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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 8, 2019 19:37:08 GMT
I would be upset if it was a major inconvenience to the people living on the street. Like myboysnme's mother who is stuck in her home because her street is shut down. Or what about even getting your car out after the street is roped off? One would hope these issues would be taken into consideration. What if the street shut down is a major through street and having it shut down causes major traffic jams?
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 8, 2019 0:31:15 GMT
WOW. as an experienced quilter with lots of completed quilts under my belt I would not even start on that. For me that is a recipe for disaster! I mean,, 365 blocks??? It took my friend and I half a year to make the blocks for the Farmer's Wife quilt and I still have not sewn them all together yet. I believe we ended up with around 50 blocks and stopped and said enough. I am impressed that you are going to do this and look forward to hearing how it goes.
As far as picking fabrics, find your focus print and make sure that there are at least three or four different colors in it for matching. It really helps if you can find two "focus" prints that will work together cause that gives you more opportunities to find complementary fabrics.
Oh, and I found if I choose a theme for my quilt instead of colors, it gets old real fast plus much harder to find complementary fabrics.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 7, 2019 3:41:40 GMT
To me a natural consequence that would not be too hard on her would be bed checks. Since you can't trust her to be in her bed when you think she is, then she has to put up with your checking on her at night. Have her leave the door open a crack and shine a flashlight in there before going to bed to make sure she is there. If you get up for bathroom trips during the night check again. Keep the conversation open and don't make it about punishment, but about trust and safety.
A word of warning though - my daughter would come in late, then have to confess everything and anything she did that was wrong and then feeling better about it would go to bed and sleep the sleep of the innocent. It was like she would be getting absolution. I finally had to make her wait to talk to me until morning and make her stew over it all night. She hated that and I hope it caused her to think twice before doing anything she should not have done. I'll have to ask her about that next time we talk (she is 47 now so would tell me the truth)
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 7, 2019 3:18:15 GMT
I can remember when people thought I was behaving very risky to order from Amazon and use PayPal. It was awesome to get my books that I could not get anywhere else AND I was living in the big city of Houston at the time. Shopping there was a nightmare with the traffic and crowded stores.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 6, 2019 3:37:41 GMT
After four weeks of giving hubby IV Antibiotics every eight hours, the end is in sight - three more days. Only, he just had to mow the lawn this afternoon and now is in major pain again which means a set back on his withdrawal from pain meds. He might even be having pain from the new tumor, and we will have to bring it up with the docs. Its not his fault he got cancer and it is not his fault that he turned septic with a ten day stay in hospital after last chemo treatment. But, I would just wish we could deal with one issue at a time. The poor man just can't get a break.
So far he has had a shot that takes away all his testosterone for six months, chemo (2 treatments so far), ten days in the hospital with sepsis (we could have lost him over that) radiation for a new tumor discovered in the hospital, and still is on the IV Antibiotics for the sepsis which I give him every eight hours. (His prostate cancer spread to his bones which was not discovered until it was in multiple spots.)
I HATE CANCER AND WHAT IT IS DOING TO MY HUSBAND!
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 4, 2019 23:05:52 GMT
Could you possibly change your criteria to something exciting to do the day after Christmas? It seems like Christmas would be a hard day to find a good event to attend. If you found something you could spend Christmas Day getting ready for the next day, perhaps driving to the city where it is or packing up snacks and stuff.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 4, 2019 22:48:58 GMT
Ah, that is totally uncalled for. {{HUGS}} Now you know that you tried and can adjust your behavior from here and determine the amount of time you want to spend with her and the amount of time you want your daughters to spend with her. But, if it is any way possible, I would find someone else to look after your children. Her behavior is setting an example for your girls.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 4, 2019 19:08:47 GMT
The problem with sitting out parts of the amusement park is possibly there might be a girl or two there who would make an issue of it and either make fun of your daughter or try to pressure her into joining in. I would not encourage her to go to the amusement park if she is planning on sitting out parts of the experience. That being said, once the group gets back to the house for the sleepover, they will be full of talk about the fun they had at the amusement park and it might make your daughter feel left out. Just some hings to consider when she is deciding what to do. Possibly these negative things would not happen.
By the way, this really sounds like a LONG LONG day for any 13 year old. Five hours hanging out, then amusement park, AND then a sleepover. That mother is a brave woman for sure.
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Post by nlwilkins on Oct 1, 2019 15:36:09 GMT
Once on clearance it stays on clearance. Clearance items are things you want GONE as is not wanting to pack them up and store them at home. As such, they would be priced pretty low. If you want to just have a sale, and mark it as a limited time only, then those items return to regular price after the sale is over.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 30, 2019 16:06:50 GMT
This is not new. Remember when messages were left on the phone and you would not hear back? Or I remember sending invites with a RSVP date and still not hear back. People's inboxes are the equivalent of yesterday's answering machines.
