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Post by miyooper2b on Apr 8, 2024 15:32:29 GMT
Clear now but they are predicting high clouds and temps in the mid-70's. Hopefully it will stay nice and clear.
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Post by miyooper2b on Mar 12, 2024 12:46:52 GMT
I'm in Indiana and in the path of totality. I'll be working but should be able to step outside and check it out. A couple of the local school districts have said that if they have any leftover snow days they'll close for the day. It was a pretty mild winter so I think they are planning on doing that. There are lots of events planned around here. Nearly every town and large outdoor venue is planning something.
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Post by miyooper2b on Nov 21, 2023 16:31:43 GMT
I check mine about every three days. I have my account set up to text me if there is a debit over $100.00. We should only have a couple of bigger bills come through in a month.
Funny aside: Once DH tried to surprise me by buying tickets to a concert using his debit card. I got a text about the charge (about $200.00) and, of course, didn't know what or who it was and immediately flagged it as fraudulent. DH's debit card was shut down and he had to wait until they sent him a new one. I thought it was funny! He did not but he hasn't tried anything like that since.
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Post by miyooper2b on Nov 20, 2023 15:29:38 GMT
Through the years, as the fire starts to mellow
Burning lines in the book of our lives
Though the binding cracks and the pages start to yellow
I'll be in love with you
Dan Fogelberg "Longer"
This song was mine and DH's first dance at our wedding. It still speaks to me 35 years later, especially this line.
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Post by miyooper2b on Aug 21, 2023 13:24:43 GMT
One of my best friends in HS has seemingly disappeared. We met a few times for lunch in college and then drifted apart. This was in the 80's. I tried to find her in later years but she doesn't appear to be on any social media sites. Another friend told me she ran into her a few years ago but didn't get any details on what she was doing or where she was living. I love to get in touch with her if I could find her.
Another one was a boy from middle school. He was a very talented musician, had perfect pitch and a wonderful singing voice. He was also very badly bullied. This was in the 70's and the attitude then was "boys will be boys" and "they need to work it out for themselves". He changed schools before we went to HS. I wonder now and again what happened to him and I hope his life got better. He was a really nice guy.
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Post by miyooper2b on Jul 13, 2023 17:14:50 GMT
This is vent. I know I can safely post this here and get it off my chest. Background - My apologies if this gets long. My nephew (my brother's only son) is getting married next week to a very lovely woman. The whole family is very happy for them and ecstatic about the wedding. Our family is very small and this is the first wedding since DD#1 got married nearly 20 years ago. Nephew is very close to my parents, his grandparents. The wedding is nine hours from me and six hours from my parents. This is not an issue, we've been planning to attend since Nephew and Fiancé announced their engagement more than two years ago. BnB reservations were made nearly a year ago. This is in a high tourist area and hotels are expensive and fill up quickly. Currently the plan is for me and DH to drive to my parents, pick them up and drive them to the city where the wedding will be held. Wedding is on a Friday. Saturday there are family events planned including a brunch, opening of the wedding presents and touring the newlywed's new home. We will drive home on Sunday. Mom and dad have a cat that they spoil even more than the grandkids. The cat is a very good cat, does not have any anxiety issues and is very laid back. They have left the cat at home in the past, with someone coming in to feed him, back when they had a motorhome and would be gone for a week or more, several times a year. However, they haven't traveled for about five years, partly due to covid and partly due to their age (middle 80's). They do have some minor medical issues but nothing that prevents them from attending the wedding and enjoying themselves. The issue: Starting a few weeks ago mom and dad started saying they were worried about leaving the cat. My brother and I kept telling them that the cat will be fine. DD#2 will coming daily to feed the cat after she gets off of work. DD#2 just got a new job and can't take time off for the wedding so this worked out perfect. The last couple of times I've visited they kept talking about leaving the cat and we kept assuring them the cat will be fine for three days. No, he won't be constantly fed snacks or fed milk at 5:00 a.m. but he will be getting fed everyday. The cat is very fat and frankly they overfeed him. He has the run of the house and back patio he go out on and watch birds in the backyard. Last week mom and dad told DD#1 that they were thinking about staying