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Post by auntkelly on Feb 6, 2022 19:24:02 GMT
My husband and I have been very diligent in our financial planning. We have purchased elder care insurance. I've told both of our kids that it's fine to put us in an assisted living facility when the time comes, even if we object.
I feel certain we will not be a financial burden on our kids, but I can't promise we will not be an emotional burden.
My aunt, who never married and never had kids, is in an assisted living center. Yesterday, the nurses called because she wanted to visit her parents, who have both been dead since 1987. I told her I would come to see her later in that afternoon, which I did. We had a wonderful visit and took a long walk together. Her parents never come up in our conversation. I drove home that evening thinking all was well. A few hours later one of the nurses called and said my aunt was agitated because she believed I had sold her car w/out telling her while she was eating dinner. I talked to my aunt and reminded her that we had sold her car three years' ago after she had had an accident and decided she should no longer drive.
I have learned from my aunt that even though you plan financially for your retirement, you can't plan for someone to take care of you emotionally. I hope that if I ever develop dementia, my kids will take care of me emotionally.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 5, 2022 15:37:04 GMT
She looks wonderful!
She is an amazing lady. To have ruled for so many years amidst so much change and to never have been the cause of a major (or even a minor scandal) is just amazing. (Her family is a different story and I can't hold her accountable for them). She always knows what to say, what to wear, how to act, etc. Her energy, her love of country and sense of duty just seems to have no bounds.
Can you tell I am a big fan???
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 5, 2022 15:08:49 GMT
She is adorable!
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 4, 2022 19:26:35 GMT
These last couple of months have been brutal for my family. My sister in law (who was not vaccinated) died in November. My husband's mentor and best friend, who was fully vaccinated and double boosted, died day before yesterday. Both of them had underlying health conditions and were older (68 and 78), but both were very active and in seemingly great shape prior to getting sick. Another friend of ours died in March 2019. He was one of the first to die in our state.
I told my husband that when I first heard about the virus, I knew it could blow up into a big deal, but I never thought it would touch us so deeply.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 4, 2022 19:15:02 GMT
I don't think they'll all die in the car crash. That would be way too obvious for this show. I think the crash must be someone's nightmare or something like that. Maybe huskergal 's husband has it right about it being staged to get them into witness protection. I think the acting is great on this show, but I really love Laura Linney. She is so good in every role she plays, but I really love her in this role. As I said in another thread, I think the other members of Wendy's family are pretty self aware. Wendy, however, is completely unaware of the monster she has become. She is so self righteous. I think she still sees herself as that same caring and compassionate person who worked on Obama's first congressional campaign.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 3, 2022 17:38:25 GMT
I voted for the first option, even though it doesn't really make me nuts when people don't respond. I do think that if a poster asks a question or seeks advice and someone takes the time to respond politely, then it's nice when the poster likes the reply. To me, it's just a way of saying "thanks for responding." It doesn't necessarily mean the poster is going to follow the advice or even thinks it's good advice. On the other hand, if they don't respond, it's no big deal. I don't have a column for that on my 2Peas spreadsheet.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 1, 2022 15:15:02 GMT
I pay $20/year for NY Times games - totally worth it to me. May I ask where you found the $20/yr price? When I just checked the cost it shows $40/year, even with having a digital subscription. For several years now I have been paying $17.99 per month for a subscription to the paper and the additional games. I read a few articles and do at least one crossword every day, so it's well worth it to me, but I should look and see if I could get a better deal.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 31, 2022 17:13:24 GMT
I attend Catholic mass w/ my husband. (I am not Catholic, but I go just about every Sunday with him). Masks are strictly voluntary, w/ about 30% of the congregation wearing them.
I don't know of any churches in my area, regardless of denomination, which require members to wear masks.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 30, 2022 14:31:14 GMT
I don’t really like or dislike Tom Brady (probably because I’ve never had an NFL team I followed through thick and thin). However, I think it is amazing that he was a sixth round draft pick and went on to become the all time greatest player in the NFL.
