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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 23, 2021 23:44:27 GMT
Every cancer is different as I am sure you know. My husband's cancer spread to his bones and we did not find out as soon as we should have as the radiologist missed it. But that was over two years ago, so we have calmed down a bit since then. He tried chemo but after the second dose he turned septic. So now he takes chemo pills every day for the rest of his life, however long that will be. He has been in the hospital twice since the diagnosis, once for the sepsis, and the other for blood clots in his lungs.
Now we just take one day at a time. He still is able to do everything a 79 year old man could be expected to do and then some. Just this weekend he has been out in the yard digging out around a leaking pipe in the hottest days of the summer. You can't make him slow down. We do make sure to keep on top of things and he has scans and doctor's appointments all the time.
All this to say, you never know what to expect and not to expect the worst. It is hard I know, and it is hard not to try and stop them from doing things they want to do. He takes a minimal does of methadone on a daily basis to keep the pain at bay, and when it gets really bad, he has as needed meds to help. The hardest for me is the emotional swings he experiences. As it is prostate cancer, he is given shots every 6 months to suppress his testosterone, so I suspect that is what is causing the mood swings.
Please know you are in my prayers and if there is anything we can do, the peas will help. Do not underestimate the impact of their support and care. {{{{{hugs}}}}
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 20, 2021 16:15:17 GMT
It was awesome! I had no idea that one could breath so easily and get so much air! I've had sinus surgery several times, but this surgery was the last and it did the trick. The pain was minimal, so no issues there.
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 19, 2021 22:14:31 GMT
You might consider a smaller cooler for replacement ice that is kept closed and out of the sun until needed. The ice will last longer if the lid is not opened. Also, be sure to refrigerate the food and drinks the night before so they also act as ice until needed.
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Aug 16, 2021 7:08:15 GMT
Post by nlwilkins on Aug 16, 2021 7:08:15 GMT
I wonder how soon, people will start getting fines for fake ones? OR even if they will be fined.
I copied mine and laminated the copy to put in my purse. (The front and back were copied on separate pieces of paper, cut out and glued together before laminating.) I also used a sharpie to write on the back after laminating that this was a copy, not the original.
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 13, 2021 21:54:11 GMT
I tip on the amount of work involved in serving us and how good it was. Its just the two of us when we eat out and it seems there is just as much work involved in taking care of us as there would be in taking care of a party of four. So if I went by the amount of the bill, it would make the tip lower for the same amount of trips to our table. Also, it helps if the server is attentive to our needs or not.
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 11, 2021 6:05:25 GMT
It used to be political leaning had nothing to do with ethics or morals. Even Nixon had enough shame to resign. But, I doubt it will ever happen again. There is no shame anywhere for what they have done.
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Aug 7, 2021 19:19:20 GMT
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 7, 2021 19:19:20 GMT
While there are some students who need to get loans for their masters degrees, I feel, this also should be looked into very carefully. If you have reached the point that you already have a BS or a BA and still cannot make enough to pay for a masters, then maybe you are in the wrong field. OR if you cannot enter the workforce without the grad degree, there should be some sort of way to allow you earn as you go, such as internships and the like. I guess nobody better go into teaching then. You know…a profession that requires people to go back for their Master’s but doesn’t pay for it. My niece is a teacher with five years full-time experience (two years subbing before that) and just finished her Master’s. She makes less than an assistant manager at Taco Bell. I hear ya on this one. Teachers just don't make enough to support a family, let alone pay for grad school.
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 7, 2021 19:13:45 GMT
What about those marriages where one of them works hard for the other to finish college with the understanding that they will have their turn later? You used to hear about it all the time when wife worked to help put husband through college only to have him divorce her once he finished. Sometimes it was because he found someone more educated and who suited his position better. Or you would hear about a husband who continually went to school or who never was able to get a good job because the degree was not in a lucrative field.
Before someone works hard to put a spouse through college, there should be a legal document stating what happens once the degree is achieved. Even if a spouse already has a degree and a good career, there should be agreements on what happens once he/she pays tuition for the other to get a degree.
That is the kind of prenup I would insist upon. Also, I agree if there is a disparity in wealth between the two, a prenup is wise. It shuts down any doubts not only from each other, but from family members.
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Post by nlwilkins on Aug 7, 2021 18:56:52 GMT
I find the idea of student loans being forgiven troubling. How many of those loans went to students who did not finish? How many loans went to students who got degrees in areas that are not profitable? There should be some strict guidelines for who is eligible for student loans. It is like when the mortgages were issued to one and all regardless of their ability to afford the house they were purchasing. That did not turn out well. Now we need to revamp our student loan requirements and check out what schools they are attending.