home because they don't want to leave the cat. Their excuse was that the cat isn't used to being home alone. Me, my brother and my SIL were a bit upset about this but we calmly talked to them about it again and they seemed fine with the arrangements after that chat. Monday they told DGD#2 they weren't sure they were going to go because they don't want to leave the cat. Now, don't get me wrong, we love animals. I have four cats and my brother has two but at this point we are trying to understand what exactly is going on. They say they want to attend the wedding but don't want to leave the cat alone. I know my nephew will be upset if his grandparents don't attend his wedding. My SIL thinks there is some sort of anxiety issue going on about the situation and they are using the cat as an excuse. My brother went over last night and talked to them about it again, trying to figure what's really going on. They kept repeating they want to attend the wedding but are worried about leaving the cat alone. My brother went so far as to offer to get a pet sitter or ask DD#2 to stay at the house (answer was no, they don't want a stranger in the house and they don't want DD#2 to go out of her way). He also put together a detailed itinerary of all the dates, times and activities and gave it to them, thinking they might be anxious because they don't know exactly what is happening when. They will know nearly everyone at the wedding. They've vacationed in the area many times before and are very familiar with it. They've even stayed at the BnB we are all staying at. We've done everything we can think of to alleviate their anxiety about leaving the cat. The anxiety over the cat is relatively new and we need to get them into a doctor about it but that probably won't happen before the wedding next week. My brother is going to call their PCP today (he has medical POA) to see if anything can be done between now and then. (I'm thinking a couple of valium are in order! J/K) At this moment they are still planning on attending the wedding but I'm afraid I'll show up to pick them up next Thursday and they will have changed their minds again. And, no the cat cannot go with us. I don't have room in my car for a cat in a carrier and the BnB doesn't allow pets. The city we are going to is in a high tourist area and hotels have been booked for months so there is not an option to change hotels at this late date without a lot of expense. I'm hoping that they will just get in the car and enjoy themselves. Your parents are old and would rather stay home. There is nothing wrong with with that. What is wrong is forcing people to do things in the name of "family". Just because they don't want to go doesn't mean they don't love their grandson. And if the grandson is upset because two old people don't want to travel 6 hours away that's just selfish. Honestly, it's you and your brother who are causing the anxiety not the cat. Your whole post is about how everyone else feel. You are not taking into consideration how your parents feel. And you want to drag almost 90yr olds to the doctor because they don't want to travel. Just stop and let them be. Yes, that is possible but mom bought a new dress and dad a new suit. I took mom shopping and she was very excited that she found something she really liked. They have made comments they are excited to go until a few weeks ago. They've said several time they want to see the area again because they haven't been there in a few years. I really think something else is going on and they just aren't telling us.
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Post by miyooper2b on Jul 13, 2023 17:07:41 GMT
It may be that one of them has a body that has "turned on them." DH is age 84. He quit traveling (even a few hours) to visit and absolutely would not fly to see our son. I finally figured it out--he now has the need to use the toilet giving him very little notice and he is afraid he won't get to the restroom or find a restroom in time. We had not considered this. I will mention it to my brother.
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Post by miyooper2b on Jul 13, 2023 14:07:51 GMT
This is vent. I know I can safely post this here and get it off my chest.
Background - My apologies if this gets long.
My nephew (my brother's only son) is getting married next week to a very lovely woman. The whole family is very happy for them and ecstatic about the wedding. Our family is very small and this is the first wedding since DD#1 got married nearly 20 years ago. Nephew is very close to my parents, his grandparents.
The wedding is nine hours from me and six hours from my parents. This is not an issue, we've been planning to attend since Nephew and Fiancé announced their engagement more than two years ago. BnB reservations were made nearly a year ago. This is in a high tourist area and hotels are expensive and fill up quickly.
Currently the plan is for me and DH to drive to my parents, pick them up and drive them to the city where the wedding will be held. Wedding is on a Friday. Saturday there are family events planned including a brunch, opening of the wedding presents and touring the newlywed's new home. We will drive home on Sunday.
