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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 21, 2023 9:38:54 GMT
When I married at 21, I began using our Canon AE -1 , especially to take photos of my growing family. When they were pre-teens I began to take their portraits every year rather than buy the overpriced and terrible school photos. This led to me gradually becoming a professional, first shooting film, and later digital.
When my marriage ended and I lost my house, I had to go through boxes and boxes of prints. I ended up with a small mountain of rejects and replicas, and blinks galore.
I still believe in printing anything you want to have a copy of 10, 20, 30 years down the road. I have a daguerreotype of my great grandmother from the 19th century that’s been passed to me and I treasure it. It would be sad if that technology from the 1800’s lasts, and ours doesn’t.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 21, 2023 9:18:31 GMT
Wow, librarylady that was fascinating, now I have to go see that movie. birukitty I see why your Oma wouldn’t let you play with Barbie!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 21, 2023 9:09:02 GMT
Adults getting heavily into Disney
The long and pointy nails decorated to death
Unboxing videos, influencer videos,
Stupid filters on photos and reels. A whole generation is going to have no documentation of what they actually look like.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 20, 2023 18:52:34 GMT
Don't cataracts have to be at a certain size/level, etc for surgery? I guess insurance doesn't pay unless it is "bad enough."?? My eye dr mentioned it a few years ago because I feel uncomfortable driving at night and he said I probably wouldn't be a surgical candidate for many years. That’s what my eye Dr started telling me a couple years ago. Of all words, he said they had to “ripen”. That just cracked me up! Waiting for them to get bad enough did not crack me up. My vision was deteriorating at a rate that made my driving glasses almost worthless a few months after getting them. I pretty much quit driving at night except for quick trips close to home. I was not much help to my parents when I visited them, and they are in their 80’s! Each year I hoped he would say it’s time, but until this one I wasn’t there yet. This is why when he said they could go any time, but I could wait 2 or 3 years, I said no way! The Dr said there needs to be a lifestyle complaint, like avoiding night driving. Try asking your doctor if you have any of the issues that insurance will accept.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 20, 2023 3:56:45 GMT
[quote author=" femalebusiness" source="/[/quote] I had to take my husband and daughter to LAX late one night. On the way home, alone, I was scared to death as I just couldn't see and the glare of lights was blinding me. I set up an apt to get my surgery shortly after that as I knew that I couldn't night drive any more.[/quote] You were braver than me! Of course, I don’t know where in greater Loss Angeles you had to drive from and back to, but I know those freeways!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 19, 2023 23:18:18 GMT
Your son is much nicer than me. I wouldn’t have “rewarded”” him with $300. He lied about the money and took 3 days to return it.If he had returned the wallet with the money immediately I would have probably give him $50. I don’t know how to do a survey, but I really would like to know what the Peas think about this. I would love it if someone would give the basics of this story and ask whether people think the guy should/should not have been rewarded, and how the fact that he intended to keep it at first affects their answer.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 19, 2023 23:11:26 GMT
If I am carrying large amount of cash. It is in my front pocket which is rolled up with the dollars behind the front of the pocket. I’m also super careful when carrying cash, but I suspect since this is a very frequent occurrence for my son, it’s become more commonplace.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 19, 2023 23:09:27 GMT
It is really nice to know that some people still have a conscience. My husband left his wallet in a shopping cart in the parking lot of a store. We noticed as soon as we got back on the road, went right back and it was gone. Came home and found it on our bench on the front porch. He had three or four hundred dollars along with credit cards and ID, all still there. Some guy named Jose left a note saying he wanted to make certain my husband got his wallet back. He left no contact info. We would have loved to have given him all of the cash just for not having the hassle of replacing credit cards and driver's license. Your son was so lucky. As for cataract surgery, isn't it just the most amazing gift? I had no idea how blind I was getting until the drive home from the surgery. Everything was technicolor and crystal clear. Of course what I thought was my clean kitchen looked like someone had a food fight in it. I must have just been smearing the stains around on the cabinets and floor but couldn't see it. I went on a huge cleaning binge with my new eyesight. Enjoy your new eyes! I’m sure the difference in vision is not as extreme for me, as I insisted on getting it done as soon as they let me. But I’ve noticed a big difference. Things I thought were beige or off white are in fact—white! And colors are so bright. I love it. Maybe I’ll do better at playing Hues and Cues now, everybody just shakes their head at how I describe colors. And I’m sure this will be good for my water color painting.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 19, 2023 21:33:15 GMT
$1900 in cash! Was he on his way to the bank to make a deposit? He's really lucky he got any of that back. Hope your recovery from surgery goes smoothly. He got paid in cash on Friday, and intended to deposit Monday, yeah. It’s an extra insult to work your but off in this heat and then have the money stolen.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 19, 2023 19:48:37 GMT
Just a couple weeks ago at my annual eye check the Dr said “Your cataracts could come out anytime, but you could probably wait 2 or 3 years”.