I have seen a major reluctance in people to just call and talk to the person instead of leaving messages of some sort. Phone calls give you immediate feedback and you can move one. Messages leave you hanging. Just look at your inbox - is it empty? probably not. How many of those emails in your inbox are needing responses? Yep, we all do it, leave it in the inbox so we can get back to it later not caring that we might be leaving someone hanging waiting on a response.
If you need a timely response then say so in your emails or other messages. A little phrase such as, "if I don't hear from you in two days I will assume the answer is no or not interested."
If you are dealing with this at work with your team, it is time to institute a response requirement. When I was a Project Manager I required team members to respond with one word answers at least so I have a record that they received the emails I sent. It took a little bit of training but it was worth it. I would resend the report or message until I got the response with a note that said since I had not heard from them, I was concerned they did not get it the first time.
Remember the pea axiom - you teach people how to treat you. If you accept a non response, and let it go, then that will continue. I you need a response, then keep sending the message until you get it and send it several ways until you get the response making sure the recipient understands it is their fault they are being bombarded with these messages.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 27, 2019 3:47:29 GMT
go to snopes and type in Trump in the search box
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 26, 2019 23:32:44 GMT
I don't work and my husband still asks me how my day was if he has been out of the house. We even ask "how's it going?" when both of us have been home together for a while. Its just a way of checking up on each other. Since we are both retired and getting on in years, things can change real fast.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 24, 2019 17:26:58 GMT
Side note: this thread has made me realize I have a lot of skills/talents people admire. Thank you for making me aware and grateful for all of the teachers I’ve had in my life.
I agree. Many of the skills listed by other posters are skills or talents that I have not truly appreciated having. Thanks
I am almost 70 years old and have had time to learn a lot of things. I used to wish I could draw, until one day I realized that you have to practice it like any other skill before you get good at it. So I started practicing, practicing everywhere I went and any time I have a few minutes and now can draw a whole lot better. I am not entirely satisfied but that will come with more practice.
I used to be able to sing, no solo quality, but choir suitable singing. I miss being able to do that, but vocal chords and lungs are compromised and now I physically cannot sing at all, even for my own enjoyment. I miss that.
I think I would like to be able to learn another language. Again this is something that could come with practice. Perhaps I might get enough motivation to take some online lessons and talk my neighbor into helping me.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 23, 2019 3:09:02 GMT
Neither of us are into sports in any way even though hubby was a star player in high school. Our friends are our friends even though some like sports. Our friends are like us with other interests but it is not the end all and be all of their lives. Nobody I know would travel out of town to see a professional game. Some will go to see grand kids play but only because it is grand kids not because they are a big fan. I like to think we are well rounded in our interests and that we don't center our lives around just one of them. We don't feel the lack of friends because of our lack of interest in sports. Sports is not an issue when making friends.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 22, 2019 23:13:44 GMT
When I was pushed by a student, I was given no say in the student being expelled or arrested. It was called zero tolerance. The minute that child turned her anger onto the teacher and used violence against the teacher she lost the her options of staying in school and being treated as just an unruly student.
Teachers have to know they are safe in the classroom no matter what is going on in the lives of the students. If the child was going through sleep issues and prone to violence because of it, she had no business in the classroom until they were under control.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 22, 2019 19:24:56 GMT
Sounds like the flu to me. Not everyone spikes a fever over a stomach bug, it could be that. n
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 22, 2019 19:22:06 GMT
I'd stick to chicken and ground beef for meat. You are really making it complicated by adding so many things. We served a taco bar lately at a retreat and only had ground meat, lettuce, tomatoes, chopped onion, grated cheese, diced jalapenas, sour cream, salsa and taco shells. Everybody loved it. Those that did not want ground meat did without meat on their tacos and were happy to do so. Those who just wanted salad, used the ingredients available to make a salad. We did not even include beans.
The deal is, if you do not want what is being served, you use what is available to customize. If you add all the ingredients mentioned, it is really going to add up in cost. There is only so much that can fit in a taco shell and this is for a lunch at work, not a major meal in my books. A couple of tacos and a spoon of rice is a very good meal.
OH and I did not notice drinks. Are you providing iced tea or something to drink? and a smallish dessert?
