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Post by Merge on Jun 28, 2024 1:40:56 GMT
I would rather pull my toenails out with pliers.
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Post by Merge on Jun 27, 2024 21:12:15 GMT
My oldest is 23 and largely self-sufficient, but she has some mental health challenges that affect her executive function and ability to cope with some of life's challenges. She has had therapy and is on meds and is getting better, but I still help her a lot. I'm going to her place on Saturday to help her clean out her closet. She finds those larger tasks overwhelming and can't see the steps needed to get from beginning to end. I've also stepped in to help when she had a long list of things she needed to do to/for her car and just couldn't seem to get started.
So mom is still momming, for now.
She holds down a good job and pays her own rent, and is getting her life together bit by bit after a very rough last year in college and first year out of it. I don't think throwing her in the deep end by withdrawing assistance right now would serve any purpose at all.
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Post by Merge on Jun 27, 2024 17:20:17 GMT
Sitting in a chair in the salon with color and highlight foils in my hair!
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Post by Merge on Jun 26, 2024 17:24:44 GMT
The only thing my college kid wants from me is money. She handles all the administrative stuff and is handling her own grad school search and applications as well.
But I was an advisor at her current university when she was in preschool, and we had all those same problems back then. My favorite was a parent calling me to ask if I could help her son put down the video games and do some of his homework. No, ma'am, that is outside of my job description.
Just a few weeks ago I had a mom from my private studio ask if I had any advice for getting her son to practice when he doesn't want to. Granted, he's seven. But nothing wrong with making your piano practice part of homework, mom. No screens until it's done.
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Post by Merge on Jun 26, 2024 16:55:05 GMT
When you get blamed for some fool going through and labeling all threads as politics in response to your post, don’t say I didn’t warn you.
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Post by Merge on Jun 25, 2024 20:15:29 GMT
Not a believer in any divinity, but I like to listen to music and just open myself to whatever the universe needs to tell me at that time. Live music is especially effective, but a good recording at the right time also does the trick.
All the 34 years I was a church member, the music was the only thing I found meaningful, so it makes sense that’s what I’ve hung on to.
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Post by Merge on Jun 25, 2024 14:07:22 GMT
Give him a seat at the dining table. jeremysgirl has a skeleton that sits in various chairs. 😂😂 So, erm, we actually tried that! But he only has a torso and no support from the waist down. It was rather disappointing! Put him in the passenger seat of the car and buckle him in so you can use the HOV lane without another passenger.
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Post by Merge on Jun 25, 2024 14:02:12 GMT
Her name is Margaret Anne. I felt like she needed to have a "grownup" full name because she wouldn't be a little girl forever. I also have a Margaret who we call Maggie. She's an adult and will always go by Maggie. Mine will, too. But when my girls were born I wanted them to have names that wouldn't seem out of place for a Supreme Court justice. Haha. My Maggie is a professional classical musician. Maggie is fine!
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Post by Merge on Jun 25, 2024 14:00:40 GMT
Yay peas! Glad we're still here.
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Post by Merge on Jun 25, 2024 1:00:56 GMT
Beautiful sweet boy! Thank you for choosing rescue.
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Post by Merge on Jun 24, 2024 20:18:51 GMT
I’m usually team “it’s your house so do what you want” but that’s the stupidest effing thing I’ve ever seen. Also the idea of not using your garage to park your car also seems so weird. If that’s the case, why not forgo the garage for a storage room? Some people do convert their garages and replace the door with an exterior wall - especially in older neighborhoods like mine. Others prefer to keep the flexibility in case a new buyer wants the garage. I would love to convert our garage to half storage room, half laundry room and a powder room where the current (tiny) laundry room is. DH doesn’t want to spend the money because we won’t be here that much longer.
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Post by Merge on Jun 24, 2024 20:09:39 GMT
Ceiling fans are ubiquitous where I live, but most people don’t place them over a dining table.
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Post by Merge on Jun 24, 2024 1:27:41 GMT
Attached 2-car garage on a 1955 house in a city that can't have basements. It's storage because of the lack of basement, but also because modern SUV-sized cars don't fit well in the older garage.