I jumped on that, “But I could do it now?” , “Yes, but you have to have some kind of lifestyle complaint, for instance you avoid driving at night…”
“I do avoid driving at night!”
So from there everything moved super quickly. I was stunned by how fast I was scheduled and the first surgery was Monday, and I was already driving yesterday. I’m so thrilled to have this being taken care of.
NOW, Sunday, my son, who I live with, went through the Safeway ad, and decided there were enough great deals it made it worth fooling with the app, and making a special trip, fortunately they are right around the corner. He’s gone a half hour, and comes back flushed with the triumph of getting so many great deals.
Then when he goes to use the car again, he can’t find his wallet. Intense search follows. Then panic. Calls to Safeway. Goes to Safeway to search parking lot, they even let him view security camera footage and he sees he left with wallet in his pocket.
Mood in house is now very grim. There was $1,900.00 in cash in there, plus the usual pain of having to cancel all the cards. My son has his own business so it’s extra complicated.
That evening he gets a text. Did you lose something? He says yes, my wallet. The next text says they found it in the pavement in front of Target, with the credit cards all fanned out on the ground. No money. The person won’t talk on the phone, won’t give a name, and finally agrees to meet at Home Depot (all these stores are near us), to return the wallet.
My son goes alone, which made us nervous, the person seemed so cagey. He comes back and says he is sure this guy was in the camera footage from Safeway, and that 1) he took the money, and 2) this was not normal for him, but it being so much money was just too tempting for him. My son kept trying to get a name, telling him when he got more money he’d like to reward him for bringing him his wallet, but the guy refused.
That was Sunday, Monday, while he’s in the ocean fishing, my son gets a text, could you meet at Home Depot again? He says no, but he can on Tuesday.
I had my follow up appointment with the eye doctor, and then therapy, and didn’t get home until 6:00, and was dying of curiosity. I walked in the house, and was told, “Jim said his conscience was killing him these last three days.”
And there on the kitchen table was an envelope with hundred dollar bills spilling out of it.
I asked if he gave the guy a reward, and yes, $300.
I’m proud of you, Jim. Took guts to do that.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 19, 2023 17:45:35 GMT
Books don’t have to have a happy ending for me, some of my favorite books end very sadly, but leave me with a lot to think about, or characters I’ll never forget.
But if I get the picture that unpleasant people will be doing unpleasant things throughout the book, with no redeeming factors, I’m out. There’s too many good books waiting their turn on my Kindle app, and I’m not getting any younger.
