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Post by nlwilkins on Jun 27, 2017 20:32:37 GMT
How helpless that mother must have felt. She was at their mercy and they had none.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jun 1, 2017 8:07:12 GMT
I start out writing one word and end up merging it with the next. The first part of one word added onto the next word. usually it makes sense when you go back to read it. example: stress related becomes stesrelated
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Post by nlwilkins on Jun 1, 2017 2:08:53 GMT
When we had a parrot, she had a vet who could just lay her on her back and trim her beak with no problems. There is a special trick to it about how you hold her head from behind and gather up her feet in her hand. It was totally awesome. Her beak had to be trimmed on a regular basis. I did not realize what a jewel he was until we moved and had to go to a different vet. This one did not have a clue how to handle parrots. The new vet wrapped her in a towel and poor parrot got so hot and agitated that I refused to go back.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jun 1, 2017 2:02:32 GMT
Unexpectedly my girls learned about planning ahead as a by product of a principle of my husband. He believes if you say you are going to do something you have to do it, it is important to him to not let your friends down. If they were on restrictions because of behavior or grades, they still had to follow through with plans made with others. So they always made sure to make plans for weekends or special holidays way ahead of time. Then if they are under restrictions, they still got to go. It did not happen often,they were pretty good kids, but they wanted to be prepared if it did happen. I loved knowing what was going on and when I was going to be needed for driving duties.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 22, 2017 7:12:58 GMT
I feel when a man cheats, he cheats on his family, not just his wife. But, there are always excuses about the marriage being bad or the wife not treating him right. These are excuses. If the marriage is bad get out, don't cheat. Keeping facts about their daddy from the children makes it harder sometimes for them to face the truth down the road. Whereas if they knew their daddy was a cheater then they learn to live with it as they grow up and don't face disillusionment later on. Children are incredible and can handle a lot more than we give them credit for. At times it seems the younger you are, the easier it is to move on. Teenagers have so much to go through that finding out your dad is a jerk at that stage is pretty dramatic.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 22, 2017 6:52:10 GMT
The kitchen really seems a bit cramped with the refrigerator way over on the side away from everything else.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 18, 2017 20:38:40 GMT
You are going to learn to love your CPap, though you might not at first. Getting a full night's rest/sleep is so awesome.
the company I got mine from let you bring back the mask within three months to exchange it for another if the first one did not work out. Your doctor will give you a prescription and you take it to the Home Health Equipment store of your choice. Ask around and find out what other CPap wearers are using.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 18, 2017 3:22:29 GMT
I used to take parents and students to court for truancy when I was an admin. It was a county level court and the parents were fined and the students were assigned community service. Texas law at that time stipulated that students could not miss more than 10% of school days. I believe if they had a doctor's note it was acceptable, but am not sure. The junior high students I worked with were impressed by the enforcement of the law and I saw more than one student turn themselves around as to attendance.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 15, 2017 6:15:51 GMT
It sounds like to me that she is only friends when there is nothing else going on. You just don't come first, second or even third on her list of social activities. You deserve better.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 15, 2017 6:08:24 GMT
What always bothered me about the show is the stated reason why the couple feel they need to move. Most of the time if they would just teach their children to put things away and cut back on how many toys the children have they would have it made. PLUS why in the world do children need a play room now days? Isn't that what a yard is for? or do kids even play outside anymore?
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Post by nlwilkins on May 14, 2017 0:30:42 GMT
Actually, I would not like to be called religious. To me that insinuates that I am more about the religion I belong to than the personal relationship I have with God. Religious people go to church every Sunday, visit the sick and poor and then feel they are better because of it. These actions have no bearing on your salvation. They are done because the Lord instructs us to do so in His Word. They are done because they make our Lord happy and because we have a heart that feels better for having done so. In my opinion "religious" people are missing the heart and making the Lord happy part and many are doing those things for show to make sure everybody knows how RELIGIOUS they are.
My mother read the Bible and prayed EVERY day as did many of her friends and prayer warriors who supported her as a missionary. Yes, she was a missionary and the term religious would not apply at all. She worked for an interdenominational organization, Child Evangelism Fellowship. Because of this, she did not attend just one church. Every Sunday she visited a different church so as to not show favoritism. She was a widow with four children doing the work of at least three people. Yet she was able to have time for personal devotionals every day as well a lead us children in family ones. Believe me, that woman was awesome and was not a holier than thou type person. There are people all over the world who cried at her passing.