Every sports fan will know his name 100 years’ from now, just like every sports fan today knows Babe Ruth’s name.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 29, 2022 20:38:09 GMT
It's absolutely gorgeous in central Oklahoma today. We're supposed to get an Arctic blast next week, so I am soaking up the sunshine while I can.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 27, 2022 18:18:17 GMT
Thanks for sharing, PolarGreen12 . What stood out to me is this guy doesn't seem to have been raised by racists. He became one. He knows his parents and others back east will think "mighty hard things Tulsa" when they read the papers. That’s a good point. It did seem like he was trying to convince his parents, who evidently lived in Orleans, N.Y., that the massacre was justified. However, I wonder if they were shocked when their son used the n word and used other racial slurs. My grandparents (who were about the same age as the letter writer) were prejudiced in that they viewed Blacks as childlike and inferior, but I never heard them use the n word or other racial slurs, and I don’t think they would have approved if other people talked like that in front of them. Both of my grandmothers talked about the past when I was growing up and both of them were very proud Oklahomans. My maternal grandmother told me all about the incidents described in Killers of the Flower Moon. She thought those events were terrible. Osage County was the next county over from us, so I think those incidents hit very close to home. Neither grandmother told me about the Tulsa Race Massacre. I like to think it was because it was such a shameful event in Oklahoma history that they just didn’t want to talk about it. However, I think it’s more likely that they just wiped it from their memory because it didn’t involve them. Tulsa was on the other side of the state and they rarely went there and probably didn’t know many people who lived there. However, if something that terrible had happened to White people in Tulsa, I think they would have told me all about it.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 27, 2022 15:57:40 GMT
That letter was hard to read. I wish I could say I thought that no one thinks like that anymore, but sadly I think there are plenty of people who would agree w/ a lot, if not all of what he wrote.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 27, 2022 15:08:19 GMT
I read a little fluff article about Larry David in the New York Times during the covid shutdown. His daughters said that in real life he hates conflict of any kind. The daughters said that when they were little they used to have "silent fights" because if their dad caught them fighting he would get so upset. After I read that article it struck me that Larry on the show is probably the alter ego of the real life Larry and that's why we all love the show so much. Larry gets to do and say anything he wants w/out worrying about the consequences, which would be a great feeling (except for the fact you wouldn't have any friends and your family would hate you. )
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 26, 2022 15:08:37 GMT
I rarely buy books any more. I borrow almost all of my Kindle books from the library.
I get a newsletter from the New York Times every month which informs about new books being released that month. I put a hold at my library on all the books I want to read. I never run out of books to read and will usually be able to read a new release w/in a month of it being released. Every once in awhile, I'll recommend a brand new book that the library hasn't ordered yet and then I get to read the book first, which is fun.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 25, 2022 19:54:29 GMT
I loved the first seven episodes of the final season. I can't wait for the next seven!
I love all the actors in the series, but I really love how Laura Linney plays Wendy. Marty and the kids are pretty self aware of what they have become, but Wendy is so stinking self righteous. She deals drugs and murders people, but she would be appalled if she caught someone throwing an aluminum can in their garbage instead of their recycling bin.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 24, 2022 16:46:11 GMT
Zach Taylor is their head coach and his mother was one of my sorority sisters at the University of Oklahoma. His dad was captain of the OU football t Did he play for the Dolphins at one point??? Zach was one of the assistant coaches for the Dolphins.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 24, 2022 15:22:03 GMT
Over the years, I've worked w/ several different designers w/ mixed results.
The last one I worked w/ was the best. She is a professional designer who mainly works on commercial projects. She is a friend of mine, but we agreed in advance we would keep things strictly professional w/ the job I hired to do, which was to pick out paint colors for a big open/concept kitchen/dining/living room at our lake house. We talked about her fees (she charges by the hour) before she ever started working on the job, and she gave me an estimate of the hours she would spend on the job before we began.
I told her which colors I was thinking of using. I had picked out three colors which were all on the same paint swatch-one for the walls, one for the trim and one for the cabinets. She showed me colors which were very similar to the colors I picked out, but she gently explained why she had chosen a slightly different version of what I had picked out. In addition she had chosen five paint colors instead of my three. She suggested we paint our fireplace and kitchen island in a dark version of the colors I had picked out to make them the focal points of the room.
She used paint colors she had seen work together in other spaces. She didn't stick to one paint swatch as I would have done, but even used different brands of paint. (All of which she had used before).
The end result was an elevated version of what my husband and I had imagined for our space. My husband and I felt her advice was absolutely worth every penny of her fee.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 24, 2022 14:48:00 GMT
I'm cheering for the Bengals. Zach Taylor is their head coach and his mother was one of my sorority sisters at the University of Oklahoma. His dad was captain of the OU football team. Such a nice family!
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 19, 2022 19:22:15 GMT
I’m confused. Did he decide to cancel on everybody then? 🙁 He cancelled the trip to Gulf Shores and he cancelled the family camping trip. The camping trip with our friends is still on because he didn't want to cancel on them. Alls well that ends well, but he sure did create a lot of drama over nothing since his ultimate decision was that he had already committed to a trip w/ his friends in October and felt it was wrong to cancel it to go on the family trip instead. If he had just told his family from the beginning that you'd already planned a camping trip in October and therefore couldn't go on the family trip, there would have been no need to even discuss the fact that you didn't like cooking for the whole family or didn't want to share a camper w/ his mother. It sounds like he really wanted to go on both trips, was frustrated that it wasn't going to work and took his frustrations out on you. I've created a few unnecessary dramas in my day, so I guess I can't be too critical.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 18, 2022 2:14:06 GMT
Is there other evidence against this man in addition to the unsigned note?
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 16, 2022 16:25:07 GMT
I'm at that age where lots of my friends' kids are getting married. In my friends group, when one of the kids gets engaged, many couples will go in and have one big shower/party for the engaged couple. We have a lot of hosts (usually 10-20 couples) so we throw a nice party w/ printed invitations. The invitations always have a telephone number where RSVPs can be texted so that we can get an accurate count for the caterer, who usually charges by the head.