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 21, 2019 16:28:29 GMT
Some of those outfits make the person look so big as in fat though I know that the person wearing the outfit really is not overweight. Not attractive at all.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 21, 2019 14:31:35 GMT
We have always ignored the Saudi's shortcomings. We ignored their links to Al-Qaeda and other terrorist organizations. We have given them weapons that they turned around and gave to terrorist groups and the list goes on. Trump has just raised the level of support for the Saudis to a new level and is more open about it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 19, 2019 2:38:56 GMT
Its the buy back part I am cannot get past. I support not selling these anymore or ammo for them. But not a buy back program. That would be too extreme.
Besides, just how does any one know who all has these kind of weapons? We would be better off with laws of accountability. If your weapon was used in a shooting you should be just as accountable as the shooter. If you sold the weapon used in a shooting, you should bear some of the burden of guilt. Perhaps that would make sellers and owners a bit more responsible in who they sell to and who they allow access to their weapons.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 19, 2019 2:32:27 GMT
I think you need to learn how to tune her out. When she starts talking, just walk away or turn away and start working on something else. I know this might work cause it works on me. I am a talker and sometimes need hints and clues like this to make me realize that I need to shut up.
For your mental state I would also develop extreme politeness when dealing with her. Use it as a shield. Use a very formal and distant polite attitude towards her. Let it be your barrier between you and her and make sure you don't let her break through it. Any time she steps over, look shocked and kinds do a uppity "Excuse me?", kind of like a how dare you. A good response to questions from her would be, "I'm sure I don't know." Think of a few more and practice them when thoughts of her intrude on your time out of the office.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 19, 2019 0:26:12 GMT
Men of my husband's age were raised by women who taught them that wives did all the work in the home and husbands sat down to dinner and reaped the benefits. My MIL told me she though she had looped the moon when they told her she had a boy. He was her fourth and it was like he was so much more important that her daughters. She ended up with six girls and three boys and the boys were always treated special.
After a stint in the Air Force my husband unlearned a bit of that. And he did "help out" around the house. Now days that we are retired and the girls are grown he does more than I do. It took training and it was a gradual process but he believes in doing his fair share and more.
But I will always have the precious memories of him getting up in the night with the newborn babies and changing their diapers and feeding them when they came home from the hospital. I have memories of him taking care of the girls as they grew and the things he did with and for them. I am so glad he was able to do this as their is a special relationship now between him and his daughters.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 18, 2019 22:05:21 GMT
So sorry for your loss. I lost my mother in 2014 and I still have dreams about her or dreams that she is in. Your mother was a very integral part of your life and it is very hard to adjust to the loss of that part. It is like losing an arm or leg only you do not have the constant visual reminder of the absence. It takes time and you may always be different and eventually you and those around you will adjust to the new you.
You might ask your husband if he can define how you are different. Are you no fun anymore? If that is the case, this will pass. You will need though to remind yourself that your mother would not want you to give up laughter, joy and fun. Find ways to keep busy and to more on to finding the new you. Think of fun things you and your mother did together, things that make you smile even though there are tears involved. Have you been able to talk to others about your mother? maybe that is needed to get it out, to express the sorrow and also the joy you had in your relationship. Or maybe it is just the opposite, there might be reminders everywhere of your mother so she is constantly on your mind. I would not recommend removing those but when you see those reminders think of the joy you two had together instead of the sorrow that she is no longer around.
These are a few of the things I did to "move on" as my mother would not have stood for me to "brood" or be constantly saddened by her passing.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 18, 2019 0:04:39 GMT
A fence. Every other house in the neighborhood has fences. We sit on a peninsula with the front facing one street and the back facing another street. It would be nice to have some privacy at times and to be able to decorate the back yard without the pieces "walking" off.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 17, 2019 22:13:29 GMT
I am a lover of documentaries, but don't pay attention to the names of the people who produce them. I also don't know the names of very many stars, actors, tv series, singers, dancers and the like. I would be hopeless at a trivia contest where questions about these would be featured.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 16, 2019 13:43:56 GMT
Sounds like they make up a bunch ahead of time and to give you what you wanted they had to make one up fresh. Which for me would be a reason not to go back.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 15, 2019 3:40:10 GMT
Have not done since we put them up. But, now you have me wondering if I should. I think they would need to be taken to the dry cleaners though, so I might just shake them out.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 15, 2019 3:32:54 GMT
No. Just not doing it.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 14, 2019 23:46:31 GMT
I had surgery several years ago and was able to discontinue the three RX's I was on for GERD. It was called nissen fundilipication. (Try saying that three times fast!) When they did the surgery they also found a hernia that was repaired. Now I never need anything more than a tums or two if I eat too much Mexican food.
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Post by nlwilkins on Sept 14, 2019 23:38:14 GMT
I do my pre-winter cleaning for Christmas. It was always traditional growing up that the tree did not go up until the house was spic and span. So I've carried on the tradition. It really gets one motivated.
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