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Post by threegirls on Dec 27, 2020 14:53:54 GMT
My daughter didn't click with her first therapist. She thought the therapist was nice but there just wasn't a connection. Her second therapist made the connection. I sit in on some of the sessions with her and my daughter's therapist is absolutely brilliant at getting the truth out of my daughter. She is incredibly skilled at asking tough questions without passing judgement or making my daughter feel uncomfortable. The therapist has her own private practice and unfortunately does not take insurance but she is worth her weight in gold.
Not all therapists are the same. Hopefully your daughter will give therapy another go and find a therapist that connects with her.
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Post by threegirls on Dec 26, 2020 19:05:52 GMT
When my kids were little my mother-in-law (who I love) would be an over giver of stuffed animals. We live in a small house and they were taking over. I felt bad about donating them but I had to in order to save my sanity. I gave up counting how many I gave away at around 100. My guess is I gave over 200 away.
I have several neighbors who would give us their cast-offs. Old sweaters, coats, an entire trash bag of shoes. Usually they would give the stuff to the girls who would never say no. One neighbor would just dump the stuff on our front porch and run. It was really weird and I'm not sure how we became the place to dump stuff. I finally put my foot down and told everyone thanks but no thanks and to please not give stuff to the girls, my husband or leave it on the front porch.
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Post by threegirls on Dec 26, 2020 18:46:17 GMT
Don't potential design team members know the terms of the gig before they agree to being on a team? Personally, I would never be on a design team without knowing exactly what was expected of me and exactly what the compensation would be. If I didn't like the terms then I wouldn't be a part of a design team.
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Post by threegirls on Dec 19, 2020 19:05:13 GMT
I'm not on any community Facebook pages but I am on Nextdoor. I've not seen too many posts asking for cheap stuff fast. I can only see my neighborhood and surrounding ones.
There was a woman on Nextdoor who said she recently moved to the area and needed everything. I mean everything (bed and sheets to go with it, dresser, sofa, tv, tv stand, clothes, shoes, food, dishes, silverware......). Everything had to be free and delivered to her second floor apartment. The community rallied and quickly set her up with everything she needed. Two weeks later posted that she was moving and couldn't take anything with her. She was just going to leave everything behind. It was really strange.
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Post by threegirls on Dec 13, 2020 17:11:25 GMT
Stories of these pay it forward chains makes me not want to go thru a drive-thru.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 29, 2020 16:13:35 GMT
I've never ordered anything of value from outside the US. I'm thinking about purchasing something off of Etsy and the item will be shipped from The Netherlands. Item has free shipping without track and trace and without insurance. Item is $53.00
Should I buy track and trace and insurance? Seller does not have the cost listed. Any guestimates as to how long it will take to get to the US (Midwest)? I'll be paying on a credit card. If the item is lost in the mail will my credit card company reimburse me?
If for some reason the item is lost in the mail, $53.00 wouldn't put me under financially speaking but it is a vintage item that is hard to find. I'm wondering if insurance helps it not get "lost" in the mail.
Anything else I need to know about international shipping?
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Post by threegirls on Nov 24, 2020 13:40:58 GMT
My 14 year old daughter has gotten two pairs from Costco. She was very happy with them. However, when she needed new glasses this year she did not like any of the ones they had. The service is great but if you are very picky about the style you might have a little trouble finding something from their limited selection.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 22, 2020 18:38:27 GMT
I live within walking distance of a large urban university. The university has a few classes on campus but most of them are online. They are planning on all online for next semester. My freshman daughter attends the school.
Last weekend there was a big ass party somewhere down the street from me. Within 8 minutes I counted 40 kids walking down the street headed to the party. That's not including the parade of cars that were going down the street. I stopped counting the kids because it was a little depressing. All I could think about was that all those kids will probably be home for Thanksgiving. I really hope that party doesn't become a super spreader.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 21, 2020 14:37:46 GMT
I wonder if any of the well known scrappers are feeling like they are trapped between a rock and hard place? Are any of them being pressured to participate in this crazy auction? If any of them said "no" to participating they might come off looking cold hearted to some of their followers.
