen.
Hubby has learned how to clean house, clean up the kitchen and even cook a meal or two. We eat out a lot more than we ever used to and the house is never quite up to the standards I used to have. But, I have a craft room now and it has become my salvation. I have learned so many new things. I actually can draw now, I paint, I sew, I journal, make cards, and the list goes on. These help to fulfill me in ways that I never knew possible. Just this winter two friends and I taught ourselves to needle tat. That was something I always wanted to do.
So while I am not disabled, my life has been turned upside down at least twice due to physical issues. So I hear you on how hard that is to deal with and how redefining ourselves is the first step. Kudos to you for your positive attitude in dealing with all you have dealt with. I am so amazed at how you are able to continue.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 28, 2018 2:33:38 GMT
I have a hard time filtering what is in my brain. But it does not bother me so much when compliments come out. We see the same people all the time, the lady that takes our prescription orders, the doctor that checks our health, the waitress at our favorite diner, and so on. So when I see something nice, pretty or striking, I usually compliment. But, here in this Texas small town, it is not unusual for strangers to compliment or even strike up conversations.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 26, 2018 7:15:39 GMT
Gargling with mouthwash will help as well. You can do that before going to bed and as much as you want all night long. Whereas the JD will need to be rationed for obvious reasons. Though, the JD will also help you to sleep.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 26, 2018 7:11:36 GMT
Sick as you are, you have a good excuse. write your professor an email giving him a heads up that your papers will be late due to illness but that they will get in by Monday night. Professors appreciate the courtesy and since you are ill, might even give you full credit since you have given them notice.
Then, think of some kind of snack, something rich that you don't indulge in very often. Promise yourself you will go first then in the morning and get it. Work what you can tonight then take an hour or two nap and then go get your snack, but only if you made progress tonight. It is a reward see. Then only eat half of it and promise yourself the rest once both papers are done. The sugar high from the first half will help you keep going and the promise of the rest will give you a tiny bit more motivation.
You just have to play games with your self. That is how I made it through two Master's Degrees while working full time at a very demanding job.
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