So being religious is not something I strive to be. Having a personal relationship is more important. That means I need to read the Bible regularly, study it and store His Words up in my heart for when they are needed. Do I achieve this goal? Sadly, I fail many times, but that does not mean I give up. I find that personally, I am a happier person and better able to handle what life throws at me when I am on the path, reading His Word Daily, and praying morning, noon and night.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 12, 2017 9:33:34 GMT
For my kids, I gave them lunch money and kept food in the house that they could use to pack lunches. So, if they wanted to spend their lunch money on something else, then they would pack a lunch so as to not go hungry. Of course, I had to be sure they understood that skipping lunch was not an option. Both had after school activities and needed to eat a good lunch. Also, the lunch money was almost five dollars a day. So it would add up if they packed their lunches often.
Going to games every night sounds a little excessive to me. When is he getting his homework done, chores around the house done and family time is important too. Also if he is hanging around at the games with that much time on his hands away from home, I would be worried about him getting into trouble. There is all sorts of mischief kids could get into when there is too much unsupervised time on their hands. Notice is said COULD not that your son would, but at that age they still need supervision. Being at games is not a supervised situation. Maybe, kids have changed and things are a lot different but at that age for me and for my daughters was when the most trouble could happen cause we were more worried about what friends thought and fitting in with the crowd than what was the right thing to do. Believe me, I taught middle school kids and found them to be terrible at decision making when it came to behavior. But, on the other hand, they just were great with a little supervision.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 9, 2017 7:25:29 GMT
A dude ran a red light and crashed into my DD a week ago. Luckily she wasn't injured, but her car was damaged. Since she's only 19, she can't get a rental car. I am having to shuttle her back and forth to work. The damned insurance company has had her car for a week and hasn't even looked at it yet. We were able to rent cars for our daughters when they were teens using the insurance that we already had on them. Talk to her insurance agent and see what they say and talk to the rental car company. (Instead of them renting a limo for prom night, we rented super fine new cars for them to drive and they both when presented with the option loved it.) Save
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Post by nlwilkins on May 8, 2017 6:47:03 GMT
When I had monovision contacts, I loved it and never needed reading glasses. Your eye doc may have hesitated to make the reading RX too strong at first until you get used to it.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 8, 2017 6:44:58 GMT
I'm in the 'turn around & go home' camp. They can't behave themselves in the car, they don't get to go. Yep, this is what we did. It sounds like this trip and others are really for them and if they can't behave for a single hour, then just turn around and go home. It won't take too many times of doing that and they will learn to sit on their hands if they have to. That is what we did as kids when the urge was just too much. By the way, how are you getting three kids on a bench seat? is it the back seat of the pick up and has seat belts for three. Here that would be an issue if there were no seat belts. Save
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Post by nlwilkins on May 4, 2017 15:00:35 GMT
I have always said that cigarettes shoud have a tax on them that goes directly to the healthcare system. This would help cover not only smokers but those around them with second hand smoke issues. The price of sugar and other foods with extra sweeteners added should also have the health tax. I can remember when luxury type chocolates cost a whole lot more than they do now. Health taxes could be added to those. These taxes should go directly to the health care industry in some way. But the biggest issue for me is the air polluters. I had to leave my home of 30 years where I raised my children all because the refineries along the ship channel pollute the area to an alarming degree. Most of them are grandfathered in and don't have to abide by current standards. Then when they do pay fines it is like a slap on the wrist. Several times a week we would see flares where the refinery had to burn off product due to issues with there system. These would cause the air to be foul for days. Then thee are the radiation levels in the US. There was so much radiation let loose into our atmosphere by testing and so forth that if another country had done this to us we would have gone to war over it. These are thing that can addressed without digging into people's lives and blaming them for their health issues.
If we tackle these problems from this angle, then it makes it easier to live healthier and eat healthier. Right now it cost significantly more to eat healthy, It takes skills and time to cook healthy that the many don't have.
