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Post by laureljean on Jan 2, 2015 2:46:33 GMT
I've washed worse things than my hands in the kitchen sink. It hasn't killed us yet.
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Post by laureljean on Jan 1, 2015 13:59:35 GMT
Prayers and positive thoughts for your family.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 31, 2014 23:51:57 GMT
Sounds like fun; count me in.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 29, 2014 22:42:33 GMT
Brings a whole new meaning to stinky cheese!
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Post by laureljean on Dec 24, 2014 1:23:17 GMT
It is not a death sentence.
We had a cat with urinary blockage due to "gravel" in the bladder. We used the urinary tract health food from the vet for awhile, and it helped. Kitty is now on regular food, and so far, no further problems.
I hope things work out for you.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 24, 2014 1:19:27 GMT
Getting glassware or kitchen towels in the detergent. Getting a dish when buying a certain amount of gasoline. Every month or so would have a different dish (plate, bowl, saucer) Most of our dishes at the cottage are from gas stations back in the day.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 24, 2014 1:16:41 GMT
Licking the grocery store stamps for my granny and sticking them on the little papers that she turned them in on. Yes! I remembrer S&H Green Stamps. We got all kinds of stuff from those things.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 24, 2014 1:14:37 GMT
Gift wrapping would be such a great fundraiser for schools, charities, churches, etc. I would use that service!
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Post by laureljean on Dec 24, 2014 0:06:51 GMT
Me too, but I can work from home both tomorrow and Friday, so it's really not a big problem for me.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 23, 2014 23:56:38 GMT
My experience (as a Sunday School teacher for many years) has been that teaching has been a volunteer activity. I have worked under Education Directors that have been paid a salary or a stipend, but their roles have been more of coordinating an entire program and not just teaching.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 23, 2014 23:53:18 GMT
Two words: Gift Bags. Best invention ever, as far as I'm concerned!
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Post by laureljean on Dec 23, 2014 23:50:02 GMT
Thanks again, everyone.
She requested no gifts after we made the purchase. I did tell her that we had already gotten them something, and did not expect anything in return. Christmas will be grandbaby's first visit to our home, so I think that is enough of a gift.
We got the barstools (she had commented that these are the ones she would love to have, but they were too pricey right now) and kitchen chairs. They are using my mom's old table and chairs, and while the table is still sturdy, the chairs are a mess. When you sit in any of them, they wobble and it feels like you're going to be on the floor soon.
I also made a scrapbook for the baby that they can just slide snapshots in. That one, I'm sure, they won't have a problem with.
So, we'll go forward, and tell them it's just stuff.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 23, 2014 3:51:44 GMT
Thanks, everyone, I feel validated.
TankTop, I love your suggestion. If they say anything, that's what I will tell them.
Volt, she knows that DH is retiring, but I don't think that she knows what that will mean to us, budget-wise. I might mention that if she really kicks about it.
Thanks, all!
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Post by laureljean on Dec 23, 2014 2:25:57 GMT
We got them a pretty substantial (for us) gift anyway.
Her rationale: She is off on maternity leave and they can't afford much this Christmas, so they can't reciprocate.
My rationale:
1. A gift is not a transaction; it is given with no strings. ( I reminded her of that) 2. DH is retiring the end of January, and this is the last Christmas we will not be on a tight budget. I say, let's go all out this Christmas (we don't charge-- cash only, and right now, we can afford the extras).
So what say the Refupeas: Am I being disrespectful? What we are getting them, they have been wanting for awhile, but haven't been able to purchase. We paid cash for it, and it has not been a burden to us. I guess this is a PVM. (I'm blushing)
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Post by laureljean on Dec 22, 2014 23:36:39 GMT
I am so sorry. You must be beyond hurt.
Continue to invite him to family celebrations. Someday he may accept, but that would be his choice. At least you will know you have done all you could.
((hugs)) I will keep you in my thoughts.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 22, 2014 0:28:56 GMT
I think that sometimes people joke about things that make them anxious or are too awful to think about. Gallows humor and all.
I work in the medical field and the things we joke about among ourselves would make anyone think we're extremely insensitive. In most cases, it's just a way to cope with seeing or hearing things that are so disturbing that we can't process them.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 19, 2014 23:18:52 GMT
How are you doing these days? I hope things are looking a little brighter for you.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 19, 2014 0:44:42 GMT
I feel your "pain". It's my first Christmas as a Granny, and well... I "might" have gone a bit overboard. But he needs all that cute stuff, right?
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 2:46:29 GMT
((hugs)) You matter more than you know. It sounds trite, but none of us have any idea of our own importance.
It is your depression and loneliness talking.
It gets better. Really. Someone told me that once and I didn't believe her, but later on I found out she was absolutely right. I'm grateful that I was able to go through the darkness and come out stronger and better off.
I will keep you in my thoughts.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 2:38:38 GMT
Only if I see something that I think someone will appreciate as a gift. I do a fair amount of birthday and Christmas shopping while on vacation.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 2:36:29 GMT
DD and DS do this (only with family, not in public), then grin at me. They were brought up better, but just like to push my buttons.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 2:29:22 GMT
Yep. But sometimes he says "shades" when he means "blinds"
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 2:25:11 GMT
DH thinks taking my car to get an oil change is romantic. He shows his love by taking care of things I often forget about. Fine by me!
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 1:13:31 GMT
I get random twitches, too. So far it hasn't killed me, so it's all good.
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Post by laureljean on Dec 8, 2014 1:09:29 GMT
Nope. He also doesn't know the difference between:
-Coat and Jacket -Peach and Pink -Knitting and Crocheting (sometimes he calls them "sewing")
On the other hand, he rolls his eyes when I confuse a Jonathan apple with a MacIntosh, or a Honey Rock Melon with a Howell Melon (he sells Produce). I guess it's all what you pay attention to.
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Post by laureljean on Nov 29, 2014 1:10:06 GMT
Turkey and kielbasa. Lots of kielbasa.
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Post by laureljean on Nov 29, 2014 1:05:06 GMT
I am so sorry for your situation. It really sucks.
I think you're gotten some very good advice.
Do what you have to to get an attorney officially. That way you can move forward with things and protect your rights.
As far as the surgery goes, you might want to contact the hospital and have a meeting with a financial advisor there (most hospitals have at least one). Explain your situation completely and see if there is some way to reduce or delay your monthly payments for the surgery. There are often accommodations that can be made.
I totally agree with no contact with not-so-DH. If he confronts you in person, keep repeating, "I can't talk to you right now." Give him absolutely no ammunition to use against you later. If you don't give him your words, he can't twist them. Once you've engaged an attorney, he can talk to her/him.
Everything you do going forward will need to be for your own well-being. His actions, his feelings, etc. should have nothing to do with it. He will try to be nice, he will try to provoke you; but remember to see those actions on his part as attempts to control your behavior. Don't let it happen. Decide what you need to do to help yourself and ignore his noise.
Stay strong. I will keep you in my thoughts.
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Post by laureljean on Nov 26, 2014 23:34:53 GMT
One of the best threads ever! That was the thread that sucked me into the vortex of Two Peas!
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Post by laureljean on Nov 25, 2014 1:03:12 GMT
Thank you, luvspaper, prayers are much appreciated!
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Post by laureljean on Nov 25, 2014 1:01:20 GMT
We use a similar recipie. Even those who say they don't like sweet potatoes love it.
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