One of my last jobs was at a university. I worked with a few people who owed more than than a home would cost. Payments on their student loans did not start as long as they worked at the university. So basically, they just worked there because of the loans. I was OK with that part, but what irritated me was the part that some of them went to very expensive schools knowing they would have to take loans out to attend. They wore their college rings proudly even though it was not paid for.
On the other hand, one of our universities had a program where basically, if you were admitted, you got scholarships and on campus jobs that made the tuition affordable. That is what we should strive for. To give college students a way to pay for their tuition without taking out such huge loans. Some places will even forgive tuition for students who go on to become teachers for a certain number of years.
While there are some students who need to get loans for their masters degrees, I feel, this also should be looked into very carefully. If you have reached the point that you already have a BS or a BA and still cannot make enough to pay for a masters, then maybe you are in the wrong field. OR if you cannot enter the workforce without the grad degree, there should be some sort of way to allow you earn as you go, such as internships and the like.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 31, 2021 6:01:42 GMT
Its not the sorting out the stuff to get rid of, it is trucking it to the trash yard or dump. I would pay bunches for someone to load my stuff up after I put it all in boxes and carry it off.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 30, 2021 23:20:07 GMT
The thing is, the doctor should be consulted cause it is not just the pain that keeps a person from traveling. Eleven or so days are not long enough to achieve full recovery. Especially if he has been ill for a while.
I had mine out when I was 64 and it took a while to get my energy back, the pain was gone but the ability to be active was gone as well for about two or three weeks. I did not realize it was my gall bladder that was causing issues. I had a fever that would not go and something that felt like a gas pocket. I only mentioned to the doctor as an add on - kind of like ". . and OH ya, I have this vague pain here that is not too bad, but kinda feels like gas". Turned out I had four stones in my gall bladder with ecoli in my blood due to the stones, along with Influenza A and pneumonia.
Because of the add ons, it took longer for me to feel up to much. But with all your StepDad is going through, he may not have the energy or motivation to go on a trip too soon. BUT then again, he might be eager and able to go after only one week. Only time will tell.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 27, 2021 0:35:22 GMT
love it! shared to Facebook
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 26, 2021 22:27:29 GMT
Shame on that rude lady for losing her humanity and compassion. How does she know he is homeless? (The rude ladey did not know he was homeless, just the lady giving him the water knew for sure.) How does she know what caused him to be homeless? Perhaps he is a vet that lost his way after serving us due to PTSD. Perhaps could not afford the right kind of prescriptions that big pharma families charge so much for so they can have seven mansions and three jets so he ended up homeless. Perhaps he lost a good job because the company wanted younger workers who work for less and he became homeless. Perhaps he was kicked out of a home because his parents died and there was no one left to pay for his care.
There are so many reasons a person ends up homeless that is not their fault. Many families live now days one pay check away from disaster. One major, unexpected event can put the wheels in motion to put a family out on the street. We need to figure this out. People want to work and want to be able to have some self respect, but for most the deck is stacked against them.
Giving the man a drink of water may be all it takes to make a difference in this man. He may decide to find some help to get back on his feet. He may see that there is good people out there after all and not give up on himself.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 26, 2021 15:29:32 GMT
those temps and that humidity numbers are not really that alarming to me. In my youth on Guam, humidity was in the high nineties and temps were higher than Japan's. I was a field and track runner and it was not an issue. When the Olympics were in high altitudes, the athletes practiced in higher altitudes and were prepared. I am sure they did the same for these conditions. If they didn't than shame on them. Don't blame Japan. everyone knew what the conditions would be and should have been prepared.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 25, 2021 16:51:56 GMT
Wow, that is taking quilting to a whole new level. Gorgeous!
I have done a bit of EPP and find it soothing when watching television at times. But now I don't seem to find the desire to sit and do it.
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Jul 23, 2021 21:35:19 GMT
Post by nlwilkins on Jul 23, 2021 21:35:19 GMT
I am on disability because of something like that. Doc never called it Laryngopharyngeal Reflux but basically that is what it was. It got so bad I could barely breathe as the vocal chords would close when they needed to open, etc. As a teacher, I lost my voice continually. Had to go on disability cause could not work.
Meds included Nexium at the strongest doses twice a day. It helped a lot. I had to go in to ENT regularly to have him check it out = stick a scope up my nose and down the throat to look at the vocal chords. Any sinus issues affected the vocal chords. We lived in an area of refineries and pollution and eventually, I had to leave my home of 30 years to get to less pollution and dryer climate.