A few days before the party, when we have to give the final headcount to the caterer, we always end up splitting up the names of the people who haven't RSVP'd and try and track them down to see if they are coming to the party. I'm always surprised when someone says "Oh yay, I'll be there. Yep, I'm bringing a date." Sometimes they don't even apologize for not RSVPing
I am always amazed that people were planning to show up to a party with a date when they know they haven't RSVP'd for the party.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 16, 2022 16:02:45 GMT
Our current home has beautiful crown moulding, all painted a bright white, which really makes it pop.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 16, 2022 15:41:48 GMT
Yes, I write in cook books. I love to read the notes in my grandmother's cook books and to see her handwriting.
I write notes in all types of books, as long as I own them. I love to go back through books I've already read and reread the highlighted passages and the notes I've written in the margins. It's one of the things I miss when I read ebooks. You can type notes and highlight passages in ebooks, but it's not the same as doing it in an actual book.
I buy a lot of second hand books and I always love to read other people's notes.
I've lately been brushing up on my French skills (or I should say lack thereof). I bought a used copy of French for Dummies. There are lots of really helpful notes in the margins.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 15, 2022 23:25:49 GMT
Thank you! I ordered a couple of boxes for my adult dd to keep on hand. My husband and I stocked up when we saw them at Sam’s before Christmas.
I ordered as soon as I saw your post, but just got back here to say thank you.
It’s so frustrating that it’s still so hard to find tests when testing is so essential to getting the pandemic under control.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 15, 2022 15:53:54 GMT
Charlotte & Harry - I like them, but it was just kind of wierd that she wouldn't apologize for accidently knocking him down. She apologizes for every single thing and can't say sorry for that? Just seemed out of character and the whole "women apologize for EVERYTHING" - ok, but then STOP apologizing for that dumb shit. I don't get it. I think that storyline is weird too. Even the most aggressive jerk of a tennis partner (man or woman) would have said “Sorry. You okay?” after knocking down their partner. I think the “I’m going to stop apologizing for everything” storyline would have made a lot more sense if Harry missed a dentist appointment and said to Charlotte “you know you usually remind me when I have an appointment,” or maybe if one of the girls suddenly remembered at 10:30pm she had a school project due and yelled at Charlotte because there wasn’t any poster board in the apartment.” If she refused to apologize for those type things I would cheer her on and say “It’s about time we women stopped taking responsibility for other people’s actions!”
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 14, 2022 18:32:21 GMT
I'm sorry. I hope your ds feels better soon and that you don't get it.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 13, 2022 19:23:33 GMT
I have no sympathy for him whatsoever.
I hope this gives his victim(s) some small sense of justice.
I am hoping against hope Prince Andrew will come clean and tell everything he knows. I'll bet there are some powerful men who are very nervous about this turn of events.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 13, 2022 19:01:53 GMT
If it were me, I'd make a list of three or four things I wanted to accomplish over the weekend-take a walk, read for an hour, clean out a kitchen drawer, call a friend you haven't talked to in awhile, etc. I wouldn't put any daunting tasks on the list, just things that will make you say "I'm glad I did that" when it is over.
Having a short to-do list will help you loosely structure your time alone and hopefully leave you with a sense of accomplishment at the end of the weekend.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 13, 2022 1:08:19 GMT
When I was in college in 1979 I took my first overseas trip to Greece with the OU Classics Society. We flew economy (of course) on Olympic Airlines. I’m pretty sure we were on a 747. It was a huge aircraft.
I was sitting with our Professor and two other students in four seats that faced each other. Shortly after we took off, a Greek man approached our professor and introduced himself. He said he had heard there was a professor on board who was taking a group of students to Greece to study Greek history. He said he was the President of Olympic Airlines and was returning home from a trip to New York. He was honored to have the professor and his students onboard. He told one of the flight attendants to give our little group anything we wanted to eat or drink. My fellow students and I took full advantage of the free drinks, as did our professor. (The other students sitting in the rows behind us were very jealous).
Around 5:30am, when it was still dark, the president of the airline returned and asked us to follow him, he had a special treat for us. We followed him up a flight of stairs and into the cockpit of the airplane, which was about the size of a small bedroom.The pilots were eating their breakfast.
The president introduced us to the pilots and asked us if we had ever seen a sunrise from the cockpit of a 747. Of course, we all said no.
In a few minutes, we began to see the sun rising on the horizon. It was one of the most gorgeous sights I have ever seen. There were huge windows on three sides of the cockpit, so the sun was rising all around us.
It was an experience I’ll never forget!
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 11, 2022 20:41:18 GMT
My friend works at a high end gift store in another state. She said brides and grooms are registering China in big, bold colorful patterns. They like to mix and match-the dinner plate will be one pattern while the salad plate will be in a different coordinating pattern and the bread and butter plate will be in a third coordinating pattern. She said some brides will bring China they have inherited from loved ones. For example they might bring in their grandmother’s salad plate and pair it w/ a dinner plate in a modern, coordinating pattern.
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