The auction isn't really needed however well intentioned. I feel for the family, especially the children but however big their Christmas presents are won't really help with the loss of a father.
PS - I spend around $125.00 per kid (3 kids) for their Christmas presents. I thought I was being very generous to them but apparently I'm cheap.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 15, 2020 18:27:18 GMT
I have ordered from this seller on etsy: etsy linkA little expensive but definitely unique and beautiful.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 14, 2020 16:35:44 GMT
Thanksgiving + Christmas = Cancelled
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Post by threegirls on Nov 4, 2020 21:34:33 GMT
In a bookcase in the living room.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 2, 2020 21:29:16 GMT
I think if the products are tastefully done then I think it's a good thing to scrap about Covid. Not every page has to so be sunshine and unicorns. I see it as more of a historical event and future generations might find it interesting to read about the every day perspective from regular people just trying to get through this pandemic. I think it's ok to talk about fear, struggles and the seriousness of the pandemic.
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Post by threegirls on Nov 2, 2020 14:22:48 GMT
I have only bought one house and it's the one we are in now. We have been here for 23 years. Locks have never been changed
Fun story: The houses on our street were built 80 years ago and I know that the lock on our house and the lock on our next door neighbor's has never been changed. Our keys are identical. I can use my key to open my lock and their lock (and vice versa). I guess when the builder built the houses 80 years ago they used the same lock/key for (at least) our two houses. My neighbor grew up in her house and she is 68.
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Post by threegirls on Oct 29, 2020 1:08:31 GMT
I did both a 529 and a Coverdell ESA for all three of our girls. The 529 gives us a state tax break for contributions up to $4,000 (per year). Investments grow tax free. For me, the drawback is the limited number of investments to choose from in our state 529. The Coverdell ESA is much more flexible as far as investments go but the amount of $ you can contribute is lower (capped at $2,000 per year up to a certain income limit. You can open a Coverdell ESA at TD Ameritrade. Info on Coverdell ESAs link
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Post by threegirls on Oct 25, 2020 14:10:11 GMT
Has anyone used these types of mats link from Amazon for their Silhouette? I'm giving my old Silhouette machine to my 18 year old daughter and she will need some mats to get going. I'm guessing that using a non-Silhouette mat will void the warranty but I'm not too concerned about that especially since it's probably not under warranty anymore (it's pretty old). I've always used Silhouette brand mats but I'm wondering if the ones from Amazon are any good. ETA: I read the Amazon reviews and they are good but I really want the Peas' reviews because I know I will get honest feedback!
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Post by threegirls on Oct 25, 2020 0:43:07 GMT
I have had no problem with slippage ever since I started wearing these origami masks link from a seller on Etsy. I also use the elastic adjusters (although I got those from Amazon).
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Post by threegirls on Oct 20, 2020 16:36:29 GMT
I'm so glad I read this thread. I never knew you could change the name/wake up word for Alexa (slapping my forehead, duh). My daughter's name is Eliza and many times when I say Eliza in a conversation it wakes Alexa up and will often say, "Hmm, I don't know that one." Eliza is dyslexic and figured out long ago that Alexa can spell for her (and do math problems).
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Post by threegirls on Oct 11, 2020 14:04:58 GMT
By adding an addition to your home would you be increasing the value and therefore increasing the property tax bill? I don't know the answer but my guess is that your value would go up and your taxes too. You might want to take that into consideration. Maybe someone on this thread knows the answer.