Also, I’ll DNF a book for the sin of poor writing in a heartbeat. Learn your craft, people! Buy a thesaurus. Figure out how to use adjectives. Get a handle on similes and metaphors. Make your people come to life. And for heavens sake: SHOW don’t TELL!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 18, 2023 8:48:31 GMT
OMG what a weekend. It's a lot for this old mom. It was AMAZING. That girl sure can perform. If you like her or not, she is one talented lady. We got to the parking lot about 1pm to tailgate. We set up our awing thing, put out our chairs and just relaxed. People watching mostly. I can't believe the amount of glitter I witnessed! The outfits that people were wearing were hilarious, head turning, amazing, unbelievable, head scratching (lol), and on and on. We got into the stadium around 5pm. It was like a mass frenzy of people. We did fine though.. just held hands when we needed to. We got the covenanted disco ball drink thing that oldest dd wanted. Of course I had to get that too. (So silly) My oldest made me and younger DD 'swag' bags. Unfortunately a lot of the stuff she ordered got stuck in another town. But she gave us each a see through purse, a portable fan, rain poncho, those earbud things someone said above, and she bought me THE blue crew sweatshirt that apparently everyone wants. The concert was nothing like I have ever experience and probably never will again. Between the show and the people into it was just jaw dropping. It will be interesting to compare this to my next concert next month (Billy Joel).. not that I can compare really, he will be great but the crowd is different ballgame.. more my age.. HA.. and probably can sit longer! Back to December was our surprise song.. I was SO happy with that. Driving in and out was easy.. I was shocked. No problems at all. We did have a parking pass. I heard Uber was charging over $200 to get back to where my town is. It was around $125 to get into Denver. So dumb. It took me ALLLLL day yesterday to recover.. I slept in till 10am which I NEVER do. Anyways, that is my recap. So glad we girls all went together and glad my kids want to do stuff with me. Saw Billy Joel in his first concert back in Madison Square Garden after the pandemic. Not a lot of sitting. It was amazing, but it might have been because NYC loved and missed their boy. It might be different in a different venue and city. But either way, he puts on an incredible show.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 18, 2023 8:39:23 GMT
OP, this is the way I eat, and my cardiologists are very happy with me. I love my food, it never feels like I’m deprived. I’d invite myself over your way and bring one of my favorite dishes in a heartbeat if I were closer. theshyone , another source is Dr John McDougall, The Starch Solution. If you tolerate potatoes well, you might find some of their recipes work for you, and you can gradually add hi Th fiber foods to see what foods and how much of them you can eat.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 18, 2023 8:14:40 GMT
I am familiar with this diagnosis , it happened to a good friend. I, too, will wish for the best outcome for you. I’m so sorry you have been dealing with this, and your post is filled with the courage it took to write and share it.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 14, 2023 11:48:25 GMT
Thinking of you and wishing the best for you.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 5, 2023 7:13:19 GMT
I was all ready to discuss Elton John, The Eagles, and Paul Simon.
But I see you did not mean music.
Never mind.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jul 4, 2023 10:31:16 GMT
My 43 yo son is dx, as are his 19 yo daughter and 8 yo son. When my son was a child, and people would point out classic signs of being ND, I would say “he’s just like me”. I was so naive. He was diagnosed in his 20’s.
I masked all my life, suffering from imposter feelings, and terrible mental health, but was so successful no one caught on. This was done so as to not call attention to myself. I lived in a terrible abusive alcoholic home, and suffered shame from that. I also wet the bed until 12, (which I now know is more likely for persons with autism ), another cause for deep shame. Of course in my generation, only very non functional individuals or disruptive were recognized as autistic.
I’ve begun to understand my life, not just my childhood, but the whole thing, so much better. I understand my desperate need for solitude, as it was the only time I didn’t mask. Well, that and when I’m with very small children. They don’t care how quirky and intent I can be.
My mental health is so much better than it was all those years. No more hiding and trying to be what everybody expects. Although years and years of habits die hard.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 16, 2023 9:39:46 GMT
That poor woman. Lost her sweet babies. Betrayed by her husband. Vilified by a nation. Imprisoned for hideous crimes she was innocent of. Most likely picked out for special mistreatment by the actual criminals who like to think they are better than some of their fellow inmates.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 5, 2023 11:30:40 GMT
I’m so sorry. I just lost my youngest sister to cancer. The numbness will help you function now. A lot of serious grieving to come later on.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 4, 2023 8:31:07 GMT
Mexican food and citrus, especially lemon. All 4 times.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 4, 2023 8:21:45 GMT
Apples. Lately, Cosmic Crisp variety is my favorite.