Eventually had a nissen fundoplication where the surgeon folded up part of the stomach to reinforce the esophageal sphincter. It was a great success. Now I don't have to take Nexiumm anymore and voice is back full time. Though, now I have a bass voice instead of an alto because of the permanent damage done to vocal chords.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 23, 2021 20:03:02 GMT
Why are you surprised? We knew this was happening as it happened.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 21, 2021 6:42:15 GMT
Love it! She did it so tastefully, no cringe at all. What a classy lady.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 18, 2021 6:47:42 GMT
Folding shirts? Aren't they supposed to go on a hanger? Even t-shirts? At least that is what I do. Since they are hung on a hanger to dry, they just stay there when they are put in the closet. Lazy of me, I know.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 13, 2021 6:44:32 GMT
Gov Abbot has threatened to cut funding for them - their salary and the salary of the assistants and workers. I thought that was so totally wrong. Yet he is willing to call a special session just for the changes in voting rules. Special sessions are supposed to be only for new things that come up that need state legislation on an emergency basis. This is not a new item, nor it is an emergency.
This is going to be interesting to see how it ends.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 13, 2021 6:26:37 GMT
Retired now, but I used to set a goal to learn all my student's names the first two weeks. I usually had about 180 students. They had assigned seats until I could learn their names, and then they were allowed to sit anywhere they wanted. That made it easier to take roll. each period.
That is not a silly goal though - just a goal
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 11, 2021 23:17:57 GMT
I use Wella - kinda of expensive and I alternate and not use it every time. OH, and I don't wash my hair but once a week if that much as I have long hair. I think that helps as well. I'm 71 and we did not grow up washing our hair every day like some do now days. So my scalp and hair just does great with once a week or every ten days.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 10, 2021 21:33:02 GMT
I would forgo the room with the better view. $100 a night is too much to pay for a view that I may or may not take advantage of. Possibly I could find a public place to sit and enjoy the ambience of the area without having to pay so much for it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 9, 2021 16:07:17 GMT
I apologize and let them know I just do not understand what they are saying. For me, most of the time it is their accent that makes it hard to understand. Sometimes, I repeat what I "think" they said and ask them if that is what they said. If it is still hard to for me to understand and I have giving them multiple chances, I will ask if there is someone else I can talk to and I make sure to apologize. Though sometimes if they talk way too fast and I can get them to slow down and that helps.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 9, 2021 16:00:39 GMT
Both of us are retired. We both have pensions and health insurance is provided by husband's company. We really live on that without any additions funds needed. In fact, we are now able to save more money cause we are not going out as much and are not spending as much as we get older.
For both of us it was a matter of working for companies that had good retirement plans that made the difference. Also, we lived in the same house long enough to pay off the mortgage, so had that nest egg once the house was sold.
So I have no idea of how much we would have needed to retire.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 9, 2021 4:13:42 GMT
He is more than a friend. After 51 years of marriage we are different sides to the same coin. We do not exactly think alike, but have a lot of the same value systems and the same moral compass. Best friends are not as close, but are good to have. But, right not we do not have any best friends, just good friends.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 9, 2021 4:05:59 GMT
When I was 12, we moved to Guam and were required to have certain vaccinations to go, smallpox, yellow fever to name a few. Each of us had a small booklet, similar to a passport, that recorded what shots we had and when. Every time we were vaccinated, it was added to our shot record and stamped with an official rubber stamp. We had to have them to get on the ship. Sixty years later, I still have mine.
I see no problem with adding the paperwork I was given this spring for the Covid-19 vaccination to the records of the previous records. Though, I got my covid vaccinations through the medical system that my doctors belong to and they can look in my records for proof of my vaccinations.
To me that is a much better way of proving vaccinations, the digital records. BUT I doubt anyone is being required to prove they are vaccinated. I have yet to hear any news of that.
(Junior high students are required to get a booster for some of their shots and our school nurses are in charge of checking up on that. So it should not be a new thing, or a political thing to require covid vaccinations. But it seems to be anyway.)
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 7, 2021 3:37:37 GMT
Look at that smile!!! Love it and the wig - which doesn't look like a wig at all.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 3, 2021 20:32:43 GMT
Does it even matter what opinion the employee has? What matters is what the customer thinks. Why not call the customer and find out?
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 2, 2021 3:32:57 GMT
Within city limits it is illegal, but out in the country side it is OK. We used to have great parties and lots of fun doing the fireworks. Of course, we made sure to have water hoses and to watch out for sparks to make sure they did not start a fire. When there is a fire ban, there will be no fireworks. Each county has the responsibility to post bans if needed when the risk of fire is too bad.
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