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Post by nlwilkins on Mar 2, 2021 9:22:54 GMT
I am not condoning her behavior in any way, but we really should have a way for parents to voluntarily surrender custody of their children if they don't want them anymore. Maybe with a 24 hour cooling off period or something. If she could have just dropped them off at the entrance to the park and some social service would have taken them in. There just has to be a better way than what we have. I don't believe this would have helped in this case. The mother was not sane and could not make a rationale decision to relinquish any of her children. She would have never asked for help or considered asking someone else to raise the children.
I could NEVER convince any of my students that if you truly loved your baby you would consider allowing the baby to be adopted rather than try to raise a child at the age of 14. My students were 7 & 8th graders and several students in our school turned up pregnant so we would have these kind of discussions. There is something that interferes with rational thought when considering surrendering your baby or child.Their answer was always that they would love their babies and never give them up.
Children/babies become like a possession and at times the insanity means you have to destroy what you cannot control or take care of.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 23, 2021 7:33:21 GMT
Wow! things have changed. I taught in the 80's and 90's and was required to turn in lesson plans with the objectives listed for each lesson. We had a list of objectives that were to be covered in each course for the year and they even had how many hours should be spent on each objective. The lesson plans were required to be turned in before first period on Monday. A teacher had to map out the course for the year to be sure everything was covered that was needed to be covered.
Teachers that taught more than one subject had more to do than those who only taught one. There were some years I taught three different courses. Which meant more planing and more paperwork etc. But it helped me a lot to stay on track. Teachers got one period off a day for planning. If a teacher planned it right, worksheets for the week were run off before the week started. We were also required to have emergency plans for the substitute, with worksheets, etc. (Substitutes generally did not have the skills to teach what was planned.)
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 16, 2021 23:11:40 GMT
I am so angry. Most of my family lives in the Abilene/Colorado City area. And the Colorado City mayor posted this on his FB account. They've had no water and electricity since Sunday. View AttachmentJust Bull, totally off the mark. Some people don't even know what socialism is. What a winner they have for a mayor.
It is not socialism when you sign a contract to PAY for electricity and water. The wind turbines were not built to withstand these temps, nuclear power generators were not built to withstand these temps and so on. Because Texas decided it did not want to have to comply with federal regulations, they did not allow power grids to cross state lines. I wonder if it was also because they did not want to have to share power when other states needed it? no proof about that but just wondering. Federal regulations, which some would say is part of socialism, and/or big government taking care of you, would have possibly prevented this.
Having been part of an electric co-op and a water co-op in an rural area for a few years and comparing the prices we paid back then and the prices we pay now I know we are paying for what we get. Government is NOT subsidizing our electricity and water.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 16, 2021 22:40:04 GMT
Younger daughter brought us half a one last week. It was from a local store here in Central Texas, but still good. Ate it up in two days. We have about five "babies" in the silverware drawer. Maybe I should try making our own. DH really loves them.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 12, 2021 16:05:04 GMT
When I realized that my youngest is old enough to be a grandmother. I realized that I am probably the oldest person playing Conan Exiles on xbox I told the doctor that I worried about waiting for a particular surgery because soon they might hesitate to do it due to my age. He told me it was too late and they have to worry about it now.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 7, 2021 0:57:39 GMT
Mother had just about the same as you, and it got the same way. She became septic from it. People die from getting septic and mother almost did. Please see if one of the docs you see this week can order some bloodwork.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 31, 2021 6:59:54 GMT
Does not sound good - can just see the incident reports about rowdy (drunk) tourists carrying shotguns and elephant rifles stumbling through the woods looking for Bigfoot. He is promoting it to increase tourism. There is already a Bigfoot festival every year a "It will be a great way for people to enjoy our area and to have some fun." Disaster waiting to happen.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 30, 2021 21:55:11 GMT
I Googled it and found there are masks specifically designed for band members. Who knew? The bell of some of the instruments need to be covered as well.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 23, 2021 19:59:19 GMT
I keep a trash bag in the shredder so I don't have to dump it - just pull up the bag and tie it when full. If you watch television, keep the shredder by your chair and shred through the commercials.
Question - if you take your papers somewhere for someone else to shred, how is that safer than throwing them out on trash day? Do you get to watch the papers being shredded?
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 23, 2021 19:47:00 GMT
His defense does not have to be rational. He just has to rile up his base and the Republicans in the Senate will vote how they need to vote to stay in office. This is not about right or wrong, or what is provable, but making the Republicans nervous enough about getting re-elected to support him.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 9, 2021 22:36:58 GMT
That wouldn’t bother me, since one person could’ve easily ordered drinks for ten people even if they weren’t in line with them So why didn't they. Probably because each person had to pay separately. Which means a longer wait. Many times you make up your mind whether to get in line by looking at how long the wait will be. If it is not moving or is too long, you decide to give it a pass. It is kind of rude.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 9, 2021 22:30:15 GMT
I, personally, would like to see it moved to a local military base, like Andrews AFB. You don’t have military ID or aren’t on a specific list to get in that day, the guards at the gate aren’t letting you on base. It would be easiest to control access and keep out the seditionists on one of the bases. While I don’t like having to change plans due to terrorist threats - giving them the power to disrupt things - I personally think that a peaceful uninterrupted inauguration is more important than putting up a strong face.