Steamed summer squash, especially this one kind that is yellow and round. It’s so very good, I could eat it for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Spaghetti marinara. With mushrooms. And lots of garlic.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 2, 2023 9:19:16 GMT
How beautifully unselfish of you.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 2, 2023 9:16:15 GMT
I loved this show. Wish I hadn’t already watched it, maybe I’ll go for a rewatch.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jun 2, 2023 9:06:11 GMT
My favorite childhood book was biographical: Carry On, Mr. Bowditch. Biographies were my favorites and this one was special.
I also devoured all the Little House books
The Ballet Shoes and others in that wonderful series
Everything by Louisa May Alcott
The Outsiders made a huge impact on me. I read her other books, but it was this one that really hit hard.
Watership Down
Tuck Everlasting
A Tree Grows In Brooklyn
All the Tolkien Books. As a young teen, the group I was a part of were all obsessed by the world and characters of Tolkien. We called each other by names taken from the books. I almost forgot my best friend was named Gayle, for years I only knew her as Gimli. .( I was Legolas, btw. )
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Post by lesserknownpea on May 23, 2023 10:47:43 GMT
lucyg I’m sorry to hear of your diagnosis. You are such a treasured member of our Pea Family. I can only say I hope you’re like my dad, who outlived his doctor’s prognosis by a decade. So far. As for the woe is me issue: Bunions. Cataracts. Age spots. Balance issues. Hearing loss and tinnitus. Skin so dry and flaky it’s embarrassing, even though I use lotion. Hair thinning. Fingernail waviness. Strength disappearing rapidly. Several painful falls. It just feels like the minute I started receiving social security all these aging issues just started showing up. Like one day I wasn’t old. The next day I was.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 26, 2023 8:59:36 GMT
That volcano in the Kuril Islands was cool.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 22, 2023 18:09:56 GMT
I’ve been away and just saw your thread. My heart goes out to you.
This is so hard. So very hard. I spent my DD’s entire adolescence and most of her 20’s expecting one of her suicide attempts to eventually succeed. Her most recent serious one was 4 years ago.
But she’ll turn 40 this summer. And she is in a stable relationship with a good person, and has a good job. I’m so very grateful to get this far. And she and I have a close, honest relationship. She can tell me what she thinks, and know I won’t overreact. And I support her decisions about her life, even when they are not what I would do.
It wasn’t easy to get to here, and there has been enormous anguish along the way.
The biggest factor in making this a success for me has been working on myself. Strengthening myself. Knowing that while I could be a source of comfort and stability to my daughter, I could not live her life for her, and ultimately, I had to be strong enough for any outcome. When I got to that point, something changed in me. It’s not that I was no longer terrified, but there was also a calm place inside me.
I believe this change in me, in addition to helping my mental health, improved my relations with DD.
Right now, though, I send my most heartfelt thoughts for your shock and worry.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 12, 2023 9:19:38 GMT
I learned of this yesterday, someone I follow on IG has a connection to the victims. Such a senseless tragedy. I’m so sorry.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 10, 2023 11:17:01 GMT
I had great hopes once the SS kicked in, but chronic vestibular migraine is severely limiting my life currently.
I am grateful that I’m not having to worry about a job and bills, or running after kids while dealing with this. Also that I have health insurance, and a loving family.
but I really want to be traveling, hiking, and just generally exploring my activity options.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 6, 2023 2:15:07 GMT
I will absolutely second @minima re: Sharon Kay Penman. My favorite author. If you love to read to enjoy the artful use of the English language, to be transported to another place and time. To find yourself caring about people you never imagined you could, then start by picking up Here Be Dragons. While it’s not the first chronologically, for me it was the gateway book into the twelfth century and those crazy Plantagenets.
We lost Sharon a few years ago, but she left behind an unmatched body of work in terms of accuracy, style, and incredible content.
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