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Post by threegirls on Sept 3, 2020 0:42:13 GMT
I want to preface my comments here by saying that Brandy, you and I are friends here and off board as well. I *know* you are a good mother and I know you are searching for answers right now. You are on a mission to help your DD and I really respect that you aren't willing to settle for her suffering. With that said, we've talked about this a few times and some of things you've shared about your DDs behavior raise some red flags for me. I'm not saying I'm right. I'm just saying in your shoes right now I would proceed with the utmost of caution. Because hypomania can present in a variety of ways. It can look like anxiety (me, when this first began for me), it can look like ADHD (my DD) and sometimes you don't even realize you have it because you present so fully depressed that it can look like you only have depression (my DS). When this first started for me I looked like a ball of anxiety mixed with heavy depressive episodes. So what happened? My therapist who I saw for two years suggested I had a problem with depression and my GP prescribed anti depressants. SSRI. I felt great for about two weeks. And then what happened is that it threw me into a full blown manic episode. My GP pulled me off the anti depressants and sent me to a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist did a full work up and I signed a release so the two doctors and my therapist could all talk. It was then I was given a bipolar diagnosis and started on mood stabilizing drugs. My son presented with depression. I took him to a psychiatrist and the psychiatrist refused to diagnose. He did prescribe an antidepressant and within weeks my son turned violent. He hit me. It was then that the doctor prescribed mood stabilizers instead. And his mood evened out. And I say this as gently as I can but there is no way given my experience that I would allow a GP to prescribe mood altering drugs to my kids. Period. They don't have the education and experience to deal properly with mood disorders. If I were in your shoes I would take her to a psychiatrist for a proper diagnosis and follow up. I'm not a doctor and I can't give an opinion on what's truly going on with your DD. But I have experienced this from both the patient and the parent level and my opinion is that if hypomania is mistaken for anxiety then going on prozac could be disastrous. And if that's the choice you make, I would want to proceed with an expert in the field of mental health which is a psychiatrist. And I get that that might be a hard pill to swallow. Certainly it took me some time to come to terms with my own diagnosis. I get that there's a stigma involved. But as your friend, I truly want the best for your DD. And I thought all day about responding here because I really was worried I'd offend you and that's absolutely not my intention. I know 110% you're a good mom and you are trying your best. I stand behind you. And I offer that I am here to talk as you navigate this. But as your friend I needed to say that I absolutely would not trust a GP to prescribe prozac for my child. Thank you so much for your input. I really appreciate all the time you spent sharing all your experiences, both your own and your kids. It takes a lot to offend me, so no worries there. That said, I think we'll start here, carefully watching behavior and her mental state. I'll definitely make sure she understands that these meds may or may not work and if it doesn't help, we'll look at a psychiatrist for a more in depth mental health exam. In all honesty, I'd love to just go right to a psychiatrist but I don't think I could get her to one. Even with her asking about meds, she didn't want me to tell her therapist and she didn't really want any type of drs appt around it. She struggles and doesn't want ANYONE to know. *sigh* My 13-year-old dd is on 10mg of Prozac. It was prescribed by a psychiatrist and she has follow-up appointments once a month with a nurse that works in psychiatry at our local children's hospital. My dd has been on it approximately 8 weeks. She also has weekly appointments with a therapist. So far, so good. If you haven't already, it's very important to tell your dd's therapist. Or, have your daughter tell the therapist. Tell your daughter that the therapist is there to help her not judge her. Sign any necessary papers to allow the gp and the therapist to communicate.
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Post by threegirls on Aug 20, 2020 15:17:45 GMT
My daughter and I belong to Planet Fitness. I'm still paying for both memberships even though neither of us are using it. We both miss it and we talk about how much we miss it!!
We belong to an outdoor swim and tennis club so I've been using the lap pool to swim laps. Unfortunately, it will soon close for the season. I've also been taking walks around the neighborhood but that is getting really boring.
I have a doctor's appointment next week and since I will be there I'm going to ask my doctor his opinion on going back. I was thinking I might venture in early in the morning on weekdays. Typically they were never busy at that time when I used to go.
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Post by threegirls on Jul 27, 2020 17:06:30 GMT
I feel sorry for the employees. Nobody should have to tolerate that type of behavior. If the putt-putt closes, they will loose their jobs.
ETA: I just read that the putt-putt is open. That's good for the employees. I still feel for them. I
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Post by threegirls on Jul 16, 2020 16:29:49 GMT
I've eaten so much popcorn that my stomach hurts. Off to pop more.
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Post by threegirls on Jul 13, 2020 13:28:40 GMT
No, I'm not eating out (indoors). I have been to two restaurants and eaten outside but I'm not comfortable with that right now because our numbers are going back up. We will just eat at home for now.