I would hate for our military to have to fire on civilians - cause you know that would be the only thing that would stop a mob like that.
I don't know what the answer is, but know that it should be held in a secure location where the mobs cannot barge in.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 9, 2021 11:08:43 GMT
I'm crying, thanks for this!
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 8, 2021 12:41:15 GMT
Yes, various kinds. Most of them are used for other things. I have lollipop molds that I just rediscovered this past summer, candy and mini cake molds I use to make soap, mini bundt cake molds that have never been used. The list goes on.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 8, 2021 12:36:34 GMT
Have you met the Republican? ETA: so now were blaming Pelosi and the Democarats ?
Sorry, I can see that it sounds that way from what I posted. I just wanted to point out the Republicans AND Democrats do not know how to move quickly or efficiently and will take any chance to procrastinate. They then cannot be blamed for either not doing anything or doing something that should not have been done. Slow action that does not get the job done in time caters to both the voters who feel nothing should be done AND voters who want something to be done.
It is frustrating when you believe something should be done and Congress moves so slowly that nothing gets done. They always have plenty of excuses and people to blame depending upon who they are talking to.
As you can see, I have no faith in our elected officials to do the right thing. Republicans and Democrats are both to blame.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 8, 2021 7:19:39 GMT
Pelosi and the rest of the Democrats were willing to sit on their hands and wait for Mueller to do their job for them. They waited and waited and then when Mueller did not come through for them they took their time going forward. They had no problem dragging the whole thing out.
I just don't see them moving forward in a rapid manner now.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 7, 2021 23:44:12 GMT
Don't forget to add all the Covid cases that will happen because of no social distancing.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 6, 2021 9:03:53 GMT
We are saving so much money! No eating out, no impulse purchases, no retreats, and so on. This is good because it means we were and are able to help younger daughter out with bills and the like as she goes through chemo and cannot work as much as she usually does.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 6, 2021 8:54:52 GMT
My daughters attended a serious dance studio. Now days it probably would be called "pre-professional". They had classes 6 hours a week plus rehearsals for programs and the like. They did not have true recitals but instead performed parts of ballets like Swan Lake or Nutcraker with the younger students performing in little episodes between the portions of the ballet. Professionals were hired to perform with them as well as other dancers who were semi-professional were given parts to fill out the program.
The studio also took the girls to seminars and to New York to dance and participate in classes to compete for major scholarships. The girls who were going forth in their training took classes in New York living away from home at an early age, some as young as 12. Their parents paid for them to board with the school they were in and to fly back and forth for the holidays. (No summers off of course.)
By 12 years old your daughter should be already be working on-point or pre-point classes and perhaps having classes with male dancers learning the lifts and how to dance with a partner. Hopefully she has had an orthopedic doc take xrays and look at her feet to be sure bones are good for this.
Ballet is something that takes up a whole lot of time and effort and there are no shortcuts. Perhaps your daughter is not so much interested in ballet as much as another kind of dancing.
Ballerinas start young and reach their peak early in life. It is hard on the feet which are disfigured and permanently stressed. I used to be friends with a lady who danced in the corps in a major company in New York and her feet never recovered. You and your daughter need to determine just what kind of career she wants now, before it is too late. Do some research to help her decide just what kind of dance she wants to be involved in. Look into how much dancers make and how what they need to do to reach their goals.
Plus, another thing to consider is how she plans to earn the money to start or take over her own studio. She will need to be realistic about this. The lady I mentioned above did not have a fall back plan and had to support herself promoting and selling various items at trade shows and fairs. It was a precarious living. It is good that your daughter has a plan for what to do when she can no longer dance the night away.
My daughters were pulled out of dance when it became time for them to go on point. They knew they could not make enough money to support themselves and we did not have enough money to support the training they needed to become professional. So, it made sense to take them out before their feet were permanently damaged and to give them a chance to find other intersts. Both girls were good, very good and received a lot of training for free, but still we could not pay for them to train in New York, or to live apart from us as was needed for them to continue a career in dance.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 6, 2021 8:05:21 GMT
For me, being silent would not be an option. I would always feel guilty for not saying something in support of my child. You don't have to be ugly or demanding. No need to be in her face about it. But make some kind of statement even if it is just a sad face emoji and saying I cannot find common ground with you anymore.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 5, 2021 10:00:24 GMT
I was thinking of a wall of honor where their names would be engraved on brass rectangles after volunteering a certain number of hours. Or how about a mask or baseball cap with the organization's logo?
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2021 10:15:15 GMT
I have a daughter who is undergoing chemo for breast cancer that has spread to her lymph nodes. She is also a RN so the hospital system where she works has to be careful about where she is assigned. It is doubtful if she would survive a case of covid-19. I am so thankful she was able to get vaccinated the first day they came out.
