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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 14, 2021 23:45:49 GMT
I’m sorry your child is going through this.
My son married a woman who said she understood he had enough responsibility already with the two children he already had with his first wife. Then bingo! 35 came and she HAD to have kids. Two boys, two years apart, and she got overwhelmed and couldn’t cope while he was at work, so she moved in with her parents and is now divorcing him and being crazy difficult about parenting time.
Her parents do most of the care of those kids she HAD to have. I love my grandsons, ( when u can actually see them ), but my son should have gotten a vasectomy when he knew he had so the kids he could care for.
Being there as a support us the best thing ever you can do.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 14, 2021 10:55:43 GMT
My 85 year old, cancer and stroke surviving, COPD fighting Dad is recovering from Covid 19. I’m daring to hope he’ll make it!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 13, 2021 4:33:15 GMT
We have not forgotten about Ava. We continue to offer our prayers, thoughts, wishes, entreaties.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 10, 2021 10:59:43 GMT
Paul Simon and James Taylor
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 9, 2021 10:50:38 GMT
Yay. I’ve missed this show.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 8, 2021 8:25:17 GMT
My heart is with you all. I can’t even imagine how hard this is.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 6, 2021 10:30:21 GMT
My first book finished in 2021 is Last Bright River, by Liz MooreIn a Philadelphia neighborhood rocked by the opioid crisis, two once-inseparable sisters find themselves at odds. One, Kacey, lives on the streets in the vise of addiction. The other, Mickey, walks those same blocks on her police beat. They don't speak anymore, but Mickey never stops worrying about her sibling. This book was on Obama’s favorite book list for 2020. I having a hard time figuring out what he thought was so great about it. It’s an okay book, although a little wordy, but nothing outstanding in my opinion. There was one twist I didn’t see coming at all, otherwise nothing special. Thrillers and mysteries are one of my favorite genres, so that was a plus. Very readable, just not memorable. Long, Bright River was indeed a well written, memorable book. There were several twists I did not see coming. The main character was well defined and as a reader I could empathize with her competing loyalties and sense of guilt. I also read Book Woman of Troublesome Creek by Kim Michele Richardson. Excellent book, told in a style that matched the subject matter, at once harsh and unsparing, yet poetic yearning. The travails of the Blue People and the prejudice they faced, as well as both the willfill ignorance by some in the community, and yet the extreme value many impoverished persons put on books and reading all swirled into a story that had me feeling as if I were there, every insult and heartbreak my own.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 6, 2021 9:32:28 GMT
That is so scary! I hope she pulls through!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 4, 2021 9:20:31 GMT
I agree it’s overpriced for the area. I’d be concerned about wiring and plumbing in such an older home. Also, the careful staging makes it so appealing. Try to look beyond that. Envision it with your and your moms belongings.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 4, 2021 9:08:52 GMT
It’s been almost 5 years since I switched to a plant based whole foods way of eating. Goal is 10% protein, 10% fat, and a beautiful whopping 80% of calories of carbs. This occurs naturally when you eat a variety of whole foods.
I became no longer pre diabetic quickly. My cholesterol went down. As a heart patient from a birth defect, my cardiologists are thrilled with me.
I eat huge plates of delicious food every day and never feel deprived. I’ve learned how to cook and shop for this by resources like Forks Over Knives, Brand New Vegan, and Dr. John Mc Dougall.
I’ve never in my life had a diet be this successful, easy, and lasting. Since I got to my current weight, I’ve stayed here. When I was sick last year, I lost more weight, but most of it returned when my health improved, and I’m fine with that.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 3, 2021 8:43:06 GMT
The first one wasn’t enough, so I had another one 8 months later. ( I had other health problems I had to address first ). This one did the trick and I stay mostly in Sony’s rhythm now. Scars from a childhood heart surgery keep causing the arrhythmia, so they say it will keep happening and needing to be addressed. I did not give myself enough time to recover after the first one, and took it a little easier after the second. But it’s a pretty straightforward procedure. I hope your second one lasts forever! Do you have any advice for recovery? The doctor says I’ll be off of work for a week. Nothing out of the ordinary. Watch the site or sites where the catheter is put in, be careful in case you get dizzy. First few days you’ll have some restrictions. Then go at about 50% the rest of your down time. Give yourself a lot of rest, but also get some walking in, both times afterward I needed to work to get my heart rate up.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 3, 2021 8:34:17 GMT
I’m going to play devils advocate here. Not that I love this terminology. However, when I have heard it used before, the context really conveyed a more dignified idea than property. As mentioned above, the value of human personnel is in the future, the potential. I remember reading about members of the wealthy who made it a point to live on their interest income, and “Never touch the capital!” I don’t think it’s meant to be demeaning.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 2, 2021 10:38:30 GMT
A good discussion with my therapist has steered me in a helpful direction: my goals are to say No if that’s what’s best for me and let other people be unhappy, and to try for mediocrity.