Exercise? I think of my husband who had to climb flights and flights of ladders to work on those blasted refineries every day and who had to ride a bike around the plant hauling heavy tools and parts. There was no energy left at the end of the day for exercise. The two of us were worn to the bone at the end of the day with no time or energy left for exercise. We knew what we did at work was not the kind of exercise needed to keep healthy, but it just wasn't going to happen. When I finally got a job that was not so hard on my body, the time was not there nor the money to purchase a gym membership. Doing anything like walking or riding bikes in our neighborhood was not safe.
We are middle class income family. If it was so hard on us, just think about the poorer families. Many who have two or three jobs to just get by. There is no way they could afford healthier food or have time for exercise. Lets work on fixing that rather than blaming the victim for making poor health decisions. For many of them these decisions are made for them by the way they have to live. Lets make being healthy an easier decision to make,rather than something only the wealthy can afford.
But above all, lets acknowledge the fact that it is a complex issue and while for some it may be poor decision making that leads to their poor health, for most these decisions are not something they make but are made for them or things they inherited.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 2, 2017 6:59:34 GMT
My one 14 month old kitty is just now finally growing out of all the wild stuff. But, she still has a lot of fire in her. Sometimes she just gets out of control and I will put her in the dark bathroom to calm her down. It is areal small bathroom with no window. I just has to remember to remove the TP before shutting the door. I set a timer and only leave her in there 10 minutes. When I open the door, she is much more in control of herself and sometimes just stays there in the bathroom for a little while more. Now if she was hollering and banging on the door, I would not be doing this, as it would not be calming her down.
The water squirting did not calm her down, she would just run and then come back and try again on what she was doing. We have some short soft pool noodles that we threaten her with and sometimes have to pat her bottom with that seem to do a good job of teaching her to keep off things. But, still she persists in getting on the table and kitchen counters. I firmly believe that all cats do that, they just don't do when their humans can see them. Ours has not learned yet to hide it from us.
Your best bet is to let the older cats take care of themselves. They will eventually teach the kitten who is boss. That is if the kitten does not end up being boss. They might just find places to hide from the kitten. I would not play with the kitten with my hands or feet. Use toys, a fishing pole or a laser light. Your job is not to entertain the kitten, the kitten needs to learn to entertain himself. Ball with bells in them, boxes and kitty tv (windows that have ledges for cats to sit on and watch the world outside) are our favorites here. When petting the kitten use slow gentle motions. Rubbing him down from the head to the tail. Fast, hard motions only stir them up more. And if he isn't fixed yet, get it done soon. That helps a lot too.
If he still is too much and you can't see keeping him as he is, try giving him a room of his own with a litter box, food and water. Let him live in there with time out each day for good behavior. That is better than living in a cage at the shelter with the possibility of being put down sometime soon. Perhaps he cannot handle all the room and freedom right now and needs limited territory too. As he matures you will be able to leave her out more and more.
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Post by nlwilkins on May 2, 2017 3:43:49 GMT
Role play with your son how to respond to bully. Figure out ways your son could kind of turn the tables on the bully. Like, "What's the matter, your mother won't let you have toys of your own so you have to steal other people's toys?" Teach him how to laugh at the bully when he starts his routine and things he can say to bring others into the situation against the bully. "Look at him, he has to be a jerk just to get attention." or ""Wow, you must really be desperate for attention to carry on this way." He can call the bully a prima donna and other terms that really are only terrible to a 12 year old boy. But, he must be willing to stand his ground. Bullies only pick on those that let them do it. Role play is the way to go though, so he will have the words handy and know what can happen. Remember, this is just a boy, not a monster and he has feelings too. Work on those feelings.
Another way to handle this is to have your son seek out the bully and work on becoming his friend. Hard to do, but doable if no others are around at first. He could find out the bully just needs a good friend or that the bully acts this way because he doesn't know how else to interact.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 30, 2017 5:47:31 GMT
I would be sure that family understood this is a matter of life or death and not just trying to keep from getting a cold. I truly believe most people don't understand that. (Not everyone one has such a resource as 2peas as we do to educate them and I mean that seriously, I learn so much here.)