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Post by threegirls on Jul 13, 2020 13:07:04 GMT
We have wills/trusts all set up and have a lawyer for it all so we're good. This was something that recently popped into my head and i'm kind of curious as to how/if it could be done. Let's say one of the spouses (let call them Joe and Karen) in the couple have parents who are well off. Parents will likely leave an inheritance to their child (let's say Karen.) Here's where my question comes in. If Joe and Karen's wills leave everything to spouse, followed by their kids...now Joe just inherited Karen's parents money if Karen dies first. Maybe not a big, maybe it is. I'm kind of curious if it could be done to keep that inheritance (or part of it) separate and go directly to Karen's kids if something where to happen to her. I know it's a lawyer question, but mainly it's a curiousity question here. I have had waaaayyyy too much time on my hands lately for what if type scenarios I'm actually in this situation right now. Both of my parents are deceased. I inherited part of their estate. I have kept my inheritance in my name only. I do not have a will. If I died today, my husband would inherit everything I have including my inheritance from my parents. Not a big deal. But if he gets remarried and then dies, his new wife would inherit everything including the inheritance I received from my parents. Our three girls would get nothing. This is assuming that he and his new wife do not have a will/trust. I have to fix this situation and I have talked to my attorney about it and she said it could be taken care of and we can get it taken care of when she returns from vacation. Right now however, I'm not sure how it will be taken care of.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 20, 2020 12:02:56 GMT
I'm sorry you have to deal with the uncaring public. My 18 year old just went back to her retail job. Not only does she have to deal with un-masked customers (she said the vast majority don't wear them) but she also did not receive the pay raise she earned. Her employer suspended all raises. It sucks that this is the month she was supposed to get the raise.
She said she never realized how close customers get to her until now. They literally get right in front of her face. At least she is wearing a mask.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 13, 2020 2:48:46 GMT
A great big thank you to everyone who replied. The party was tonight and my daughter stayed home. The party girls (they are twins) kept sending my daughter messages to please come join the party. I'm still surprised that their dad had this sleepover party at an Airbnb and sent a mass email out to their three sports teams and school friends. I like their dad and he is a nice guy but I wish he didn't put me and lots of other parents in this position.
I really appreciate the Peas input! I don't feel like an overbearing, no-fun mom! I hated saying no to my daughter because if things were different (no Covid) I would have said yes.
ETA: Cases are currently going up in my city.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 12, 2020 14:09:47 GMT
No, no and no! It would also make me question the common sense of the person (hope it isn't you!) hosting this and thinking it is okay right now. Even if you live in the state with the lowest rates of covid, it only takes 1 person to infect everyone in such close quarters. No, it's not me that's hosting. My daughter is friends with twin girls and it's their dad who is hosting. He rented an Airbnb place that is about 20 minutes from where we live. He invited their soccer, volleyball, basketball teams and school friends. So far 12 girls have confirmed and 3 are maybes. There could be more coming! My husband and I said no to our daughter. She started crying (and crying). The drama. The girls having the sleepover are already posting on social media about it. Party is tonight so I know the other girls attending the party will be posting tonight. I texted a friend who I really respect and admire. I was a little shocked when she said she is allowing her daughter to go. At the beginning of this Covid thing she herself had a sleepover planned for her daughter and canceled it. Her father-in-law has cancer and she didn't want to potentially expose him. Of course now I'm feeling bad. My daughter really wants to see her friends. I'm just not comfortable with the whole situation.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 12, 2020 13:05:14 GMT
For certain things I prefer a laptop and for others I prefer the phone. I like to text for short, quick things but I prefer email on the laptop for more detailed, in-depth things. I prefer buying things such as clothing from a laptop but if it's something I'm familiar with or a re-order I prefer the phone. Reading 2Peas I don't care if it's the phone or laptop but responding to a post, I prefer laptop. I'm 54.
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Post by threegirls on Jun 12, 2020 12:40:08 GMT
Would you let your 13 year-old go to a sleepover party with 12 - 15 other kids? (this question pertains to what is happening right now, not pre-Covid times).
ETA: Sleepover in a smaller sized three bedroom house
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