I’ve been working on this about a month, and I really think it’s improving my happiness my perfectionism and desire to please and fear of disappointing people have been paralyzing and caused so many panic attacks. As well as choked creativity.
So “No” and mediocrity , those are my goals.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 2, 2021 6:20:38 GMT
I’m finding myself living neatly trimmed beard more and more. Clean shaven looks naked to me, now, and a man has to be quite handsome to pull it off.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 2, 2021 6:18:16 GMT
The first one wasn’t enough, so I had another one 8 months later. ( I had other health problems I had to address first ). This one did the trick and I stay mostly in Sony’s rhythm now.
Scars from a childhood heart surgery keep causing the arrhythmia, so they say it will keep happening and needing to be addressed.
I did not give myself enough time to recover after the first one, and took it a little easier after the second. But it’s a pretty straightforward procedure.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 1, 2021 10:00:46 GMT
Grammie is traditional on my maternal side, and I love it. I remember my own Grammie, ( my great grandmother) who was born in 1898. So when anybody suggests I’m being cutesy and trendy, I just smile.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Jan 1, 2021 4:40:13 GMT
I am so sorry to hear this. So young, you have been cheated of decades of time together.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 29, 2020 21:55:28 GMT
Did you read the story I linked above about the 25 y.o. in TN with Autism who wore his masks and was worried about those who came into his place of work without masks? The non-maskers that he had to deal with not only didn’t care that he was able to wear a mask even though he had a disability, they didn’t care that their going maskless caused him psychological and then physical harm. He died of COVID. I think that your and your dd’s concerns are real and valid. It's causing many of us psychological harm. And people are quick to dismiss that. Or make fun of it, living in fear, are we? This is so true. I have been so terrified of this killing my father since March. And now, there’s a very real chance it will happen, and the anxiety symptoms are so bad I must medicate every day This anxiety is real! The symptoms are real. And some people ridicule people like me, saying things like, “i won’t live in fear”, and “it only kills the old and sick“ it makes me want to scream.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 29, 2020 12:53:02 GMT
Thank you for posting this. He’s been a favorite of mine forever.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 29, 2020 11:55:03 GMT
I know Rose claimed later in life that she actually wrote the books and I've always wondered about it. Did she really write them, or did she just claim to after Laura's death because she was the professional writer and her mother was basically a SAHM who wrote a little on the side and yet had so much more success than Rose. Was it just jealousy? Hmmmm..... IN THe book Prairie Fires, by Caroline Fraser, she gives a lot of evidence that Laura indeed wrote those books, using actual letters written between the two, showing the writer, editor relationship. Interestingly, when Laura’s first little house book became such a success, Rose tried to co-opt her mother’s story to write her own book, and it was not a success at all. Laura wrote with the charm and appeal. Also, when Laura said she wanted to write children’s books, Rose belittled the idea, until she saw how much money was to be made. The only time in her life Rose got out of debt was when she inherited the profits of her mothers books.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 29, 2020 11:21:08 GMT
No one has a “right” to watch a movie. If the theater has a mask policy, comply or stay home.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 29, 2020 11:13:02 GMT
Took up watercolor painting. Learned to Zoom. Sewed and gave away hundreds of masks. Helped a dear friend with stage 4 cancer and Parkinson’s who lives alone.
Continued therapy by phone, dealing with worsening anxiety symptoms,
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 28, 2020 3:44:46 GMT
deekaye stay strong. Why anyone would want to risk infecting the fragile among us when the vaccine is almost here, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel, I don’t know.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 27, 2020 8:44:40 GMT
What elaine said. Also, as the mother of a bipolar DD, who has watched her struggle and endure so much, yes, I have THOUGHT “ what could her life have been if she did not have to deal with this?” don’t get me wrong, I think DD is amazing. But her mental illness has kept her from reaching goals in both career and family arenas that most people her age take for granted. It hurts like crazy to see her left out of so much that she deserves more than anyone I know. I have similar feelings about my autistic, narcoleptic DS. The guy is kind, brilliant, and creative. He’s also broke and alone. This is not how I saw his life unfolding. Of course, I would never say what your mom said. But what I heard is she is so impressed with your accomplishments in the face of your challenges, she can’t even imagine what all you could do without them. That, I understand. I’m so proud of my kids for picking themselves up and carrying on after the knocks they’ve received, but you all are right, it’s how we handle these tough realities in our lives that bring out the admirable qualities. I’m sorry you were so hurt. No one wants to feel not good enough in the eyes of their parent.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 26, 2020 18:25:50 GMT
lesserknownpea Have the doctors given him any instructions on when he should go to the hospital? It sounds like he needs to at least go to the ER. Do they call and talk to him or SM to check on him? A friend’s BF in CA got the virus and a nurse called him every day and then one day told him to go to the ER. PS I didn’t want to like your latest post; but I wanted to let you know that I read it. They have been talking on the phone with the doctor everyday for a week. They use a pulse ox to keep him informed of his sats. I assume if he gets to a certain point they’ll have him go to the hospital, but they are short on beds. Thank you for your concern.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 26, 2020 11:01:30 GMT