But, if there had not been enough doses available for her to get one, I would have been livid if I found out someone lied to get a dose that she could have used. That would have meant she would have had to wait a week for the next chance to get her shot. That would have put the whole process of her achieving immunity back for a week. While achieving immunity, she still has to work to keep her health insurance and pay her bills. Just because she no longer works with covid patients like she did last summer, does not mean she is not at risk. Every day she works, she is putting herself at risk. All it takes is one accident to expose her - a tear in her gloves, a negligent worker, distracted doctor and the list can go on.
There are many others in her situation working in the hospitals and on the front lines who have no choice. While the goal is to achieve herd immunity, I am concerned about individual immunity of the people we need to keep our society going. We should be doing everything we can to reduce the risks they are taking.
My husband and I are in the 1b group. But we are not going to push to get the vaccination until we are sure all nurses and others on the front lines have been vaccinated. We are staying home. That is how we are staying safe. Our car has only needed more filling up with gas once since last March. Lying to get the vaccination is not something I could forgive or forget. Sorry.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2021 9:34:33 GMT
Most of our house is carpeted, not a fan but husband is. I keep a can of foam upholstery cleaner and rags in a particular place so I know where to go to grab them for use. Anytime something needs cleaning like cat puke, I spray the foam cleaner on the spot and wipe it up with the rags or paper towels. The foam lifts the puke or other stuff right up out of the carpet. This works for me and I don't see any spots after eleven years. Having a good vacuum cleaner helps with the pet hair and we are good.
I was was thinking the other day that many apartment complexes replace the rug for each new tenet. Then there are those places that require a pet deposit for that as well. I know it would be hard on a person who is allergic to cats to live in an apartment with carpet when a cat lived there before them. So there has to be something the apartment complex does for this situation.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2021 6:57:17 GMT
You have to do what works for you. If making lists make you feel better then do that. The idea is to get peace. If you cannot quiet your mind, figure out what is agitating you and determine what you are going to do about it BEFORE you try to achieve calmness.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 4, 2021 6:54:02 GMT
My mother (with four adult children and multiple grandchildren) had a life insurance policy when she died that was significant and I was the beneficiary. In addition she had other accounts and insurance policies that were part of her estate. But this one listed me only as the beneficiary. My sister was executor according to the will. I considered the insurance as part of the estate and not my own.
My younger brother had borrowed money from mother for his business which he always paid back, but this time his business was dissolved and he was working hard to pay off other loans stilled owed from the business. Mother had told me that the money owed from my brother was to be considered part of his inheritance, UNLESS it would hurt him financially.
There were four of us children and I decided just to ignore the brother's loan and divide the insurance money I had control over equally between us. As I told my sister, if he got less it would mean he would have to work longer and harder to become free of his debts. In my mind that meant it would hurt him financially to get less. It was consistent with how my mother felt about my younger brother.
The thing is, I communicated with the others about what I was doing. They could have insisted on getting more but agreed with my decision. I urge you to let your cousins know what you are doing. If there are hard feelings, then it is on them not you. You are following your aunt's in the matter. You even had the sticky notes to back it up. IMO there would more hard feelings if you did not let them know. They might feel you were trying be sneaky about it. They will probably find out anyway. There are surely some papers and statements about the bank account that will show up somewhere, sometime.
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Post by nlwilkins on Jan 2, 2021 10:05:49 GMT
Sure the travelers will be careful. But what about the people who have to go to work to make it possible for them to travel? They don't have a choice and some of them will have to be hospitalized in hospitals that are already being overloaded. Some of them will have no problems but some will have no symptoms and will infect their loved ones without knowing. The more people moving around makes it harder for authorities to trace the infected ones and make it harder for them to keep others safe.
Staying home lessens the burden on those having to do their jobs and makes it more possible to help bring down the numbers.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 31, 2020 20:31:42 GMT
So sorry for your loss. those flashbacks are the worst.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 29, 2020 22:20:20 GMT
I just throw everything in the pot that I have on hand. As time goes by, I add more stuff. I don't add tomato juice, or sauce as I was told long time ago that it toughens up the meat so I will use boullion cubes and water, or chicken broth.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 29, 2020 22:15:54 GMT
(FTR, I really don’t want to go back to the person who gave it to me because this would be the third year in a row that they have given me or DD a piece of clothing for Christmas that didn’t fit, and I know this person will feel really bad if I tell them I need to exchange it. I just want to quietly exchange it for something that will fit dammit, and this shirt retails for about $50 so I would much rather exchange it than donate it.) Sorry, I would not let this stop me. The giver needs to learn to be more careful about giving gifts. You would think they would learn from the first two errors. I know I would want to know if I was the giver. If the gift was a color or a style I did not like it would be different, but you can't wear it at all because of the wrong size. So it it not a matter of being picky.
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Post by nlwilkins on Dec 29, 2020 22:00:00 GMT
Back when the dinosaurs roamed the neighborhood I used to wear bell bottoms. If I could could get hold of them, the navy white pants had button instead of zippers. I loved them.
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