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Post by Merge on Jun 24, 2024 1:25:03 GMT
Same, but for Maggie. She does NOT like being called Margaret when a new teacher/professor calls roll. Maggie suits her perfectly, though. So is her name actually Margaret? Or are teachers making the assumption when they see Maggie on the roll, that it must be short for Margaret? I really like the name Maggie. One of my friends from my teenage years named his daughter Maggie Mae, and I thought it was such a cool name. I *think* Mae is the middle name, and not part of a hyphenated first name. Her name is Margaret Anne. I felt like she needed to have a "grownup" full name because she wouldn't be a little girl forever.
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 19:23:05 GMT
I try not to use the oven much during the hottest part of the summer. Our AC struggles to even keep it at 75 in here when the outside temp is 100.
If I do need to bake something, I try to do it first thing in the morning because it definitely does raise the temp in the kitchen.
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 17:42:51 GMT
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 17:39:49 GMT
We used to. When my girls were little a fun "mom's broke but needs to entertain these kids" activity was taking the change to the machine at the grocery store to be counted and traded for paper bills, then go to the dollar store for some shopping.
We so rarely have cash or get change these days that there's no point.
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 17:36:24 GMT
The only thing I would change is my dh thought our daughter's name (Molly) was too much of a nickname so he wanted a "real" name and then we'd call her Molly. It's just created confusion in her life - it's not as easy as a John to Jack thing and I regret acquiescing on that. Same, but for Maggie. She does NOT like being called Margaret when a new teacher/professor calls roll. Maggie suits her perfectly, though. My oldest is Grace and I still love her name. If we had a boy, he would have been Aidan or Ian. The only other girl name in the lineup for us was Audrey.
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 17:20:50 GMT
I use Dr. Bronner's oil soap diluted in water to clean and condition. It seems to work pretty well.
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 17:18:32 GMT
Weird, but here in Houston where we can't have basements, many people use the garage for storage and leave the cars in the driveway. If and when they decide to sell, easy enough to have the tree cut down and the driveway filled in.
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Post by Merge on Jun 23, 2024 17:12:38 GMT
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 16:31:10 GMT
My doc recommended a combo of 10mg melatonin and magnesium glycinate (has to be the glycinate form). This has actually been working for me better than trazodone ever did.
DH likes Delta 8 THC gummies for sleep.
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 16:12:38 GMT
What used to be the formal dining room is now the home for about 25 assorted guitars and basses, plus amps, mics, and other similar items. The adjacent home office is my teaching studio and that's where we have the piano, two more guitars, and a ukulele. One of our spare bedrooms is DH's hobby room, where he paints historical miniatures to use for war games. It's packed to the gills with figures, paints, brushes, books on historical military uniforms, and I don't know what all. Our garage is home to tens of thousands of painted miniatures all neatly boxed and categorized. When DH goes to game, he just pulls out the boxes he needs for the battle being planned.Our little rescue dog refuses to potty outside, so we have a stack of washable/reusable puppy pads in the corner of the family room. One is always out for her to go on. Her poo gets picked up and flushed and we put down a clean pad at least once a day. My kids would say what is different in our house is that we rarely have food, just "ingredients." What they mean is that we don't often buy the pre-prepared foods or snacks they see at their friends' houses. We're pretty weird, I think. We will almost certainly have to move out of this house and have it staged as a proper house when it comes time to sell it. Omg Merge, this is my dh and ds also! At ds's house in Georgia he's turned their entire garage into his hobby room, totally packed with stuff. My dh has basically taken over the basement. SO many miniature figures, paints, brushes, etc., etc., etc., etc., He and ds go twice a year to the Historical Miniatures Gaming Society convention, usually held in Lancaster, PA. Dh is usually a game leader for some of the time. This year's game that he's running has something to do with Civil War gun boats, but that's all I could tell you. I try to avoid most of it. That community is so small, I'd be willing to bet your DH and mine have met online. My DH mostly paints and plays Napoleonic-era games and has actually published a set of rules for them. King of the dorks.
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 16:10:39 GMT
Anything where I could drown, suffocate, freeze to death, or get my head bashed in. Apologies to knitters, but I'm left-handed and was taught by my left-handed mom who knitted right-handed so it always boggled my mind. Knitting. I also live in Florida where there's very little need for knitted goods, so there's that. That's how I got into crocheting amigurumi - in Texas, blankets, scarves, and sweaters don't get a ton of use. To answer the OP, like most here, I avoid anything hobby could easily result in death or dismemberment. Also, I want to be a person who likes hiking, but I really don't like it at all. I like walking on a flat, preferably paved surface. I don't like slippery gravel and unstable rocks and near-vertical climbs up or down.