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 29, 2017 1:32:39 GMT
For me they might rate a card, but not money. Grad gifts are kind of hit or miss in my family circles. Sometimes we don't even know when someone is graduating. If I don't get an announcement or a grad photo, for sure no gift. Mainly because if they are not wanting me to know or to brag, then they are not expecting anything and I am not knowing about it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 26, 2017 5:55:39 GMT
We use Straight Talk and I love it. You can bring your own phone and just get a sim to put in - WalMart has those here. My husband only wants a plain phone no data, no internet, etc. So his plan is cheaper than mine. There is no contract but you can get automatic payment each month. To change a phone and keep your number is easy and no problem either. They have phones for sale on their site, but not usually the newest and most up to date. Which does not matter to us. I believe husbands phone is $35 a month with no limits and my phone is $45 a month cause it is a smartphone. But there is no limits on it as well.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 26, 2017 5:34:53 GMT
I would love to do event planning. It would be so amazing to plan a big event day and then get to see it all come together. Like the marathon days or Halloween party nights or just about everything. My daughter did this for Astroworld in Houston before it closed. We used to get the best seats for some of the shows. The two I remember the most were Vince Gill and Reba McEntire - both were so great and so skinny - effortless performance from them both. We had front row seats for both concerts. Both girls worked at Astroworld in their teens, the younger one started at 15 and worked her way up to event coordinator. If I worked at DL or DW I would want to be the Fairy godmother - the chubby kind so I would not have to worry about my weight and could bring smiles to all. Save
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 24, 2017 6:43:48 GMT
Wwe always waited for the air conditioner to come on to get to the noisy part. But, then we only had one bathroom in those days so when I got up to run to the bathroom they kind of had a clue.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 23, 2017 7:19:22 GMT
Not a chance. I don't like touching people I don't know. I barely like touching people I do know! I do however, love to cuddle My dogs! If I didn't have dogs I might pay to cuddle Dogs. My cat gives great cuddles in the morning when we get up. that is all the cuddles I would need. Hubby can't cuddle without figiting and it drives me crazy. Save
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 22, 2017 6:39:59 GMT
My new eyes are scheduled for the first part of May - two weeks apart. I can't wait! I will be getting monovision so I won't have to use reading glasses. I am trying to not get my hopes up about not having to wear glasses. I've had to wait about four years for this surgery - you have to be at a point where you have trouble driving before insurance will pay for it. But, now the doc says I am ready!! this is one surgery that I am looking forward to.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 18, 2017 5:03:43 GMT
I Googled light treatments 1970's and found something called Light Therapy.
"The treatments involve exposing the skin to ultraviolet light. The exposures can be to small area of the skin or over the whole body surface, like in a tanning bed."
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 13, 2017 15:00:44 GMT
I've done this. I just love giving gifts,especially handmade gifts. I had a group of ladies I met with once a month and in my birthday month, I would bring gifts. It is so fun. They were just small gifts, like a little fabric notebook, or a organizer that fit over an empty can with pockets and so on. It is a great way to celebrate another year of life with my friends.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 11, 2017 5:59:30 GMT
It depends upon the situation. I have found it is better to offer to do something specific rather than to say can I help you. For example, if it is a cancer patient, I ask if they would like for me to make some hats for them, or to make a blanket, or to drive them to chemo and back or other specific ways of helping. If it is a person with a load, I will ask to take a package or two from them to help, or to open doors for them. Then if the answer is no, then I will not pursue it further. Though, I try to leave the door open letting them know the offer still stands.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 11, 2017 5:32:10 GMT
I would go with option 3. We do not allow the cat on our sofa but I am sure she sleeps there when we are not around. But since we are around a bunch, she does not get on the sofa much.
You might resign yourself to putting a throw on the sofa to catch the fur. Find something that you can live with and that will go with your decor. Also, you might beef up the brushing to daily while she is shedding so much.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 10, 2017 2:25:04 GMT
Its been 47 years for us and I did not do any registering. I already had a china set that my mother gave us - living on Guam like she was it was not such an expensive gift. I had the pots and pans that I learned to cook on since my mother sent them to me when she upgraded to corning ware. I loved that. The gifts we got were very usable and some are still in service to this day. In particular a set of mixing bowls, some serving dishes and other odds and ends. The kitchen timer we got just gave up the ghost a few months ago. I could not bring myself to toss it and it sits on a shelf with other memory things.
If I had to do it now I would want some of the same things as they were so useful. Of course, say I would not have anything and was starting out from scratch like I was way back then, I would definitely go the registry route and ask for things like vacuum cleaner + kitchen appliances. I would want to choose my own linens as I am particular about those.
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