Mom and dad have a cat that they spoil even more than the grandkids. The cat is a very good cat, does not have any anxiety issues and is very laid back. They have left the cat at home in the past, with someone coming in to feed him, back when they had a motorhome and would be gone for a week or more, several times a year. However, they haven't traveled for about five years, partly due to covid and partly due to their age (middle 80's). They do have some minor medical issues but nothing that prevents them from attending the wedding and enjoying themselves.
The issue:
Starting a few weeks ago mom and dad started saying they were worried about leaving the cat. My brother and I kept telling them that the cat will be fine. DD#2 will coming daily to feed the cat after she gets off of work. DD#2 just got a new job and can't take time off for the wedding so this worked out perfect. The last couple of times I've visited they kept talking about leaving the cat and we kept assuring them the cat will be fine for three days. No, he won't be constantly fed snacks or fed milk at 5:00 a.m. but he will be getting fed everyday. The cat is very fat and frankly they overfeed him. He has the run of the house and back patio he go out on and watch birds in the backyard.
Last week mom and dad told DD#1 that they were thinking about staying home because they don't want to leave the cat. Their excuse was that the cat isn't used to being home alone. Me, my brother and my SIL were a bit upset about this but we calmly talked to them about it again and they seemed fine with the arrangements after that chat. Monday they told DGD#2 they weren't sure they were going to go because they don't want to leave the cat.
Now, don't get me wrong, we love animals. I have four cats and my brother has two but at this point we are trying to understand what exactly is going on. They say they want to attend the wedding but don't want to leave the cat alone. I know my nephew will be upset if his grandparents don't attend his wedding.
My SIL thinks there is some sort of anxiety issue going on about the situation and they are using the cat as an excuse. My brother went over last night and talked to them about it again, trying to figure what's really going on. They kept repeating they want to attend the wedding but are worried about leaving the cat alone. My brother went so far as to offer to get a pet sitter or ask DD#2 to stay at the house (answer was no, they don't want a stranger in the house and they don't want DD#2 to go out of her way).
He also put together a detailed itinerary of all the dates, times and activities and gave it to them, thinking they might be anxious because they don't know exactly what is happening when. They will know nearly everyone at the wedding. They've vacationed in the area many times before and are very familiar with it. They've even stayed at the BnB we are all staying at. We've done everything we can think of to alleviate their anxiety about leaving the cat.
The anxiety over the cat is relatively new and we need to get them into a doctor about it but that probably won't happen before the wedding next week. My brother is going to call their PCP today (he has medical POA) to see if anything can be done between now and then. (I'm thinking a couple of valium are in order! J/K)
At this moment they are still planning on attending the wedding but I'm afraid I'll show up to pick them up next Thursday and they will have changed their minds again.
And, no the cat cannot go with us. I don't have room in my car for a cat in a carrier and the BnB doesn't allow pets. The city we are going to is in a high tourist area and hotels have been booked for months so there is not an option to change hotels at this late date without a lot of expense. I'm hoping that they will just get in the car and enjoy themselves.
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I called and talked to my brother and we discussed the various comments made here. We agreed that there may be something else going on of which we aren't aware. I called mom and dad after that conversation and had a frank talk with them about this trip. They have always been open with us about their medical issues so I was confident we'd get to the bottom of this.
Turns out it's really just about the cat and not about any hidden medical issues. They are excited to attend the wedding and unless something catastrophic happens they plan on being there. They have no problem with the drive, the activities or the crowd.
So I asked what was it about the cat that was causing them to make these comments? They said they are afraid the cat will be lonely, and they worry because he's only getting fed once a day, not twice and that he won't get his morning milk. So their going to ask my elderly aunt to come over in the morning and give the cat his milk and breakfast. I offered to hire a cat sitter but they don't want a stranger in the house. I guess if my aunt is okay with this and it makes my parents feel better we'll just roll with it.
I would like to address a comment that was made by someone saying she would be pissed if her kids had called her doctor over this. Mom's sodium levels dropped very low a couple of years ago and she ended up in the hospital for a week. It was very serious. She had been acting a little odd before this but we didn't catch on right away to the seriousness of the issue. Mom and dad's PCP had asked my brother to contact her if either of them started acting out of character so that there would not be a repeat of that episode. We felt this seemed out of character and that is why my brother was going to call their PCP. As far as we are concerned, better safe than sorry.