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 16:07:12 GMT
Only after an emergency event like a hurricane. Most grocery stores will be closed so if you need something, you're going to wait in line for it.
On a regular day, when online shopping and curbside are available? Nah. Nothing out there worth waiting in a long line for.
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 15:28:34 GMT
Rare. As others have said, we're more likely to order Vietnamese, Thai, or sushi these days. Or DD loves the Korean places in Asiatown.
For Chinese I look for something on the menu that isn't deep-fried, and that preferably is spicy.
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 15:18:42 GMT
What used to be the formal dining room is now the home for about 25 assorted guitars and basses, plus amps, mics, and other similar items. The adjacent home office is my teaching studio and that's where we have the piano, two more guitars, and a ukulele.
One of our spare bedrooms is DH's hobby room, where he paints historical miniatures to use for war games. It's packed to the gills with figures, paints, brushes, books on historical military uniforms, and I don't know what all. Our garage is home to tens of thousands of painted miniatures all neatly boxed and categorized. When DH goes to game, he just pulls out the boxes he needs for the battle being planned.
Our little rescue dog refuses to potty outside, so we have a stack of washable/reusable puppy pads in the corner of the family room. One is always out for her to go on. Her poo gets picked up and flushed and we put down a clean pad at least once a day.
My kids would say what is different in our house is that we rarely have food, just "ingredients." What they mean is that we don't often buy the pre-prepared foods or snacks they see at their friends' houses.
We're pretty weird, I think. We will almost certainly have to move out of this house and have it staged as a proper house when it comes time to sell it.
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Post by Merge on Jun 22, 2024 3:33:24 GMT
I understand you are upset because so many of us hate Trump with the heat of a thousand suns. But you are absolutely, positively misinterpreting what ntsf said. And while you might want to think that’s what liberals (and Californians) believe, the fact is that most of those jobs ARE performed here by Mexican, Central American, and Asian immigrants. Ask my extended Mexican and Asian family members. They’ll say the same thing. Honestly, you owe her an apology. ETA my Mexican and Asian extended family members who are NOT working jobs like that. Because they or their forbears came here and DID take those jobs, and succeeded and built a better life for their families. Just like my Jewish forbears did. Just like (I assume) your whatever forbears did. The more I think about it, the less I get your point, besides jumping on a chance to yell at a liberal. Let’s get a few things straight. I’m not the least bit upset because you all hate Trump, doesn’t bother me a bit. This might be hard for you all to understand but it’s quite possible to be a conservative and not be a fan of Trump’s. I’m well aware that most of those jobs are preformed by immigrants and I wasn’t jumping on a chance to yell at a liberal. I have no idea what her political leanings are and I don’t care. I found her post to be condescending and I voiced my opinion and I won’t apologize for that. It’s only offensive if you have the elitist view that those are not important and honest jobs. Recent immigrants have long been our laborers, construction workers, etc. That was true when my Irish ancestors fled the famine and did any odd job they could upon arriving here, and it’s true now. The reason immigrants come and work those jobs is because they believe the American dream still exists. A farm laborer today has kids who are white collar professionals 25 years from now - something often not possible in the countries from which they travel. It’s not condescending to accurately say that our economy would suffer without immigrants doing those jobs. Rather, I find it offensive that so many Americans want to pull up the ladder behind them when their immigrant forebears followed the same upward path.
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 20:56:38 GMT
So you're saying that none of this below was directed at me after your comment on the labels thread? Only if the shoe fits? Clearly, many here are triggered by labels. I really like the cute ankle socks from Old Navy. 🧦 So yes, that was directed at me, and yet you felt the need to be snotty about ME supposedly not being able to let it go. How embarrassing for you.
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Post by Merge on Jun 20, 2024 19:39:18 GMT
I have nothing to do with anything being marked or unmarked in recent days. I do think simple consideration would mean that peas would leave labeling or not to the OP of the thread, simply to avoid the “I’m tagging this because there’s something in it that I disagree with” pattern. As for unnecessary drama, Zee , give it a rest. Drama keeps the board more active than a thousand posts about socks. Give it a rest? Are you telling me I am not allowed to comment with my opinion, which is probably the second comment I've made about it on two separate threads, but I haven't been counting because it's not something I'm fixated on. Maybe you need to take your own advice because you seem awfully sensitive about the entire thing. Let it go, Elsa. So you're saying that none of this below was directed at me after your comment on the labels thread?
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