I’m so sorry. My Dad is fighting Covid right now. It’s scary.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 26, 2020 10:56:48 GMT
There are so many other ways to worship other than in person. I just cannot understand the mentality of those who use religion as an excuse to socialize in person. This! Thank you. While I don’t doubt SM’s faith, from my previous visits, I know that morning mass is her primary social life. She and her friends visit before and after and share food. Of course she would miss it, but being safe is more important. They are are still sick, my dad especially. He’s had days he’s completely out of it, with his Oxygen in the mid 80’s. The doctor sent oxygen to be used at home. I’m beyond worried and feel so helpless. I FaceTimed him a little today, and he’s coughing so much, and can barely speak. Every time I talk with him I wonder if it will be the last. I know I sound melodramatic, but his fight with lung cancer a few years back was touch and go, and his continuing struggle with COPD is painful to witness. I can only hope he can come through this, too.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 25, 2020 8:38:47 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 24, 2020 16:52:40 GMT
I am so sorry. I am on a task force at my church and we have met once a week, via Zoom, for months now with one topic "Are we ready to go back to in-person worship?". Every week the answer is no because our state and our county's numbers are just too horrendous. We also know that the first people in the door, if we were to open to in-person worship, would be those elderly people who should NOT be there. It is such a tough call.... on one hand, we know that a lot of our congregation are elderly, lonely and need personal interaction. On the other hand, yeah, COVID! Thank you for you responsibility and concern. Good job!
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 24, 2020 15:55:55 GMT
Well, my stepmother, who lives in SoCal with my Dad, continued to go in person to Mass every morning, even though online Mass is available. Have you ever thought that this is part of their routine. Why always blame the smil? They are adults, living their lives as they see fit. Unless you are living with them or actively caring for them, then get angry. Your father is 85, let him live how he wants to. He has already had a long life. My in-laws and my mom and stepdad have also taken risks that just don’t make any sense to me. No, they may not make sense to you, but this is their life and their decisions. I'm sure that you have done and taken risks that they can't make sense of. I am so sorry. Both my parents have the same behavior. Let them do what they want to. Again, they are adults and you are not looking thru the same lenses as they do. Parenting parents is very hard. I hope he stays well enough to recover at home. I really dislike this statement. I am an adult and my son & ddil are not understanding me and are *trying* to parent me. I am not old at all. I am being very careful, staying at home, washing, masking. The ONE time that I went to a specialty store to buy them a Christmas treat, I was accused of being irresponsible and not caring about my health, etc. I then went into detailed explaination that I had called ahead, paid by cc over the phone and that the person put what I had ordered directly into my trunk. Absolutely no contact at all. REALLY ruined my Christmas Spirit as this is a traditional food and I wanted to have one thing about Christmas remain the same. If you are not with them, know the entire context of the situation and just point fingers and judge them, you are over-stepping. Yes, you want your parents to live until 100 years old, however, that is mighty selfish of you. Assumptions are dangerous. Remember that when you point a finger, there are 3 fingers pointing back to you. Mental health is very important. Routines are important for all people. Unless you are their direct power of attorney for health a medical care, you may give polite suggestions, but after that - BACK OFF I know what I am stating is NOT POPULAR with the children of elderly parents (What age is elderly, again?). I am a bit over 6 decades. I know that life isn't forever. I am being careful with Covid-19 and in other ways/things. Perhaps the way that you live your life doesn't/isn't really the way that I want to live my life. I am not coming back to this thread but just be careful in judging your "elders". Only my stepmother goes to church. My Dad’s Health is very precarious, no way should he be exposed to the virus like that. I had a routine, too. Active in church, going at least several times a week. Since March, it’s been entirely online. Because I care about people and don’t want to be part of the problem. When places of worship were shut down in her area, my stepmother used the Internet. But as soon as their governor allowed it, she was back in person. Just because he allowed it, doesn’t make it the right decision. Every day she was risking my Dad’s life. When you’re married to someone with such health problems, you have an obligation to consider what your actions are doing to them. Especially in the last month, as the infections have soared. Common sense would say stay home! I have always had respect for both of them, and treated them this way. I do not ever think just because they are getting old that they don’t know what their doing. I would feel this way about anybody needlessly risking my dad’s life like this, and have been watching this situation for months with dread in my heart. My dad has 5 of us kids desperate to visit him from around the country, but we have stayed away so we do not inadvertently bring the virus to him. And the whole point of the scientists’ warnings were to Change Our Routines! I know I certainly have. What a ridiculous excuse for exposing someone so fragile to a deadly virus.
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