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Post by miyooper2b on Jun 28, 2023 13:06:28 GMT
I live in central Indiana and it's bad here. I've never seen it like this. We have moved into the Very Unhealthy range, too.
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Post by miyooper2b on Apr 14, 2023 17:26:09 GMT
My FIL died from it after working with asbestos for years in the Navy. He got a large settlement which has helped my MIL maintain her lifestyle. My FIL wasn't able to keep up with his treatments and went downhill quickly. He was was in his 80's at the time and it took them months to figure out what was wrong. By the time they did he was stage 4. I'll say a prayer for your family.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 13, 2023 19:10:40 GMT
There's lots of useful suggestions here but one I second is finding your why. You know why I exercise and try to eat healthy? I don't want to lose a leg due to complications of diabetes like my grandfather. I don't want to want to lose my eyesight because of diabetes like my aunt. I don't want to be fragile and worry about breaking a bone trying to get out of a chair like my mom. I want to be healthy, strong and disease free in my elder years. My dad is going down the same path as my grandfather and he doesn't see it and it worries me. But that is not going to me! I want to keep up with my grandchildren and bug my kids when I'm in my 80's, not sitting on a couch waiting to take my next pill/shot/etc. Find your why, it helps to make it easier to do what you need to do to stay healthy.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 1, 2023 19:56:15 GMT
Several years ago I pared things down and had a capsule wardrobe and really liked it. Then I got away from it and now my closet is packed with too much stuff. So I decided to try it again but the weather here is not cooperating with my intended clothing choices. Yesterday the high was 38, Friday it's supposed to be 24 and next week we are supposed to be in the middle to upper 50's. If the temps keep going up and down like this I'm going to have to have both winter and spring clothes together. Plus I am postmenopausal and hot flashes are a big part of my life so layering is a must. Argh! So frustrating. Just my first world vent for the day.
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Post by miyooper2b on Dec 5, 2022 14:32:04 GMT
As stated above even if you tried to return it, the store will likely not have any way to do that since everything says the order was cancelled.
I ran into a similar situation with some dresses I ordered from Macy's. I ordered four very fancy dresses for a black tie event with the intent of taking back the ones I didn't like. I received two of each of dress with the exact same order number. I took back three dresses from my original order and the four from the duplicate order. The customer service rep could not figure out how to return the duplicates since it wasn't a different order number. Forty five minutes later, two supervisors and a call to their support center did not resolve the situation so one of the supervisors told me to just keep the extra dresses. They were quite expensive dresses, around $200.00 each. So I ended up with four extra dresses. I donated two of them and kept two.
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Post by miyooper2b on Oct 24, 2022 12:45:48 GMT
Just wanted to post that I am in Anderson. We're about 30 miles apart! Congrats on the new gig!
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Post by miyooper2b on Sept 9, 2022 13:43:27 GMT
I work on a board for a not-for-profit. There are five officers and we are all volunteers. Two of us know what we are doing (me as VP and our treasurer), the others are disorganized and apparently did not pay any attention when they were trained for their positions. It drives me crazy that they don't know even the basics of their jobs. I know they are doing the best they can and I have to keep thinking "we are all volunteers, we are all volunteers". One more year of this and I am done, thank goodness.
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Post by miyooper2b on Jul 19, 2022 15:58:11 GMT
We do something similar with a group. We only do dinners (breakfast and lunch on your own) and everyone does one meal, whatever you want. We do have one member who has a food allergy so we try to work around that. However, she always has brings something she can eat just in case she can't have what's prepared. FTR she doesn't ask us to do that but we still try to as a courtesy.
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Post by miyooper2b on May 24, 2022 12:56:46 GMT
I have three different ones I support with $5.00 per month. One podcaster and two Youtubers. All are health-related and they are all very good about putting out extra content for their subscribers. Sometimes I can't keep up on it all!
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Post by miyooper2b on Apr 6, 2022 12:53:45 GMT
I wash mine weekly. I wear makeup almost every day and I like to have clean brushes. I change my eye shadow colors seasonally. I go with darker colors in the fall and winter and lighter ones for spring and summer.
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Post by miyooper2b on Mar 8, 2022 14:21:22 GMT
Get your act together and stop trying to do everything yourself! You're the president and should be delegating most of the work. This is why you have officers, chairs and committees. You need to start planning ahead. You keep trying to do everything at the last minute and think it will work out. It hasn't more times than not. Everyone in our group can see how unorganized you are. We've got people who are thinking about leaving because of your incompetence. Get it together or resign before you do more harm.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 22, 2022 19:50:15 GMT
I use the app on my smart tv. I have a Fire Stick TV. I don't have a tread or bike but use it a lot for strength training and HIIT workouts. I love it.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 21:30:06 GMT
Is he not working because he is on disability? What is his disability? In my state, I have heard of parents trying to move out of state and they can't without permission from the other parent. I believe there is a certain number of miles that they can move. These days 50/50 is more of the norm so she shouldn't plan on having full custody unless she can prove that he is unfit, which is actually usually quite difficult. He is on 50% disability for a back problem. He has been told he can work with some accommodations (no lifting over so many lbs., etc.) but that leaves a lot of jobs that he could be doing. He's attempted to go back to school to get a degree four times and never made it past the first few weeks. He told me he wants a desk job or a management job (aka Eddie in Christmas Vacation) but he doesn't seem to want to put the work in to get to that place. I understand that it is likely DD may have to remain there. It just pisses me off!
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 21:20:36 GMT
I’m sorry but no - a lack of job does NOT make one unfit - he’ll claim he’s the primary care giver while she worked - I’ve seen it - working mothers absolutely lose custody and his lack of a job will not help her case Sadly, this isn't going to be easy for your DD to get everything she wants. Is his family involved with the girls? They have been providing the phone plan and might not be too keen to see their granddaughters move across the country. I've seen this before where a guy doesn't get their act together until they are served divorce papers. They don't understand why their wife won't work it out and the fact they've been unhappy for years, asking for changes, etc., just goes over their head. I am sorry your DD is in this battle and hope she gets a lawyer ASAP. Yes his family is involved and has helped them out quite a bit financially (car, cell phone, rent, food). However, DD says they are finally starting to see exactly what kind of person SIL is and have told him they will not be providing any more financial help. My guess is that they don't want the DGDs to leave as much as we want them home, so I don't know how that will play out.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 21:07:59 GMT
Um... I'm not defending this specific guy but what the hell? A dad who doesn't work is an unfit parent? No. I'm thinking more along the lines of can't keep a stable job not doesn't work and kicks it on the couch with his homies all the time. My DH "doesn't work" for the last 11 years since we started having kids. He's been a kick ass SAHD. Now that both kids are back in school he's back working. He's a general contractor/home builder so self employed. See I'd be okay with him being a SAHD. He stays home but doesn't do anything. He wasn't prepping dinner, doing dishes, helping with homework, nothing. DD has been doing it all. DD also got a truancy letter from the school because he was failing to get DGD10 on the bus on time and she wouldn't make it to school. DD had to change her work hours so she would be home to make sure DGD got on the bus.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 21:01:23 GMT
Im really really sorry - I have no clue what state you’re in and custody is always state specific but she needs to find the absolute best attorney yesterday. Working women losing custody is a very very real thing - he wants custody for child support / ok I don’t know him he MAY want custody for child support - but I’ve seen it and she needs to tread extremely carefully. This was my exact thought too. She would have to pay him if the girls remain with him. If I were her, I would remain in that state rather than give up my children. Getting a good attorney will make all the difference. She can show his lengthy history of not working and only getting job once she decided to divorce him. I so hope she can get permission to move to your area. Did they start out in your state? How long have they lived in that area? If he wasn't working, what was keeping them in that area? Too bad she didn't force a move to your state before letting him know she wanted a divorce. Relocating shouldn't have mattered to him since he wasn't working anyway. He might be afraid of having to pay child support if she takes the girls with her. Maybe she can make a deal to release him from child support obligations if he allows her to move back to where family is located. I know that doesn't sound fair, but at least it would give her bargaining power to get to move home. She will stay if he gets custody. She won't leave the girls. They were in the army for a few years and then settled in Michigan (where me, my ex and the rest of the family live). They moved to Oregon because his mom lives there and he kept insisting they would have better access to VA benefits. He hasn't had a job since they moved to OR and only worked for about 6 months when they lived here.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 20:56:42 GMT
Have her start gathering documentation now. Financial documents, any documents hat show who takes the girls to Drs appointments, who participated in IEP meetings who takes them to therapy, who participates in meetings with teachers. Find a lawyer bow and follow their advice. There is a very real risk she’ll be ordered to stay within x number of miles of him. I have her working on it now. I'm fairly certain I'll be helping with the attorney bills.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 20:54:21 GMT
I am really sorry that your daughter is going through this right now. I liked your post because I want you to know that I read it thoroughly. I understand why you and her stepmother want to go out and get her. And depending on the state if he wants to really cause problems; he can make it so that his daughters don’t leave the county unless he gives written permission. I know that’s what happens in California. Your daughter needs to get an attorney as soon as possible. She needs to have it documented that her DH does not care about his daughter being on an IEP or helping her. She also needs to document that he has not worked in six years. What type of work can he do? If it’s a tech job he will have no problem getting one. He was in the Army for a few years and had a license to drive to trucks. I'm fairly certain he let it lapse.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 18, 2022 19:32:46 GMT
This is just a rant.
DD40 called yesterday and let me know she is getting a divorce. They've been married 13 years and have two kids, 10 and 6. It has been a long time coming. Our family has felt she should have left him years ago. SIL hasn't had a job in 6 years, plays video games all night and sleeps all day. He does get some disability payments but it's not much. DD works full time while trying to go to school, and takes care of DGDs. They live 3000 miles away from me and the rest of the family.
DD wants to move home. She can easily get a job (she's in the medical field) and she can temporarily move in with my ex. My ex's wife works PT and has very flexible hours and has offered to watch the two DGDs for free as needed. DD and SIL have already agreed on how to separate their property (they don't have much and live paycheck to paycheck). BUT good-for-nothing SIL has decided he wants custody of the DGDs. He says DD can move home without them and they can visit during the summer. What??? Of course DD wants to move the DGDs back home with her.
This POS doesn't have a job and has made no effort to get one until just this week. No job, no healthcare, no money. DGD10 has an IEP and is in therapy. DD doesn't think SIL will follow through with either because he thinks things like that are BS. DD wants to keep things amicable but I don't see how that will happen.
Stepmom and I would like to fly out, pack up DD and DGDs and fly them back home now. FTR we won't really do that because we know that would probably backfire on DD, it's just how we feel. But I am now worried that some judge will say POS SIL can have the kids and DD will be forced to stay there. She can't afford to live there on her own, the COL is astronomical. They were barely getting by as it was.
I've already told DD to get a lawyer ASAP. Luckily they already have separate bank accounts and she is getting a different cell phone today (she is on a plan paid for by SILs mom). It just pissed me off that POS SIL has just now decided he wants to try and be responsible when he had years to do so and didn't! Stepmom and I think it's a ploy to get DD to stay. I'm afraid it's going to get very messy, very quickly. My heart aches for her and I want her and the kids home!
I just needed to get this out. Rant over.
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miyooper2b
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 15, 2022 18:17:22 GMT
I have never received a thank you for attending a funeral nor have I ever sent one to people attending my family funerals. We've only sent a thank you note to those that sent flowers, provided food or some sort of service (like the pall bearers). I personally have never heard of sending a thank you to every single person that attended.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 8, 2022 18:43:28 GMT
I re-watched all three seasons late last fall. I'm really looking forward to the new season.
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Post by miyooper2b on Feb 2, 2022 16:30:40 GMT
I've been looking at stand mixers. I have a couple of recipes that would be easier to make if I had one but I am not intending on doing a lot of baking or bread making. I know that Kitchen Aid is the gold standard of stand mixers, however, I don't want to spend that kind of money on one and frankly, don't think I need one. I could keep using my hand mixer (which works just fine for what I do) but a stand mixer would be kind of nice. So if you something besides a Kitchen Aid I'd really like to hear your thoughts on what you have. Thanks!
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